Lonely.

Hi, my names Garrett I'm 19 years old and I've been depressed for a few years now.
I have had social anxiety disorder for almost my whole life. As long as I can remember I have been more nervous than anyone else I've met. It's difficult to meet new people because I end up just standing awkwardly when I get introduced. I have a few great friends but over all I'm still lonely because I can't expand my friendship circle. I've never had a girlfriend and that plays into the loneliness. Girls don't find me attractive, but they say my personality is great. I play guitar and that really helps me release stress and frustrations. I feel like since I'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, that girls don't like me or are interested in me. I feel like I shouldn't even try anymore and any effort I make in talking to people is a waste of time. I used to be somewhat suicidal but have gotten over that. Meeting new people is really difficult for me. I end up turning red and sweat and get nauseous. People really respond to that too. They always comment on how red I am and a lot of girls think that I like them because of it and are weirded out. I'm really caring and compassionate and really do care about people, but they always never care about me and only care about themselves. They always use me for anything in their own interest. I don't know what to do, and that's why I'm here. This is my first post so I really don't know what it's all about but any feedback would be greatly appreciated
Garrett747 Garrett747
18-21
5 Responses May 9, 2012

OC?? Is that as in Ocean City Maryland or New Jersey? Either way, take your guitar down on the boardwalk this summer and play it. Lots of people do that, and most of them aren't any good, so you could easily be the best player there. Everybody always stops to listen, even to the ones that aren't any good. And all summer long you will be treated to a steady parade of pretty young girls who really like guys that can play the guitar. Believe me I know, because I never could play it. They will want to talk to you, and it should be easier to talk to them when you are already doing something you enjoy.

Good luck.

i think your problem about your looks can be simple if you decide to overcome it,. just look around and you can see many men who are ordinary or look not good even but they are very attractive to many women because their strong personality. the more confidence you have, the more attractive you will be so don't let your looks affect your self-esteem and try to increase it by doing things you are clever in. i think that can be helpful for you.

Looks aren't everything I've gotten to the point where I say screw it I'm sooooo much better off knowing that I have an actual personality unlike most people.I know that I'm a girl but its no different then what your going through. I used to be the same way. Personalities are the best(: people are just to visual these days. A pretty face doesn't mean a pretty heart. What means the most in all people is their talents and their personality(: stay strong I bet your an amazing person!!

Well thank you. Yes personality is everything but people don't take the time to discover my personality because they don't like my looks

Thank you very much. Sometimes inspiring words are all I need to get through the day.

Interesting, girls often said the same thing to me about having a great personality, and to be honest it is a good thing. People now are more concerned with the looks of a person compared to the personality, by having a great personality you are a lot less likely to fall in with those that only like you for your looks. If girls like you for your personality then when you get a girlfriend she will love you for who you are and nothing else, she won't be shallow and leave you for another man. Though it will be harder to find a girl like that it is worth it in the end, trust me, just never give up.<br />
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And for your problem with meeting new people, that can be quite difficult for many people, but you will find those that will make you comfortable and won't judge you on first impressions. It is always great to have friends but that doesn't mean that you need a lot of them. Through out elementary shook and high school I only had 5 true friends and it is all you really need, a few people that understand you and share the same interests, you don't need much more then that.<br />
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None the less you will begin to meet new people easier in then future years as the younger and teenage groups tend to be more judgmental while you will meet nicer more understanding people in the future. Always be kind and caring, I mean...if you don't who will? There are few people out there now that actually care for others so keep it up.