Telling A Person With Depression To "cheer Up" Is Like Telling An Insomniac To "take A Nap"

I have lived with depression for over 25 years. I have sought therapy and taken medication on numerous occasions. What has this done for me? Not a damn thing! Do not tell me to "cheer up", because if I could, I would. depression isn't something you just turn on and off when you feel like it. It follows you, haunts you and makes you feel completely miserable.

I didn't ask to have depression. I didn't just look out the window and think to myself, "Damn, I'm way too cheerful and life is going entirely too well, I should be miserable for the next two and a half decades!" And to hell with anyone who thinks otherwise! Those of us that have depression would like a normal life. We didn't ask for it and we don't f***ing well want it! You want to see us not be depressed? Talk to us and try to understand where we're coming from. Or, leave us alone. Do not tell us to cheer up.
bahawk79 bahawk79
31-35, M
4 Responses Jan 18, 2013

I laughed my *** off at the title.
I have depression. Albeit not so bad at this point, still pretty bad. I know what you're going through matey, and I really do hope for the best for you. From what I've read, you have kids, I really hope that they bring you out of the dark for at least a little while. Stay strong. If not for you, for them. :) xx

True, some people might not get what it is to be depressed... I do hope you would be able to feel better someday c:

My mom is bipolar and my dad committed sucide. I am a biproduct of my parents but i have learned from their mistakes and also their strengths. Learn ur self worth so u can b a model for ur child.

I put on the happy face for my kids most of the time. It's difficult some days.

People who tell you to cheer up have absolutely no clue what depression is. I instead, say 'Oh that sucks, because it does! I have had depression since I was 10 (had a sorry childhood and teen life) and still have my moments where I am anxious to be alone and the anxiety, derealization and bla bla...I refused however, to be medicated -I self medicated- so I struggled more than necessary with some mental problems as well. (still do ha.) But honestly, in my experience so far with the battle all I can tell people is DEAL with it. I have control of my own mind and sometimes Im not always strong enough to say **** it Im not feeling like **** today! But most of the time I tell myself I dont have to be this way so Im not, why should I have to? I distract myself and work around it rather than trying to find ways to stop it. It works.

Too true! Cheering up is something that has always been hard for me. I was raised middle-class in the bay area and northern California. Many have said, "You had it good, what's to be depressed about?" These folks are the ones I want to stab in the eye. They don't get it and they never will.

The don't know what goes on behind closed doors. They should consider that.