The Death Of My Brother

My brother who would have been 27 years old on july 1st died in a car accident on March 12 2010, I have never had to deal with anything like this and I keep turning to alcohol. To make matters worse I live about 3000 miles from all my family, I work on the border protecting our homeland and now I am worried something may happen to me and I can't do that to my family, I dunno what to do, I miss and love him so much his daughter will be 2 years old next month and I don't want to miss it but I can't get home, I just don't understand why this happened
jsaint jsaint
22-25, M
1 Response Jul 19, 2010

I am so sorry to hear about the death of your brother,please accept my heartfelt sympathy.A sudden death is a huge shock and throws the World as we perceive it upside down.<br />
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We feel vulnerable and frightened that it will happen again to us or another near relative.We find it hard to accept that a person we love can be here and then taken away so suddenly.<br />
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Coming to terms with a sudden death is a test of character and to lean on substances to take away the pain is not the best way,although we are all tempted to take the easy route.In the long term what appears to be the easy route can be the hardest.<br />
You have to find the strength within yourself to deal with your loss on a daily basis at first.It will help to talk to people who understand and have been through the same experience themselves.<br />
If you cant get home to see his daughter on her birthday then go and see her when you can,it will mean just as much to her and to you.Keep in regular contact with your family and friends and friends at ep are able to support and comfort you at the hardest times.<br />
There is a long journey of healing ahead for you and your family but you can all get through this.