Just would like to hear others stories about how hard this is...even though I know I shouldn't be doing it. He has never promised me that he would leave his wife...we are very realistic with each other. He is everything that I am looking for in a man, with the exception of already being married. He doesn't complain about his marriage, and has never said a bad word about his wife. He is kind to me, and has taken the time to get to know me better than any man ever has. I have not put my life on hold for him, I am still actively searching for a man that will be available to me all the time. I know that I deserve better and so does his wife. My previous relationship ended very badly...and to be honest, I like the fact that I have my independence most of the time without being completely alone. He is very attractive, and successful...and it sounds like a cliche' - but I know he loves me...and the feeling is mutual.