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I Am Dating a Married Man

So Your Dating A Married Man...me Too

By: Bucklebabe85
Written on February 13th, 2010

I've always seemed to get involved with Married men. Ever since I was 19. I got out of a 3 year non-married man relationship and now find myself dating another married man. 

Its interesting...I usually don't find them...they usually find me.....

 

I think the biggest thing about dating a married man is understanding exactly what is going on. You have to be slightly hard hearted to successfully date someone who is married. 

 

You have to set ground rules immediately. Here is my list:

1. No talking about the wife once its established that you are in fact married. I don't want to know about how the other day she was driving you crazy. I don't want to know how she is frigid in bed. Details I don't want or need to know. 

2. Communication is necessary. I always say upfront that there will inevitably come a point where one or the other of us wants things to end. That is fine lets just make sure we are all clear about it. 

3. Don't tell me you love me. I don't want to hear that. You love your wife. I'm okay with that. 

4. Don't tell me you will leave your wife for me. You won't. If you decide at some point to leave her that's your choice. Don't tell me anything about it until you've actually filed for divorce. And even so I may not want to be that serious with you so don't leave her for me. 

5. I will see other people. This is a dead end. You can not be so greedy and expect me to see only you. I'm sharing you. You have to put up with sharing me. 

I have found that if I can follow the above rules dating a married man has many advantages. I don't have to answer to him. The sex is typically AMAZING. I can walk away with no harm no foul at any time I choose. I have a back up while looking for someone I want to be serious about. 

So hats off to all the OW out there. 

By: Bucklebabe85
Age: 22-25 , Female
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  • keke49
    keke49

    he takes me on trips and he takes her also. when we started dating, he told me never go with some1 who cant make better 4 u.......I repeat, it all comes with mature understanding.

    3 days ago
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  • keke49
    keke49

    I have been dating a married man for almost 2yrs. we have an understanding despite he acts jealous if I say I'm into some1 else. I know his wife and he is a prominant man where I'm from and I never had thoughts about him leavin his wife because I enjoy what we have now. I know her I speak to her I have no problem with her but once there is no1 after me, there is no problem. he told me he is in love with me first and I went along with it. I do love him, the sex is AMAZING. he never ill talk his wife and I dont also. to me, it all comeswith maturity. its not a godly thing to partake in but we cant help who we fall 4, just know that karma is a *****.

    3 days ago
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  • Aussiemistress
    Aussiemistress

    Totally totally agree with all comments.

    Keeping the heart under lock and key is a MUST. If he thinks he is in love with you/me then simple. Get a divorce. But..... You cheated on your wife with me, there isno guarantee you won't do same to me???

    Feb 20, 2012
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  • Bucklebabe85
    Bucklebabe85

    I would agree with the clear headed but part of that to a degree is keeping the heart under lock and key. That's when these types of situations get ugly is when you wear your heart on your sleeve. Either way I am in agreement.

    Feb 28, 2010
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  • lt22t
    lt22t

    I love this. Finally someone who forthrightly acknowledges why she’s involved with a married guy. And the answer is … (gasp!) because she LIKES it and gets pleasure out of it. Not because she “can’t help herself” or he “kept insisting he’d leave his wife” and she foolishly believed him.



    This must be illegal, immoral, and sacrilegious. Of course it is – just ask any advice columnist in any mainstream fishwrap; they’ll clue you in -- It will END BADLY; you will end up GETTING HURT; unmarried relationships NEVER WORK. Really? I guess nobody told the French, who seem to have institutionalized the practice without any great detriment to the institution of marriage (check out the photo of Mitterrand’s wife and mistress standing side-by-side at his funeral, along with his sons and “illegitimate” daughter). And their divorce rate is much lower than ours.



    Not hard-hearted, just clear-headed – too much so for most of our current mainstream culture to tolerate, unfortunately, which clings desperately to the fiction that it’s normal and healthy to expect two people to totally, completely, and exclusively satisfy each other’s every need for their entire adult lives. My theory is it’s a government conspiracy to keep us all in a constant state of sexual and emotional repression so we’ll work harder at our jobs just to relieve the frustration. Why not; it worked for the Puritans.



    More power to you, and enjoy the ride.

    Feb 26, 2010
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