Unable To Get Out

I completely understand what you are goin through. I get up everyday and the first thing I think about is what life would be like if I had genuine friends. Im out in public and i feel like theres no hope And I come home everyday still not having made any friends and wondering how I'm going to remain sane. I'm only 21 and it's been this way since I would remember. Shoot i probably wouldnt know what to do if a group of people actually accepted me. I've had acquaintances and one close friend that doesn't speak to me anymore. My life sucks horribly and it's killing me. Because of all the ignoring and rejection I've become very desensitized and it's hard for me to relate to others or even hold a decent conversation and express my feelings. My social skills are probably equivalent to a 16 year olds. I never actually had someone to talk to and now it's hard for me even if I wanted to. I just resort to this fantasy world where I pretend I'm being loved and respected but can't really feel that since I don't really know what it feels like so I feel the way I think I should feel. But I'm young, youre young and there is still lots of hope. It just takes time and self improvement. I'm not giving up so neither should you.

I feel exactly the same way. I'm in college and I feel like everyone already has their friends and it's hard to get a good group of people who I have things in common with. I'm not a drinker, smoker, or partier even though I like to go out dancing every once in a while. And I feel like im the only person in the world who doesn't have those interests. All this got me thinking that maybe everyone is lonely and everyone uses social networking and partying as a cover. I find it hard to believe that people can be satisfied without meaningful relationships. I think the social systems that our society has created has everyone so concerned that they won't be accepted, but we have to think of ourselves as more than just simply part of a social construction. Think of everyone you meet as lonely, awkward and wanting to be accepted. And then maybe they won't be so scary. I mean this is easier said than done, because I have yet to feel comfortable in new social situations. But food for thought!

I'm Right there with you buddy.

I used to be very shy, but I've grown out of it for the most part. The more you interact as you get older, the more comfortable you'll feel.

Reading your story and seeing the reponses, You are not alone in the way you feel. I always feel uncomfortable when meeting someone new, just take things easy,

Wow. It's like I could have written this myself. I know just how you feel. I just moved out of my parents' home and I have no friends here. I'm an hour away from home but I didn't exactly have many friends there either. In fact, the few I "thought" I had are too busy with their lives to care to talk to me. So, I find myself going to class and back home. I've been smoking weed everyday now because it lets me escap for a few hours. I cried today because of how lonely I am. I want friends so badly but have none. The few I always think I have end up leaving. Don't get me started on guys either. I wouldn't recognize someone flirting with me if it smacked me in the face. Let's just say I don't know what it's like for a guy to genuine like me. Anyway, hang in there man. You're not as alone as you think

Have you ever been told you might have Aspergers? A lot of what you write sounds like it. My sister has Aspergers. You might want to read about it. It can explain lots. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

You sound so much like me 4 years ago. Learning communication/ socialization skills, are just that-- they are skills that need to be practiced.



I got a job as a sales associate, and it forced me to interact with people. It was really hard and I won't lie, my awkwardness sometimes made it unbearably embarrassing, but it changed my life.



My problem was that I was afraid of people and insecure. I always thought that everyone else thought they were better than me. That negative thinking made it really hard on me to get to know people because I thought they already didn't like me... and that's never the case.



Strangers are generally kind or if anything apathetic. I've only had 1 person that was rude enough to stick into my head this day and even he wasn't horrible. Also, all those awkward moments interacting with costumers have become really funny stories to tell people in retrospect... so I really wouldn't change any of it.



It'll be uncomfortable at first, but you would really benefit from getting a job that requires you to interact with people.



Sorry for being long-winded. I hope this helps :)

This I can relate to as if I wrote it myself. I have a very difficult time talking to people, I clam up and go silent. I'm definitely silent in a group makes me awkward when I see so many people chatting about something, then wonder why I'm quiet. I don't really have a solution for this myself since I'm still struggling with conversation, subjects and all that. I hope there's a way soon. =/

I feel for you... First thing first: refuel or refresh. Take time to heal thy wounds. Focus on your likes and what you want to be. Nevertheless, raise your head and wear your wounds with pride. Fight..~all wishes with a clenched fist of mine. XD

Exactly what I feel, I speak one language and almost everyone else speaks another. I like to have good conversations and to meet new people, but I just don`t connect with them.

yes, i also had this situation, when i was in my hometown , i used to have 3 bestfriends, but one of them I am more closer, cause we almost hang out everything,,but then she left to go states, from there on, she didnt contact me much cause she has other friends around me..and this makes me sad,,because no matter how far she was, i always write her up or email or call,,but it seems she has her own life now...then what shocks me my other friend whom i didnt get in touched with, has more sincere to contact me and we finally met and talk after so many years never keep in touch.

I know how you feel...i find it very hard to interact with people. I keep telling myself that I'm getting better and it will get easier for me and slowly but surely it is getting better. It takes time so try and have some faith in yourself because you can do it :)

Btw my friends were also somewhat awkward like me. :P

Well, man I had no true friends till high school. I made my first friend in high school with my cell phone.. :/ . I think there are a lot of people like you in college. Just try to build up your self-confidence. Try rehearsing in front of a mirror. Somehow I have overcome the problems you have. And btw remember, you can't make everyone happy. :D

Cheers