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I Am Deeply In Love

How to Find True Love

By: CosiCeleste
Written on December 29th, 2007
Age: 36-40 , Female
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    kalapana

    the love is river which foll for ever !

    if river dry so v cant c water

    Jul 2, 2012
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    andy0227

    i can't forget her, i'm tired.. what should i do?

    May 22, 2012
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    innoc3nt

    Very well written! Hopefully someday I can love myself so I can love another.

    Apr 16, 2012
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    5hadow

    This is by far, the best I've seen on this subject. I've told my daughter, my G-d daughters and many other females, that in order to truly love, one must love themselves first (for how can you really give, that which you do not possess). Your words are eloquent yet poignant.



    This should be required reading for every adolescent both female AND male! The very least that should happen is, it ought to be made a "sticky"!



    Kudos!

    Mar 28, 2012
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    Angirsonl

    I'm in love with someone on here but she doesn't know

    Mar 26, 2012
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    Hazey12
    Nov 7, 2011
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    BonnMkII

    What a lovely story, thanks for sharing

    Oct 18, 2011
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    nathnp

    Very nice note on love. Love is really a teacher. When you love someone, you deeply attached with that person. This is actually a love for yourself. You get your comfort zone with that person and you love to continue that relationship. If at any point of time due to his mistake you lost him or her and never return back then you are hitting yourself. DON'T play this in Love.

    Sep 7, 2011
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    cheezelsandlemonade

    What an absolutely inspirational piece of writing.



    Thank you!

    Aug 5, 2011
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    PureOne3

    Beautiful Awareness of Love! Very accurate & valuable words!



    Everything, Everything is Composed of The Substance of Love! As It Becomes Aware of ItSelf WithIn, It Transmutes~Transforms & Transcends Into Power...This is It's Natural & Archetypic UnFoldment.



    Love Is Impersonal (WithOut) Until It Chooses to Become Personal (WithIn) through Intense Desiring, which is Awareness of Self...The Dreaming Princess Creates the Hunting (Stalking) Prince, and Life Appears from Nothingness (Womb of Goddess). The Sheath Creates The Shaft (Livingness)....The Two Meet...and through the Frictional Encountering (Dual), Find Balance In Motional Expressing Between Each Other, And Become STILL...As One. And Disappear Back Into Nothingness.



    This is the Cycle of Lyght, and It's Denouement. Love Cannot be "Looked For"...Your words speak True, Be Aware of It Within YourSelf...Is All that Is Needed...Believe & Trust This...And S/He Will Find You, for She Is Everything & Everywhere Always...



    If You Turn From Her...She will Turn From You. Thus, The Immortal Fyres Both Generate & ReGenerate In the Intensity of Pure Love...Intense UnBending Intent To Hold Her Always First in your Heart...Then, the HeartFyres Burn ForEverMore...



    Such a Simple lesson...

    Mar 17, 2011
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    vans554

    Favorited, I just fell in love with you for writing this!

    Mar 9, 2011
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    elyarm

    Captivating and Interesting. My quest for love is great

    Jan 5, 2011
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    elyarm

    Captivating and Interesting. My quest for love is great

    Jan 5, 2011
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    Elaine71

    That sounds great.



    Unfortunately, there are so many things about my life and myself that need to be fixed, it will be years before I'm even dating material.

    There's nothing about my life right now worth sharing with anyone.

    So at my age that means 'No' to lots of things I wanted for myself, it's very discouraging. So much work that it's probably more realistic to plan on being alone.

    Oct 27, 2010
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    guiltybyassociation

    Thanks for writing this. I wish I had known this half a year ago, it would have saved me from one costly lesson. We can't change the past, however. Here's to what the future holds in store.

    Oct 3, 2010
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    Smokeseek

    Beautifully said, thank you for sharing this.

    Sep 5, 2010
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    vampes

    That's an amazing story :) Thanks..

    Apr 16, 2010
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    Loopylu

    All I can say is 'wow'! Thank u so much for writing this. I am completely what u described. I am in unlove. I want out but yet its/comfortable worried how or if I will ever be in love the way I desire. I know she loves me & I love her but not way its suppose 2 be. I am 35 soon 2 be 36 and I can't say I've ever been in love. I am sick of setling for anything less than wht I want. How do u break away??? Does love find u or do u find it. I have allot of soul searching 2 do but ion the mean time I have faith tht my love is out there looking for me...I have so much 2 give.



    Thank u again,

    Loopy

    Apr 16, 2010
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    Loopylu

    All I can say is 'wow'! Thank u so much for writing this. I am completely what u described. I am in unlove. I want out but yet its/comfortable worried how or if I will ever be in love the way I desire. I know she loves me & I love her but not way its suppose 2 be. I am 35 soon 2 be 36 and I can't say I've ever been in love. I am sick of setling for anything less than wht I want. How do u break away??? Does love find u or do u find it. I have allot of soul searching 2 do but ion the mean time I have faith tht my love is out there looking for me...I have so much 2 give.



    Thank u again,

    Loopy

    Apr 16, 2010
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    womaninbliss

    Fantastic story cosi. This is the most coherent piece I've read on the subject, certainly on this site and probably anywhere else too. I so agree with the main premise - that you have to love yourself first and that the rest will follow from that. Thank you for so eloquently expressing what I feel. We don't need others to complete us - we are already perfect and our partners should complement and add to us ...

    Mar 12, 2010
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    artistaeli

    I loved your story about love. Thanks for taking the time to add it.

    Feb 13, 2010
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    shaikhzulfiker

    I like your words...thanks

    Jan 16, 2010
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    shaikhzulfiker

    I like your words...thanks

    Jan 16, 2010
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    daniel13

    Hi CC!



    Very well written story I'm sure my skills in that regard will pale and I'm not picking a fight at all I just think it's the complete opposite of the way true love is found/established/preserved. I'm in the planning phase of a documentary film on true love so I've been pondering my own opinion on the subject (which will be the basis of the film).



    You contend that in order to find true love you must first love yourself. I think if you're right true love would be impossible. Too many of us are just to flawed and we know it.



    It's just the opposite.



    I really believe true love is born of a feeling of complete inadequacy. For me if you are "possibly" my true love, I'm going to feel so "inadequate" around you. "How could you possibly be interested in me?" - "I don't measure up", "You're flawless (even though no one is), "I'm not worthy of your attention, yet you appear to be crazy about ME?"



    I see inadequacy in couples all the time - but it's almost always the woman who feels it and guys tend to be very dominant in the relationship. I'm reminded of the song Under My Thumb by the Rolling Stones. It's typically one-sided.



    For me then I think when it's real love, true love, those feelings of inadequacy HAVE TO BE MUTUAL and so over-powering for both (not just for the woman) and it creates this dynamic where in both are so in love and yet there is this constant tension each feels (I believe it's fear actually) and it drives both to be better people. So both then work hard, they over-compensate, they both become incredibly selfless, out of total love but also it's a little out of inadequacy. And it doesn't end, because the better I become chasing how great you are the harder you work to keep up, and we make each other, together so much better then we could have ever been separately.

    Nov 13, 2009
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      wingedhorse

      > if you are "possibly" my true love, I'm going to feel so "inadequate" around you
      It's interesting, but you realize that it can only work properly with someone who is truly flawless, otherwise it's a lie and a self-deception. This is how a person could feel toward God, and He will still respect them, but do the same with another person, no matter how "perfect", and it'll be a disaster.
      > but it's almost always the woman who feels it and guys tend to be very dominant
      if it's the other way around, it's good night, nurse
      > those feelings of inadequacy HAVE TO BE MUTUAL
      I am not sure this works in real life

      Jan 21, 2012
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    brighteyedstargazer

    wow. your words are really inspiring, and makes surprising sense. thanks for sharing this :)

    Sep 20, 2009
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    lostbird

    Thank you for these words.....something I was drawn to and means a lot for me right now. : )

    Jul 5, 2009
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    dewkl

    Well said. Thank you. I needed to hear these words about love and unlove to remind myself that I am lovely as is, right now. Even when exhausted, and especially when in the midst of changes, even when I can hardly pull myself out of bed to work, and especially as I turn to face the sun every day.

    May 20, 2009
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    EasyGoGirl

    So true!! I'm at this point life now after 21 years of my life in darkness!! I'm starting to love myself and it all begins from me :)

    Jan 29, 2009
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    naranja

    This is very inspiring. I hope that one day I can love myself enough to be sure my relationships are by choice and not by need.

    Jan 28, 2009
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    Shaylon

    It sounds like a fabulous concept.

    Feb 1, 2008
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