Im In Love With a Married Man

My situation started at work also when I first started I didn't even notice him I was strung on sum other fool who was dogging me out and then after a while he caught my eye we started flirting and he told me he was married for 19 years and i should of ran then but i didn't,we slept together and he would call me all the time send m e texts at work and gave me all the attention in the world then i told him how i felt about him and he slowly started distancing his self from me he would still do all those things just not as frequently,sometimes his whole attitude would change and i would actually cry at work,now he really doesn't call that much and i am so in love with him i got fired and he is really tripping,he says i am looking for a relationship and he is not whatever that means i don't know what to do anymore,i am not ready to let him go

ummadyme ummadyme
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4 Responses Feb 27, 2009

I was in a similar situation this man could charm the panties off of a nun! He told his wife bc he was afraid I was going to do it! I miss him so much and I am in love with him!! The heartache is not worth the few months of sex!!!!

You have put yourself in a horrible situation and nothing good will come of it but more pain and misery. Take yourself out of his equation quickly, and start working on yourself. Find another activity to take your mind away from this. <br />
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I was in a very similar situation. I found out later the guy that I was "madly in love with" had been with lots of other unsuspecting younger girls and fed them the same bull. I would bet you weren't the first or the last "other woman", in fact he sounds like a pro at it. <br />
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He just wanted the physical quickie and not anything more. <br />
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Further more, How do you think his wife would feel if she found out about all this?How would you feel if you were in her position? Sometimes it helps to put yourself in her shoes. <br />
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And yes...He probably told you all the bad things about her, if he even mentioned her at all. Men like this are "serial cheaters", trust me on this one. <br />
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If you didn't get pregnant and you don't have a disease from him, consider yourself lucky. Live and learn from this one and don't allow yourself to do this again. Respect yourself enough to find someone that will be real. You will NEVER get what you want from a married-man except heartache and low self worth after they are done with you. <br />
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To be blunt...He used you in every sense of the word and now he doesn't give a crap about your feelings, is this someone that is worth while? <br />
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You may not forget all the good feelings you had, those feelings were not genuine on his part - just words to get you in bed - he is a smooth talker - many of them are. <br />
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They know just what to say to make a girl feel special, swept off her feet really, but they are like used car salesmen, phony!<br />
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Do yourself a favor, move on to bigger and better things, you deserve it girl!

When you are playing with fire you will get burnt. <br />
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You were just his plaything. I know. I was once in the same boat (kind of still am). <br />
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You need to get him out of your life. But you need to do it slowly (as you say you are not ready to let him go). <br />
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Or else accept whatever he is willing to 'give you'. I see mine once every few weeks, it's hard, but I don't want to let him go either.<br />
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Look after yourself.

Are you serious? He says youR looking for a realtionship because you got fired? Hes having two. Hes having his cake and eating it to.