Having An Affair With An Older Married Man

I was in a relationship with a man 30 years my senior. His wife was the same...using him to pay her huge credit card bills, always fighting everywhere she worked, slept in separate rooms but he did not leave her for me ! This is what I was told and experienced, I'll tell you the same thing...Most of them will NOT leave their wife and family. People like you and me get used or get ourselves used because when we love, we love. Just because we don't betray that doesn't mean others are same. You just have to be stronger and move ahead. Its hard but I am doing the same.

I have been dating a married man (12 yrs. my senior) for 11 months and I totally feel the lonliness and isolation BUT he has been in a sexless marriage for 3 yrs. of their 39 yr. marriage. We will both b leaving Together in 6 months to start our New Life ( we have plane tix and a new home elsewhere)....as for her, even everyone in our little community is surprised he even STAYED with her for this long... she is a lunatic and screams and yells CONSTANTLY !!! His 32 yr old son even tells his dad that he should leave that situation (Its his own mother and he understands !) So , until u have all the details, its hard to know if it will work out ! Finishing up dividing assets and We're Outta Here !!! Lifes too short to b MISERABLE !!!

The 1st year...yeah he'll say he will sort things out with 'her'. Wait till you reach the 3rd year (like me ;)) then you'll realise that when reality comes to play, they chicken out and usually wont have the guts to do it. It's sad I know, I feel cheated only God knows. Dont want to keep your hopes up, but hopefully all works well for you. Good luck!

Well I see a couple RED flags!! the obvious one is that you're interfering with a marriage. You obviously have given a lot up for this relationship but you need to realize that in the end THEY NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES only exception would be Bragelina lol. Every movie with this similar plot always ends up with the mistress in the dust and the married couple working out ways to fix the relationship after the affair. i think that the guy loves you but he loves his wife too and its not fair for him to be taking advantage of both you and his spouse at the same time. He may say he will divorce his wife but look its been a year what is he waiting for. I think you really just need to tell him it is ME or HER give him that ultimatum cuz if he really truly loved he would either let you go or divorce his wife.