Lonely, Sad, And Mildly Autistic-please Read.

hello malissa,how are you? I have read your story girl. I would like to tell you that you are not alone in this world who face such problems. I am Danish from pakistan. Although i am living a normal life but only i know what difficulties i face on daily basis. I find it tough to interact socially and cannot communicate effectively many times. I feel weak and tired often, cant move around much. But i still back myself to live another day. Do you know why? Because God almighty wants me to, He has given you and me this life to thank Him and live it to the best we can. I am heart broken myself but gather all my strength to talk to you. A little smile or ray of hope for you will be my priority. I have no direction in life,no hope to achieve great things.I am ordinary and very simple person but trust me you are special.You are reason of smile for somebody, reason for love and hope. Please never feel down and whenever you do talk to me.Together we can share horizons of our restricted life and you will be amazed that two ordinary people can create a world of their own. A world full of happiness,understanding and joy,cheers love and keep smiling.

Hi Melissa,



Reading your words was just amazing to me. I am an early childhood teacher and have worked with many children diagnosed with Autism and Aspergers. I know of your struggles but you are not alone. I also experience periods of loneliness and I have always been socially awkward. But thats just me so I have learned to live with it and experience things in life I enjoy and work at what I'm good at. Keep up with the studies and do what ever you have to do to achieve each small and significant step. Your potential in life could be amazing just keep taking the small steps. Melissa I'm so thrilled you are studying early childhood, keep it up.



Baz

I have a son who's 18 who also has Asthbergers syndrome and yes he to has problems socialising with normal people but is good with people who have learning dis/challanging behaviour and is currently working with children in a special school who have behavioural and emotional problems,maybe this is something you can look into,he works as a residentual carer/ angel(they take children out of lessons who are having problems and then taske them to a quiet area so they can calm down and then return them to class.)

Melissa,



You are brilliant; brilliant in a way many people around you are not ready to comprehend and to see. You have been told all this time that you are "a misfit" or not good enough, or simply not like "everyone". Have you thought that this is only because you are being defined by the "norm" and by a set of rules and parameters that are just another measuring tool?

You are extraordinary and special in a magnificent way; you just have to accept this and to define your own norms and set your own parameters within yourself; you have your limitations... so I and everyone else.. dont let that make you feel inadecuate. Dont feel sorry for yourself for not being like everyone else, remember... you are unique and still to explore your amazing talents that were probably never discovered.

Dont pay attention at the people who dont understand you, they simply lack that skill - dedicate your time to develop your creativity and your freedom of self; the rest will all fall into place.



Much love and light

Indigolady

Hi Melissa. I am sorry that you are experiencing these challenges. You sound very intelligent and articulate to me. I hope that you can learn of other activities soon that will give you the fulfillment you crave. Have you considered getting involved in a church? Most churches have a once a week women's meeting where they study the Bible together. You could get involved with that and make some really nice friends this way. This would be a good place for you to start making friends and then later when you feel comfortable you might even get involved with other activities the church has to offer.



I would google Christian Churches that are close to your house and see what they have to offer. Then call these different churches and make friends with the person answering the phone. Tell them that you have Asperger's and that you want some new friends. Ask the lady who answers the phone how you can get involved with her church and tell her you need a lot of help doing this. I would tell her that you only want one friend to begin with because you also have anxiety and having one friend isn't as overwhelming as making many new friends at the same time.



This is a great way for you to start to get involved in other activities. You might even find a lady who will give you a ride in her car to church so you can read the Bible together once a week.



Tell me what you think of this idea.