I Am Dating a Younger Man
I just wanted to share my positive experience in dating a guy 4 years younger than me.
I am aware that on the surface, an 18 year old male & a 22 year old female doesn't seem to be very noteworthy. But I've sort of had the responsibilities of a mid-twenties woman for the past 5 years, so it really does seem, emotionally, like I am much older.
It started out very fast-paced & passionate. We said we loved each other less than 8 weeks in, & there was a lot of drama involving my health & living situation at the time. It's kind of always been dramatic & emotional. When we're apart we miss each other like crazy.
In the past, I had only dated people older than me. I grew up before my time & was robbed of my later teen years. Through my boyfriend, I feel I am able to relive them.
I don't think his or my age affects our relationship in any negative way, besides him not grasping 'what women want' in the way more experienced men might, & me exposing him to a world of bills, rent & paying your own way. But I think our differences make us stronger.
My therapist said that women should be dating younger men as we live to be older. I suppose that only really matters if you will both live as long as each other.
I do have insecurities though. I worry sometimes that I am far too serious in the relationship, & that he will wake up one day & realise he wants to experience more before settling down. I feel sometimes like I've stolen his youth. I love him so much, & I know he loves me. I just don't want to be another "first love" to somebody.
I am aware that on the surface, an 18 year old male & a 22 year old female doesn't seem to be very noteworthy. But I've sort of had the responsibilities of a mid-twenties woman for the past 5 years, so it really does seem, emotionally, like I am much older.
It started out very fast-paced & passionate. We said we loved each other less than 8 weeks in, & there was a lot of drama involving my health & living situation at the time. It's kind of always been dramatic & emotional. When we're apart we miss each other like crazy.
In the past, I had only dated people older than me. I grew up before my time & was robbed of my later teen years. Through my boyfriend, I feel I am able to relive them.
I don't think his or my age affects our relationship in any negative way, besides him not grasping 'what women want' in the way more experienced men might, & me exposing him to a world of bills, rent & paying your own way. But I think our differences make us stronger.
My therapist said that women should be dating younger men as we live to be older. I suppose that only really matters if you will both live as long as each other.
I do have insecurities though. I worry sometimes that I am far too serious in the relationship, & that he will wake up one day & realise he wants to experience more before settling down. I feel sometimes like I've stolen his youth. I love him so much, & I know he loves me. I just don't want to be another "first love" to somebody.
By:
sangariel
Age:
22-25
,
Female
