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I Hate Being Fat, But Why Can't I Stop Eating The Wrong Foods?

Where do I begin, I have struggled with my weight for as far as I can remember.  I am at the heaviest I have ever been, I have done all the diets and lost weight but I gain it again and again and as I'm sure most of you know more and more each time.  My weight now makes me so depressed, tired, unmotivated, emotional and above all has affected my every day to day life.  I hate going out, I hate being physical with my husband but no matter how much I look in the mirror and tell myself how unhappy I am and how ugly I am I still carry on eating the wrong things.  I used to enjoy exercise but now I cannot motivate myself to even go for a walk, everything just seems like so much hard work.  I am so fed up starting one diet after another and when I do lose weight it goes back on so easily.  My husband and family always comment on it and tell me I need to do something about it and no matter how much I want to do I just cannot seem to do it. Why?
langers1 langers1 31-35, F 18 Responses Jan 9, 2011

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Ok, ladies, stop been sad, I'm too but we need to start some point to do something for us. My advice is to do what I did... Compulsive eaters is a group to help people with addictions, like us to really learn the reason why we eat without control. Is a reason deep inside that make us eat our sadness, guilt , remorse using food.

I'm feeling just like this tonight. What helps me is to tackle only one thing at a time. I chose to only work on drinking only water this week, when I get that down, I'll add something else:-)

I cant offer any support because i feel the same

You know what would be great? If society didn't make fat women (it's mostly directed at women) feel like there is something "wrong" with being overweight. Many of us would be happier, we'd just do all the things we want to do, enjoy ourselves and not spend so much time beating ourselves up, which often leads to more bad eating and lying around depressed, thus creating a vicious cycle.

Unfortunately, although this ideal is amazing, it will never happen. Society has already imprinted "only thin people are right" into people's minds; once they start to think this, it is very difficult to change their mind.

Try Paul McKenna. He explains why diets don't work and offers a much better, long-term solution.

I think its becuase you havent set your self limits to what foods you eat and the amout
PS:try to stay away from salty and sugary foods such as candy , crackers , alot of greasy foods , etc .

I have gained 60lb in 2 years. I am so depressed it has effected my daily life, sex life,ect. I know what i need to do but for some reason cannot stick to any diet or exercise routine and end up eating more. Im stuck in a circle of depressed from eating but eat to curb the depression.

Also it is not easy to accept self or trick self into believing in beauty that is not there

I'm the exact same I think after doing diets and trying to be motivated we give up as we feel there is no hope. We say to ourselves ok I've done alright today so I can eat this as a treat. I feel lost and want to be skinny more than anything but I just can't see a slimmer me at the end of the road :(

It's like reading my own words. I'm right there with you

Hi I'd like to help u when will u be online?

Please please help me. I will take whatever is being offered.

i feel ur pain in that me too i want to take off all this fats inside me...
i just hope theres some groups here in the philippines where i can join so i can be comfortable doing exercise or thing's that can burn this fats inside me...

or maybe a free lyposuction will do lol ;)

Hi id I've to help u when will u be online?

how can u help anyway??

I will help you with your journey while getting in the best shape of your life, one day at a time,free of charge..
contact me via email...
helping the universe get healthier one human at a time...
Let's go life is too short..
live, love and laugh often...sincerely Paul Banaduchi

hi,please i need your help so much ,my weight is 236 lbs every day i struggle with it and noone helps me i am so young and i cant live my life

The good news is there is hope for you because you don't make excuses. Diets do not work for a couple of reasons. First, there is no magic pill or routine that will make all that weight disappear if you are going to go back to routinely eating the same filth. I do mean filth, you have to look at all of the junk food forced down our throats by media and advertising as poison and filth. Diets don't work. Only a complete change in lifestyle will work. A lifestyle change. <br />
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Second, as you are probably well aware, thermodynamics is a law, if you eat more calories than your body requires you will gain weight. If you eat less, you will lose weight. However, the optimal deficit of calories when you eat less needs to be about 500 under what your body requires to maintain it's mass. Much more than that is very unhealthy and can actually result in weight gain because your body assumes it is starving and starts storing up energy. That being said, eating daily at a 500 calorie deficit each day, without ever deviating, will result in losing about a pound per week. That is some daunting **** right there. No human can count calories every single day and never cheat. Even if you could it could take months or even years of "dieting" to lose the weight, depending on how heavy you are.<br />
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So what works? At the risk of redundancy, a lifestyle change. You have to want to be a warrior. Learn to like healthy foods. Cut out sugars and refined carbs, i.e., cakes, cookies, pasta, breads...etc. Absolutely no soda or juices. No diet soda either, that crap leaches the calcium from your bones. You're better off fat.Anything that breaks down into your blood stream quickly must be burnt through activity or it is stored as fat. That piece of cake will make you fat unless you are doing wind sprints afterwards. Stick to lean proteins and lots of fruits and vegetables. Whole grains are good, they actually cause you to lose weight. They take your body a long time to break down. <br />
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Try this for one day, see how you like it. Start the morning with a bowl of steel-cut oatmeal. Follow the directions, but 10 minutes for al-dente, 20 for creamy. Sweeten it with a bit of brown sugar, even a pat of butter or a bit of milk. That won't hurt at all. For lunch have a lean grilled chicken breast and a salad. For dinner, make a black bean and corn salad (lots of recipes online), a tuna steak over a bed of greens and maybe a few red potatoes cooked in some butter with a bit of parmesan cheese sprinkled over top. Learn to savor the natural flavors. Plant and herb garden, grow your confidence and get your hands in the earth.<br />
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Now for the workout. If you are severely overweight, no doubt that knee and back problems preclude strenuous cardio. It's embarrassing as well. Swimming would be great, and walking as well, but I understand the difficulty. What you have to do, is come up with a strength routine. Start lifting weights or doing yoga. Your muscles will be very sore for the first few weeks, but it's a "good" pain. Ripping muscle causes tears that are healed with more muscle. Muscle metabolizes fat in it's production. Muscle, on men or women, is what makes people look sexy. Plus, even if you don't see major results for a few months, you will enjoy starting to get strong. You will feel accomplishment and your confidence will go through the roof. This will help you deal with your depression, which seems to be the underlying root of this evil. Tons of workout routines online and there are also personal trainers. One tip, concentrate on form, not weight. Do exercises without weights if it's too hard, just do the reps and go slowly and concentrate on the muscles at hand.<br />
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Most importantly, you have to want to change your life. You have to want to be a warrior. I don't care if you are a woman. Read about the ancient celts. Women went to battle back then. You have to get sick of being soft and weak and decide you are ready to fight. Good luck.


I believe from this point on... YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE ..I am 236 lb after giving birth and I'm BEYOND DEPRESSED ...I CRY ALL THE TIME..and I know my time is coming! If no one is thankful to this..I am more than happy to take in your "good luck" thank you and when I'm down to the size I want to be ..I will definitely come back to this post .

Join me on myfitnesspal and we can do it together. I started 10 days ago and lost 4 pounds till now. We can help each other. Myfitnesspal is free. You sign up from the net and it is a community of people trying to lose weight, sharing stories and recipes. You will be able to count your daily calorie intake as well. I am eating healthy food. I am making sure I eat what my body needs. We will motivate each other. Start today.


I swear you just described me! I too am at my heaviest weight ever. I have 3 children and the youngest is 8 months old. I went on the Depo-shot right when he was born. I lost 30 pounds within the first week after he was born, but then it all started piling back on. I have GAINED 40 pounds since my son was born. I have finally stopped gaining weight. I stopped getting the shot), now I just need to get started in my weight loss journey. I have tried a few different diets, but end up giving up after only a week :( I just dont know where to begin...

I read your story and my heart went out to you. I finally reached my heaviest last year. I was depressed, having healthy issues. Something worked for me and it can work for you too. It takes effort and commitment but it is possible to lose that weight. I am in a group of people who have done the same thing and faced similar challenges. Message me if you are interested.

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I have a heartfelt response to your crisis, as myself, I have been on a disability pension for 14 years now after having a stroke, I was told by the specialists that I would never work again.<br />
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After these 14 years of inactivity I have became obesity, sluggish, low in energy and spent months in hospital for depression.<br />
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Some of my family suffer from obesity as well and for years struggled to shed that weight, going to fat clubs and the gym, with very little transformation for their effort, myself included.<br />
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I did not believe in my opinion. that I was overweight until I began to feel unwell, spending up to 14 hrs in bed feeling that I had no energy and depression raged in me.<br />
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Protein Snacks:<br />
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By David Heber, M.D., Ph.D., F.A.C.P., F.A.C.N.<br />
Chairman of the Herbalife Nutrition and Scientific Advisory Boards<br />
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It is well established that the typical person eating a western type diet consumes more daily calories than he needs. High-calorie snacks filled with fats and sugars contribute to these extra calories. Protein packed bars, drinks, soups, and nuts are far superior to other snacks because of the inherent differences between protein and<br />
sugars and fats.<br />
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First off, protein is more satisfying than the other two macronutrients because of specific signals it sends to the<br />
brain. When we snack on protein instead of sugars and fats, the body feels more full which helps people control<br />
their appetite between meals, thus cutting calories and controlling their weight. Recent clinical research has<br />
supported this physiologic phenomenon.<br />
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A second reason for choosing protein as a snack is its thermogenic effect. This refers to the metabolic tax a food<br />
puts on the body after we eat it. This metabolic tax for protein is much higher than sugar or fat because the body<br />
uses more energy to digest it. This means that when you choose protein over the other two, you are burning more<br />
calories during the process of digestion. Having this higher tax rate is good because protein tends to be low in<br />
caloric content, so the body is working harder on fewer calories.<br />
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A third reason to choose protein snacks over sugars and fats is the body's need to replenish the building blocks of<br />
muscle tissue. Muscle is important for our daily activities and it determines our metabolism. So the more we<br />
maintain our healthy lean muscle mass, the higher we maintain metabolism.<br />
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So the next time you reach for a snack, choose a protein-rich bar, drink, or soup. Avoid high-calorie chips, cookies,<br />
candies and sweets. They are generally much higher in calories, and they offer little nutritional value to the body.