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Dating A Drummer

Hi! I am completely in love with an amazing guy who is working towards becoming a professional drummer. We have been dating for 2 and a half years. He is graduating soon from college and is looking into different areas like the Navy bands, cruise ships, gigging in cities, etc. We love each other, but often get stressed out about the fact that I still have 2 years of college left. As musicians yourselves, what advice could you give me to help this situation? What can I do to support him and show him that we can still be together? Music is his life and I completely understand that, because I play Euphonium and piano, even though music is not my profession. The fact that he loves music is one of the reasons that I love him. I just want to show him that I can be a part of his life too without him having to give up music. I just kind of want a view from the perspective of a musician of what you would want from a girlfriend in this situation.
Elnida Elnida 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 21, 2012

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I am dating a muso. He never takes me out except to watch him. Our lives revolve around weather he is playing or not. They usually drink or do drugs while at gigs and practice. I would like him to come on holidays with me but he hasa gig so I am taking a friend instead. The band takes ages to pack set up, travel and pack up. The other band girlfriends are awesome and having some singing and stage experience myself I understand the stage fright ordeals, constant need for practice and I do help him practice at home. I am not going to his next gig, its too cold to sit outdoors in a beergarden for eight hours for me and I either pay for accomodation or have to be the nominated driver because I can guarantee he will be drunk. Any time he feels like partying and anouncing a jam at my place I know I will cop 8 hours of listening to the same music I did 2 days ago. This doesn't seem to end, my partner is 52 and still chasing the dream. It makes him what he is and I love him dearly. You may need to keep an open mind and be very patient with him and be an honest critic. Being broke seems to come with the territory. Have fun and hang on for the ride, be supportive not a cling on lol