Seeing A Married Man

I have read several posts on this subject and it turns out that I have heard all the same lines of bull.... He started with he won't leave her, then it turned into if he leaves her, then when he leaves her and now we are back to if.. I have met his wife and not all men a lying when they say that they are treated badly. I have not only seen her treat him like a piece of crap but I have heard her say things to him and about him in public that should only be said in a private argument (if you want to be that cruel). I am also aware of that fact that she has cheated on him more than once. It seems to me that niether one of them are happy and the kids are grown so they should just call it quits so they can both be happy.

sadees69 sadees69
46-50, F
3 Responses Nov 9, 2009

If he really wanted to leave her, he would have by now. Sounds like he's just telling you what he thinks you want to hear. I know you can't help the way you feel, but maybe it's time to start trying to break away from him.

Leaving is a big commitment but if you think about it what other statement would tell you what you want to know. If he doesn't have a big enough pair to leave her for you when she is obviously so wrong for him ....well is he worth it?

Should leave her and will leave her are two different things. People stay in miserable marriages for a variety of reasons and sometimes why they chose to stay doesn't always seem to make sense. Still, it is a choice. It is up to you or whoever is in that situation to decide if they want to stick around. Just be honest with yourself and realize that men rarely leave their wives for the "other woman." It happens, but it is rare, regardless of all the "good" reasons they have to leave.