Heartbroken By A Married Man
Here's my story: I met a married man online playing cards. We exchanged email addresses to forward jokes, etc. Eventually, we ended up playing online cards together every night. I knew he was married but we became fast friends. Neither of us intended to fall in love but we did. Six months after meeting online, we met in person. As most women say, I didn't think I'd ever do anything like this. It was against everything I believed. I couldn't help how I had fallen for him but in hindsight, I should have told him that he's married and walked away.
After 3 years, I finally ended it 2 days ago. My heart is so broken. I really thought he would leave his wife for me....like he said he would. We split up and got back together 5 times. I gave him so many chances because I loved him. I know that he loved me too....but not enough to leave his wife and job. I heard every excuse there was to give on why he was still there......his wife threatened to commit suicide, his wife threatened to burn down the house, his wife thought she was having a heart attack, the weather is bad, his kids (grown and on their own) was threatening to not ever talk to him again, his boss wants him to stay to train his replacement, my mother-in-law is in the hospital, give me some time to figure out my finances/bills....and plenty more. Well, 2 days ago, he ran out of excuses.....so, he said he was confused on what to do. So, I made it easy for him and told him that I was done with the broken promises and excuses so stay with your wife. I am so heartbroken but I should have seen this coming a long time ago. I should have ended things the first time he said he was moving here and didn't. I can honestly say that I will NEVER date another married man again. I want a man that I can call my own. It is such an emotional rollercoaster. It's exciting at first but that wears off. It's a long lonely road when you can't see him whenever you want, call him when you want, and wonder what he's doing while you're at home alone. So, anyone who's starting a relationship with a married man....run the other way!!! He is going to tell you AND his wife, everything you want to hear......so he can have his cake and eat it too. He will string you along with promises for as long as he can. So, as long as you keep that door open for him, he will walk through it. Believe me, I lived it for 3 years.
I remember reading somewhere that if a married person leaves their spouse for someone else, it will be within the first 6 months or it will probably never happen. I waited for him to leave his wife for 2 years and it never happened. I deserve better and once I pick up the pieces of my heart, I know that there is someone single out there that will treat me the way I deserve.
If this opens up just one person's eyes, I will have accomplished something with my story. For those that chose to stay with their married men, good luck....you're going to need it.