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I Am Dating An Older Man

14 Year Gap!

By: foxxymeeko
Written on May 14th, 2008
Age: 22-25 , Female
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  • diggrduggr

    The heart is ageless in it's dealings with love, follow your heart and not the minds of others. I am married to a much younger woman who fills my heart with joy and I her's. There is no guarantee's for tomorrow, make today a day to remember.

    Apr 27
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  • coollfunn

    You have found the truth, older men have a greater ability to have the knowledge to know how to love and make decisions. He knows how to protect and guide his family as a good husband needs to. There is 30 years difference between my husband and I. We first met when I was 16. We did not start dating until I was 19 and we are now married and have known and been together for 16 wonderful years
    All the best to you both. Be true to each other and love each other as if it might be the last day of your life and you will always be happy together.

    Jan 3
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  • CamLonic

    Our stories are eerily similar. I am currently 23 and my boyfriend is 37. We have been together for 3 years now and have talked about marriage in the future. He has already been married and divorced and has two kids from his previous marriage. I have talked about having a family, which an important issue with me.

    I have lost some friends along the way, due to my relationship with him. It's funny because, the same people who claimed to be friends of mine, have always been judgmental too. You are right in saying that it's about the two people. No one else is in the relationship, so no one's opinions should matter. My mother supports us being together and thinks that we are a good match. Age is a number. My mother has said to me that she doesn't understand how she got so old. I am feeling similarly as I look back on my life and all of my accomplishments.

    We live once on this earth and I feel like we should all be able to make our own decisions. We should be with the ones who love us and make us happy. True friendships know no bounds. I believe the same for romantic love.

    Nov 25, 2012
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  • agelessmate

    Many younger women are looking to date older yuys, mainly because older guys are relatively more successful in career and understand better how to treat their women. Many couples with age gap work out fine and get alone splendidly.
    Agelessmate is a club for older man dating younger woman.
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    Wish you will meet your true love on www.agelessmate.com

    Nov 6, 2012
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  • agelessmate

    Many younger women are looking to date older yuys, mainly because older guys are relatively more successful in career and understand better how to treat their women. Many couples with age gap work out fine and get alone splendidly.
    Agelessmate is a club for older man dating younger woman.
    Welcomt to www.agelessmate.com
    Wish you will meet your true love on www.agelessmate.com

    Nov 6, 2012
    1 like
  • Slingshot696

    In reference to JJJ24's post. What she says is worth listening to. I'm 53, my gf is newly 30. We have a great relationship because she doesn't "idolize" me and I work very hard at not "teaching" her stuff, but I can see it in her eyes when she discovers something "new" and finds out I've already "been there, done that". I hate that look of disappointment. So, we spend a lot of time doing things I've never done before, which suits another part of my nature: I love new experiences. So, my recommendation is, for anyone in this situation, to always seek out new experiences together. This might be something as simple as learning to ski together or as dramatic as moving to country you have never experienced before.

    Jun 5, 2012
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  • JJJ24

    and trust me when I tell you.... him always knowing more than you and teaching you will never go away... you will get tired of it. He won't be able to help himself because he has already gone through it and he wants to TEACH you... When your in your 30's you don't need a teacher for a husband you just need a HUSBAND. I speak to you with words of someone who is living it. I've been with him 15 years and this is a major issue in our marriage now. I'm 37 and he's 50. I am full of life and he's slowing down. I want to be adventurous and still feel full of life. It's very hard and I feel sometimes I didn't know what I was getting myself into. Be careful and think it through seriously!!! The excitement of being with an older man does go away honey.

    May 11, 2012
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  • JJJ24

    My husband and I are 13 years apart. Do not think that this will never be an issue in your marriage, because it will. You boyfriend is in his 30's now, when your in your 30's he will be in his 50's.... you should really know what you getting yourself into before you get any deeper. I know from EXPERIENCE!

    May 11, 2012
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  • ali818

    I am so happy that there are others out there in the same sort of situation! I am 17 and my partner is 30. There are 12 1/2 years between us and getting married on our 2 year anniversary. It has been so hard because of peer pressure and such but stories like these help me keep my head high and press on!

    Mar 1, 2012
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  • ali818

    I am so happy that there are others out there in the same sort of situation! I am 17 and my partner is 30. There are 12 1/2 years between us and getting married on our 2 year anniversary. It has been so hard because of peer pressure and such but stories like these help me keep my head high and press on!

    Mar 1, 2012
    1 like
  • letgoletgod123

    I am in somewhat of a relationship with a man who is 15 years older than me. We have been on one date, but we talk all the time. Pretty much every night. He already has about four different date ideas running around in his head (all of them are wonderful!). We went on our first date yesterday and we already have another date scheduled for next weekend. I am 21 and he's 36. He's had a bit of a sketchy past (which the parents are concerned about), but he has been completely open and honest with me from the get go. I leave for basic training in May, so I am not sure where this will go, but where ever leads I am fairly certain it will be wonderful! He's a lot of fun and so easy to talk to. We like a lot of the same music, same movies and same things in general (mini golf is our next date and we are both psyched).

    Feb 26, 2012
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  • Robert648

    Dating or marring an older man gives you the benefit of someone who has experienced more, while you give him the feeling of youth, excitement and adventure. My wife of two years, dating for four is 15 years younger than I. So far so good. Any and all relationships are work so keep busy, communicate and stay in love. Good luck!

    Feb 19, 2012
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  • hairytimothy

    I am 52 and my wife is 37 and we are 14 years apart from each other and we love it.

    Feb 9, 2012
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  • GoneRogue

    Thanks ladies, you all give me hope, I'm also at the other end of the gap I'm 38 and she's 22, we met online a year ago and I we hope to meet each other for the first time face to face soon. I never thought it was possible but you prove it really can be.

    Aug 26, 2011
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  • queenbean

    I feel I am in the same situation, I'm currently seeing this guy who's 32 years old, he has 2 kids and I'm 19, and I honestly don't know what to do, because I do like him, a lot but I just got out of a rough patch with my family, and I feel like me being with him would roughen it back up. I'm really lost, I feel there's no way that this can work. But I do like him a lot. I'm just kinda scared that because he is 32 and he has 2 kids, he wants a relationship more than he wants me. I don't want to be a space filler, or arm candy, or a convenience, I want a connection, and I want someone who is able to still change and not accept his life as it is. Because eventually our paths are gonna be so far apart, hes a tattoo artist (not a very good one) and I'm in university, so one day our lives will be different and will tear us apart

    Jun 21, 2011
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  • Slingshot696

    I'm on the other side of that age gap. I'm 52 and dating a woman who is 28. We've been together for 8 months now and our relationship continues to get stronger. I almost never think about the difference in our ages since I'm not usually conscious of how others view me, or us when we're together. After several relationships, including a marriage of 30 years, this is the best relationship I've ever been in. Hopefully, the last.

    Jan 16, 2011
    4 likes
  • Forzie

    Props to everyone standing up for love and realizing that age is nothing but a number, compared to the feelings of your heart which mean everything

    Nov 7, 2010
    3 likes
  • MizzFox13

    Reading ur story and all the comments has really helped me open my eyes to my own relationship Im soon to be 25 in less then a wk my man is 40 (15 yr gap) we've been together for a year and a half , and I gotta say tho its been my best relationship sometimes I forget the "been there done that" fact . thank you for sharing ur stories ladies :)

    Sep 23, 2010
    4 likes
  • thanatophobic

    Hmm I don't know, I find myself being told "oh you haven't gotten to that point yet so I don't expect you to understand" thus, making comments that make me feel like a child next to a grown man.

    May 28, 2010
    3 likes
  • browneyes71000

    I fully understand this story has helped me I am 22 years old and I am dating a man that's 36 he's real good to me treats with respect I love him.

    May 8, 2010
    3 likes
  • kimba32

    wow, your story hit hard because this is EXACTLY whats going on in my life, i am almost twenty - dating the man of my dreams who is 33 going on 21. =] lol glad to hear your story good luck!

    Jan 24, 2010
    3 likes
  • blissfullyhappy

    Three Cheers to you!!!

    Apr 13, 2009
    2 likes
  • deewil

    age anit nothing but a number if you happy and hes happy , keep doing what you doing.

    Mar 29, 2009
    4 likes
  • BlackbirdAlly

    I am in your same boat, just maybe a couple years behind you.



    I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 32 and we have a 12 1/2 year age difference. But i've known him since I was 16 and he was 28 as we were both in the same group of friends, I was just the youngest one of the group and he was the oldest one. When I was 17 and moved out on my own to my own place (which turned out to be down the street from his place) we started fooling around (under my encouragement, not his) and we just clicked so well and it formed a very healthy relationship which anyone who knows us approves. We've been living together the past 2 years and we both have an excellent balance to each other. I Support You!

    Jul 18, 2008
    6 likes
  • risque

    I so agree here........been there done that is the best. I love to learn from my man.....we're 9 yrs apart (22 and 31) and I think it's a great distance. I honestly could not take another man who couldn't make any informed and smart decisions.We balance eachother out so well......I excite him and he calms me.....It's a very fulfulling relationship to be in..........

    Jul 4, 2008
    6 likes