My Situation Is A Bit DifferentMy husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer almost 2 years ago. He had surgery, began treatment and when he was down to his last 2, I found out he had been cheating on me with 3 women before he was diagnosed and throughout treatment. We separated, but are waiting on a court date for our divorce. He is on my health insurance now because he went on disability not long after that and lost his. We have both moved on and have other people in our lives, but there are no hard feelings and we get along pretty well for ex's. Now here's the kicker- He found out Wednesday he has stage 4 bone cancer in his spine. This creates a very sticky situation. If we divorce, I have to take him off my insurance. Hers isn't very likely to add him if he is in the middle of cancer treatment. That makes me his next of kin and responsible for his healthcare decisions should he become unable to make them. I know his wishes and would have no problem carrying them out should the need arise. It is all the other stuff that goes along with that I am having trouble with. That and the idea that we may never get the chance to get divorced. I don't want anything bad to happen to him!
How did this happen??? He wasn't supposed to get sick again so soon!! He was supposed to get the chance to be happy again and have grandbabies and grow old. I know he can survive, but this is his third bout with cancer in 5 years. I just don't think it is very likely. So how do I cope with all this? How do I deal with grief I really have no right to feel??