I'm Dating An Aspie ManFor the past year I have been dating a sweet, loving man who I now believe has Asperger's. The problem is, he doesn't know it. He is 29 years old and has no friends, except for me, and hits most of the markers that I have found for the disease. About six months ago, when I approached him with the news, which I thought he would be excited about, he was less than receptive. As I have researched and learned more, I have come to realize that this trait, of needing time to process new ideas, is one that comes along with this disease. I had decided to leave it alone, because really, as long as I keep doing what I am doing, what does it matter?, but then recently he asked me to go into business with him. I told him yesterday that I can not do that unless he gets help and/or a diagnosis. He has had 4 jobs over the last 2 years, and has been sued by CC companies for forgetting to pay the bill. I know now that Aspie's have trouble managing money (I'm NT and I have trouble too!) and I have been encouraging him to get help so that he can get out of this lawsuit.
My question for you, my fellow Aspie daters, is this: should i push him a little bit on this? Or should I leave it alone? I can not risk my financial well being but I can continue the relationship. I have many questions for you but this one is most pertinent at the moment. Thank you!