I'm So Depressed About My Children Leaving Home...My 19 year old son left about a week ago to join the Air Force, and my 23 year old daughter left two days ago to move to another state. I'm so proud of my son as he had to really work hard to get into the Air Force, and my daughter moved to be with her fiance'. I'm just simply devastated. It truly feel like someone has ripped my heart from my chest. I've tried to talk to their father, friends, and family and it just feels like no one around me understands what I'm going through.
My children were everything to me. I put my absolute all into raising both of them and doing all types of activities with them, even sometimes at the expense of my own best interests. I understand they grow up and need their freedom, but for some reason I just can't seem to let go. I am so proud of them and so happy that they're establishing their own lives, but I get so depressed whenever I have even a simple thought of them. I've quite literally been crying for over a week now. I really don't know what to do to make this feeling go away. I can't even walk by either one's room without bursting into tears. I don't understand why I'm unable to overcome this sense of great loss. I'm blessed that they are healthy, intelligent young adults, yet I'm depressed. I'm very aware I need to move on with 'my' life and find new things to devote my attention on, but I enjoyed being a mom and spending everything I had on my children. I've considered fostering, and/or adopting but it's not possible at the moment for me.
I'm just grateful to have found this website and found there are others who are experiencing similar feelings. It helps to know I'm not crazy or overreacting. Thank you for sharing your feelings and showing others like myself this isn't so abnormal.