The Widower I Want To Woo Me...

We met on and have been dating for two months. He lost his wife just six months ago after a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. We are both in our 50's.

He has been attentive, reliable, treats me with respect and kindess. We've shared many belly laughs together and we both enjoy and love to play backgammon together. He has asked me out for every single Saturday night since we met. (There are other nights we get together, too)

I have met his adult daughter and her fiance. (She is from his marriage then ended in divorce.) And I have introduced him to my son and some of my friends. They all agree that he's a 'keeper' and a good man.

My problem (if you'd call it that) is that I am developing strong feelings for him and am afraid that I may be just a 'rung' in his ladder until he feels ready to make a commitment again. We have not had any 'exclusive' relationship discussions and I know that he is still on this site.

I have been divorced for over 4 1/2 years, have had many great dates and met some very good guys. I truly like this mans character, intelligence, and charm. We have great chemistry and are comfortable with each other. I am ready for a monogamous, loving relationship.

Is there a chance here? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.

Much love to all of you!
shesgotmoxie shesgotmoxie
46-50, F
2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

SGM....take it slow!

Enjoy the moment and love- take a chance!


Have that chat with him
See what says
If he good guy go with it what got lose?
Good luck
That's life !