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Lonely And Depressed

My husband and I have been together for 10 years.  We have 2 children and 1 on the way.  For a few years now, we've had problems on and off because I feel that we just don't have a connection anymore.  He never wanted to marry and have kids, but after finding out we were pregnant with #2, he suggested we get married because that's what his family would've wanted.  Over the years, we've had some really good times but I'm afraid that as time goes by, I feel like a character in that movie "He's just not that into you".  I'm a full time stay at home mom and am very lucky that he is a great provider and loves his kids.  He works really hard and I admire him so much for being a good Dad.  I know that he loves me, but don't really think that he's "in love" with me.  I would consider our relationship to be more like best friends or room mates than husband and wife.  There's zero romance - I can't even remember the last time he wanted to have sex.  There is no physical contact, no hugging, no kissing.  When we go to bed, he doesn't even say "goodnight" or give me a goodnight kiss, even when I've told him that it would mean a lot to me if he did - even if it was every once in awhile.  When he's home, he doesn't really talk to me or spend time with me.  And on his days off, he usually takes off for most of the day to do "his thing", whether that's hunting, hiking, fishing or hanging out with friends.  When I can actually convince him to spend some family time with me and the kids, It's just a couple of hours over his weekend and he gets it over with as soon as possible so he can take off again.  One day at home, I actually just observed his behavior when he was in the house and he was literally pacing back and forth like a caged tiger who couldn't wait to get out of here.  It made me feel really sad to see him so desperate to get out.  If we're together at home at night, he's perfectly contect being on the computer or in front of the TV without us saying anything to each other for hours.  I've tried repeatedly to start conversations or initiate romance but nothing works.  He has his own hobbies and interests and although I've tried to show an interest in them, he never seems to want me to be part of them with him.  He likes to take vacations by himself - or with his friends - and doesn't really care about going with me anywhere. 

I may sound like a total sap, but after all these years, I am still very much in love with my husband.  I yearn to be close to him, to be hugged, to be wanted.  But how do you make someone feel the same way about you when they have told you straight up that they don't and don't know how to feel that way?  I feel so lost and I don't know what I've done wrong.  I'm afraid that I've gotten so frustrated with being ignored so long that I've nagged him to death about spending some time with me - to the point that he considers me a controlling *****.  He says that because his job is so stressful, he needs that time on the weekends by himself (although most of the time, he's with his friends) to decompress.  I totally understand that this is a huge thing for guys especially and have always given him his space to do his hobbies on his days off.  All I want is some passion, some interest on his part to want to be with me even if it's just a fraction of the time he devotes to his hobbies.  To just even be on the same level as his hobbies would be great!  Because at least then I would know that he actually has some genuine interest for me.  But when I've told him all this, all he says is "I don't know what to tell you." 

I'm at a loss.  It breaks my heart to think that he just doesn't love me like I love him.  I'm not in a financial place to leave him, nor do I really want to.  I want my kids to be with their Dad and to grow up with both of us in the house.  I just need some help/advice on how to make myself feel more like he does.  How do I stop caring about spending time with him and being okay with just doing my own thing?  How do I live a separate life from him so he can do what makes him happy and still maintain our marriage together?  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

lilmama94591 lilmama94591 31-35, F 32 Responses Mar 30, 2010

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hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spiritual work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i can not say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship try him here is his email prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com of a truth he really helps again his email his prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com

This sounds a lot like my husband... He comes home during the week, drinks his wine while browsing the internet, eats dinner at his comp, plays with the baby, is generally polite to me, but it's just like room mates. I wouldn't say friends, that would imply he wants to spend time with me. So, what did you do? that post is from 2010... Id really like to know. I can leave, it would be my second divorce, but I feel like you, I don't want our child to have two different families he needs to go between... we have other children that do that, and x's to deal with already that are As*holes... Dont really want to do that again...BUT, im not really into setting MY life aside for someone that doesn't WANT me.

I'm going through the same thing. I wonder is it because my husband works alot, he's busy and mentally drained. Or just doesn't want to try. Or does he have a girlfriend. Who knows....
I'm out of state taking care of my best friend who's dying and I rarely here from my husband and when I do he seems like he's doing his duty by calling me. It's usually a 5 minute or less conversation. I almost don't miss him, because when I am home we don't talk anyways. I can be lonely there at home or productively doing something positive here taking care of my dying best friend. He doesn't seem to care I'm gone anyways. It sucks!

hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i can not say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship try him here is his email prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com of a truth he really helps again his email his prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com

Im having problem with my husband too.we are married for 5 months only but dated for 2 yrs.now that we're married,I feel that he does not love me though he says i love u but i cant feel it.he is more fond watching porns and looking at nude pictures than having sex with me.i feel im not attractive to him.im losing self esteem.he also spends time only watching tv or playing video games or be in his laptop.i feel that he just sees me when he needs something or when he wants to see me.i feel stupid.sometimes i tried to seduce him but didnt work and he instead gets irritated.i dont know where i place myself.i love him so much.sometimes i feel of committing suicide for him to realize my worth.

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I'm also at the point of why I'm even here anymore my husband spends all his free time in the gym the rest with his mum we have been together for 22 years and have 4 kids we moved to be close to his mom about 3 years ago for the first 2 she stayed with us it was " hell" when she went home he basically moved in with her.. He gets up goes to work calls or she calls him at least 8 times a day when he comes home from work he goes up to her every evening comes home and goes to bed he spends all weekend with her and I'm just here alone with my kids whom I love I have no family or friends here and don't have away to get to see them as I don't have transport... Oh I also forgot to say his mom hates me so much that when we last had an argument she told me and in the same breath he told her that he chooses her over myself and the kids I really want to go back home and start my own life with the children but don't want to take my kids from there school and friends plus he has all access to our money so I can't do go I'm just in a really Lost and libel place now I'm really depressed it's Saturday evening he is up with his mum and although my kids are here I would love some grown up conversation like things are that bad my family called last week to say my dad had taken a really bad turn and we needed to get to the hospital fast but of course I had no money so had to tell everyone I was sick... Thankfully he came through it and I think he is ok I haven't seen him as I have no way there but my husband has been in there with them 3 times in the last few days it's really making me mad!!! But I don't want to say anything as I'm afraid of starting a fight I don't know what to do or where to go anymore it is killing me:(

I, after reading that, do not at all blame you for nagging him. If anything, you are two completely different people wanting two completely different things. You are the sensitive one. The openly loving one, seeking affection, attention and love which is what you deserve. You are stressing your whole self out and losing your self esteem and self worth worrying whats wrong with you when there infact is nothing at all wrong with you. You are a loving sole and you just need to find a man who is similar and who is sensitive to ur needs. Dont let anyone bring you down. Id rather be alone and happy than to be miserable and with someone, regardless if u are married, have kids etc. I too have been in this type of relationship. I understand you completely and its a viscous circle. If u dont break it it will break you. It has nothing to do with men being selfish or unloving etc etc. Men are good people just like women. Its certain personalities that just dont complement each other and I believe you two are polar opposites. Give yourself time to heal and move on. There are gorgeous hearted men out there xoxox

And leave him alone he is sick of all the crap

Shut the hell up people like u deserve to be alone and being cheated on
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Vuffjj = troll

You should not hAve nagged him

Sorry .... I tought I heard a troll scurrying by ....

I'm going through the exact same situation. I never hear an I love you, not even a tiny kiss, some nights we don't even sleep in the same bed, no intimacy or affection. I've brought it up over and over and it always gets twisted that it's my fault and if I wouldn't bring it up then I would get love. I actually count the days now of how long it goes before I get a kiss or hear I love you. She says it to her kids all the time but never me and she sees nothing wrong with it. I've become so numb to her and how cold she is towards me that I find myself at times saying hurtful things so she can feel what I feel. I'm slowly falling out of love. She makes me feel depressed and question why she don't love me and refuses to show it. I'm expected to take care of her kids and cook, drive them everywhere do everything and it's like I'm a butler and she sees me as a roommate. I'm so close to walking away and I don't think she would care if I did.

Same here. We've been married a little over a year and it has gotten to the point where I wont see my husband except when he goes to sleep at night (and sometimes he doesn't even do that). He doesn't work, he doesn't help out around the house, we have no children, all he ever does is lock himself in the computer room all day and night for at the very least 16 hours a day (and sometimes fall asleep in there) THEN he will tell me he needs "alone time". When you spend more than 16 hours a day ALONE why the hell would you need MORE alone time? Honestly there have been times where I will go months without any sort of physical contact with him, no affection, no "I love you", no attention, no sex just always nothing. His ignoring me can last anywhere from days to weeks to months. And if I complain about it he uses that as an excuse to ignore me for even longer. He has actually promised over and over again to spend time with me he will set the date and the time and THEN when the time and date he picked comes around: NOTHING. Usually I will wait about four or five days to finally point out that he was supposed to spend time with me, he picked the day and time and then when it came around he didn't. You wanna know what that gets me? He uses that as an excuse to explain why he never spent time with me even though it was well after the day and time he picked. When that happens it usually takes any where between another week up to a month for him to ever actually follow through on his promises. And by the time he finally does I am so angry and depressed from being completely ignored for so long its pointless anyways. Usually about the week mark in one of these "episodes" I get extremely depressed and spend the rest of the time crying while I wait for weeks and even months for him to FINALLY show me some sort of attention/affection. There have actually been times where I have left the house for more than 6 hours and he not even notice I left. Which only makes me feel that much worse. He honestly will show the dog more attention than he will me.

yeah it is ....very sad....
to b that lonely being married.....i know how it feels........
I think my husband should marry his tv ,this is the only thing he cares for.......

hey divorce word all of a sudden starts to sound pretty good.........

Thank you for sharing your story. You have lots of insight and are willing to face this--that's very brave and loving. What this sounds like is intimacy anorexia. You are paying the ultimate price for your husband's intimacy issues. Symptoms include staying busy, controlling or shaming with money, withholding love, sex and praise, blame/criticism, control through silence or anger, withholding of feelings. The ultimate goal is for him to create distance between you. No matter how much you move towards him he will do whatever it takes to create that distance. There are many causes and...there is hope! I've been through this myself and have become a relationship/recovery coach in order to help others. Call or email me any time for support and help getting through this. Dawninghearts.com

That's what happens when you accidently get pregnant or force kids or marriage for the wrong reason when one party isn't ready....

feeling the same with the rest of us here. doomed for life? no..feeling crappy? yes. God gives us brainsto think and act. Change for the better. find your own happiness. thankyou for the advice given in this topic. i need to be jolted with some motivational advice. im soo frustrated that my husband doesnt know how his wife is like..

Hello, I am vanessa anderson from united state, I Just want to thank dr khakani for the great things he has been doing for people in our country and things he has done for me, After my lover steve left me for 3years,all because I was suffering from cancer disease and going through serious pains. i hated myself and almost committed suicide because i truly loved steve with all my heart what even pained me the most was that have been to many hospitals and taken many drugs but still no hope of healing this disease ,Due to this i even lost my job,Because i was always drinking and crying because i want to be free from this cancer, So then i was listening to radio until i had someone talking about dr khakani on radio, How generous and trustworthy the man is, How dr khakani helped her in curing her cancer with herbs in a week and solve the problems in her life, i was like i need to get in touch with this man,i got a pen and wrote dr khakani's number and email,So I decided to give him a call. I believed this man was real due to the way he spoke to me on the phone. Then he told me not to worry and he said he knows i have lost my job i was shocked and i told him yes,He said everything would be sorted out within 48hours, he told me what to do and I did it. So i was very happy when i had that good news,Truly within 48hours i started feeling relieved from this disease. Dr khakani also said my lover will call me in 48hours, truly my lover steve called me and came to me in tears to forgive him which i did. As i was giving steve a sweet cuddle i got a call from the company i worked telling me to resume work by monday. I was so happy. please friend dr khakani his truly a trusted spell caster and a man to believe in and he can also cure any kind of diseases or sickness. Dr khakani has made a good name here in the USA. Please contact him on his private mail khakanibestsolutioncentre12@gmail.com or cell phone +2348062216903

Name: VANESSA ANDERSON

Hello, I am vanessa anderson from united state, I Just want to thank dr khakani for the great things he has been doing for people in our country and things he has done for me, After my lover steve left me for 3years,all because I was suffering from cancer disease and going through serious pains. i hated myself and almost committed suicide because i truly loved steve with all my heart what even pained me the most was that have been to many hospitals and taken many drugs but still no hope of healing this disease ,Due to this i even lost my job,Because i was always drinking and crying because i want to be free from this cancer, So then i was listening to radio until i had someone talking about dr khakani on radio, How generous and trustworthy the man is, How dr khakani helped her in curing her cancer with herbs in a week and solve the problems in her life, i was like i need to get in touch with this man,i got a pen and wrote dr khakani's number and email,So I decided to give him a call. I believed this man was real due to the way he spoke to me on the phone. Then he told me not to worry and he said he knows i have lost my job i was shocked and i told him yes,He said everything would be sorted out within 48hours, he told me what to do and I did it. So i was very happy when i had that good news,Truly within 48hours i started feeling relieved from this disease. Dr khakani also said my lover will call me in 48hours, truly my lover steve called me and came to me in tears to forgive him which i did. As i was giving steve a sweet cuddle i got a call from the company i worked telling me to resume work by monday. I was so happy. please friend dr khakani his truly a trusted spell caster and a man to believe in and he can also cure any kind of diseases or sickness. Dr khakani has made a good name here in the USA. Please contact him on his private mail khakanibestsolutioncentre12@gmail.com or cell phone +2348062216903

I am going through this as well. my husband is our sole provider, which makes it difficult to strongly voice my feelings. we have been married for seven years and have three children. my husband works sixty hrs a wk six days a wk and I can understand how this is exhausting. I worked too and went to school at night while I was pregnant with our third child while he was unemployed. so I understand how working long hours is exhausting and u need time to unwind when u get home. as a mother there doesnt ever seem to b any time to unwind. as soon as I got home I had to make dinner and clean the house. did I.mention he was also unemployed while I did all of that. that was five yrs ago and I have been home for the kids and do a little massage on the side once or twice a week while the kids r at school. the point is, I dont understand how he can b away from us for hours then come home and go on his phone and play a gam or on the computer looking for car parts for hours. he finally stops at around 9:30-9:45 to sit on the couch next to me and falls asleep. I get a total of 15mins a day with him. we do text during the day or I will meet him for lunch once or twice a wk. but I need more. and this is great too, he doesnt initiate sex, I always do. I feel unwanted and alone, unappreciated. I have told him these things but he says I do love u. its not enough I need more from him, but I feel if I say too much it makes me seem ungreatful for being able to stay home. I tired of trying and now im just hurt and mad

He is doing that because he know you don't have a high self esteem. Nobody will love you if you don't love yourself. Take a vacation away from him for ten days. Go to Jamaica or Haiti or Hawaii stay at a resort. Pamper yourself, make new friends. Let him feel like you are desired by other people. Walking around the house in sexy cloth with a carefree attitude, when he is leaving to be with his friends, smile and tell him to have a good time than walk away with a smile.than get on the phone with your girlfriends. Do that for as long as it takes for him to notice. Leave the house before he gets home and go out to eat and than call him to tell him you had an errand to run. If he gets angry about it tell him you have a life too and you just want to be happy with or without him and that you love him but you are not his doormat. Than walk away, if you sleep on the same bed go sleep in another room, if he love you just a little the new you will surprise him and it will make him desire you.

I know this is an old post, I found it as I'm going through a similar somewhat situation. Hopefully its been resolved. However i would truly question what he is doing and with whom on the weekends. No one wants to believe that someone we love would cheat, but the reality is it is very common and much of what you say sounds like typical behavior of one with outside interests. It's definitely not normal to spend all free time with "hobbies" I would ask him directly about it if I were you.

If you are pg then evidently you are having sex

Guess what-- any guy, even the best one will fail you. That's why you need somebody else to turn to for identity. I don't know what your faith life is like, but God's love for you is so deep that no human being can match it. Your hurting heart is something He cares about! Self-reliance won't help you, but reliance on Him will. Don't go for the divorce lawyer, go to a counselor and find a good church if you don't have one.

I have been married less than 6 mos. We are not kids. 2nd marriage for me - 3rd for him. I knew he loved his hobby and accepted it. I accept his having to get up for work at 5:30 am - I moved an hour away from my job, my children, and my new grandson - to accomodate him. I do everything for this man - cook, clean, shop, rub his feet, buy him gifts, watch his badly behaved dogs, etc. etc. and we've been out ONCE together in nearly 6 mos. His reply to my growing discontent.. " You knew what I was when you married me." Yes, Selfish/Self Indulgent/Impulsive/Reckless with Money/ alcohol abuser/and cell phone addict. I learned he had no respect for me ( or any women) and began calling me names. I have my own business and share none of his money. He called me a money *****. He gives me NO money. I mean.. where did I go wrong? Anybody?

I have read the stories ,yes I live in a sad place there is nothing here . We now sleep in diffent rooms .. sex what is that , never bring it up any more I quess I am tired of being treated like crap . hopeless

i have the same problem with my husband.. he doesn't show any care and affection.. when i'm sad or angry.. he does nothing to console me.. just like you lilmama.. there's no goodnight kiss.. no more talking... etc. etc. i also tried everything to make our relationship better... but it seems that he doesnt hear anything i say.. all he know is.. i should be the one who will adjust.. <br />
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now.. i asked myself.. do i still love him??? if im the only one who will make our relationship work...we'd rather separate... i feel un-love.. and its killing me... even he sees me im down... he cares not... arrrggg! im so down and lonely

I have read your post and im going through the same thing, been married for 16 years and we had our up and downs and i have made mistakes in our marriege. Lots has happend now and my husband has stoped caring abt me and loving me and no affection. It hurts so bad and theres nothing i can do now. Im so lonly that its killing me so much.

i fully understand i have been with my husband for 13 yrs. and i have been through same for many years. i was the housewife and gave everything up. i stayed home and watched the kids. he has always been provider. finally i got tired of being home sad and got a job. i felt independent and he did not like it at all. he was all over me and acted so inlove with me .11 yrs later and then iam taken to dinner dates and he takes me for a night out. at that point i felt independent and tired of being his second choice. i met a person who gave me attention and talked and listened to me. then my husband finds out of my affair and he decides to forgive me and we decided to move on save our marriage. but he has never forgave me. i got pregnant after 9 yrs of our last child so that my husband can forgive me and see that iam willing to be how i used to be. i have a wonderful lil girl. along with my 13yr girl 12 yr girl and 9 yr boy. all my husband wanted was to make me pay for the mistake i did. he made my pregnancy so awfull. argueing and bringing back what i did to him over and over. i finally find out about an affair hes having and wants to leave me. we end up back together and we thought being even we can still be happy and move on, well then i find out he was tryin to cheat or was with 4 other people too. and now i get with a so called friend that tells me that he said that he always has put his family first. even when he had 2 affairs before. not like me i was going to leave him. we still together but know i feel like iam jus his wife so we can give our family a family and stay together for our kids, i cry everyday and think of what i shoyuld do.

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I got my husband a puppy for his birthday, and if he's not on the computer (I usually am), he's sleeping, or taking care of the dog. I am starting to hate being on the computer , and he pays more attention to the puppy than he does with me. We're going on a trip in June for 10 days, and Im wondering if he'll be able to survive without that puppy. I am not even sure I have someone to babysit it. I wish I never got that dog for him, he wonders why Im so depressed. I mean, she's a cute pup, but right now, there are other things I'd rather be doing than worrying about what Im going to do with the pup for our trip coming. He seems to put it all on me (what to do with her for the trip) and I tell him, well, its YOUR puppy, YOU figure it out! I do not know.

Draknt21: I AGREE WITH YOU! It's totally annoying. Men are from Mars! Ugh! and We just don't make sense to these creatures. I think that the secret to getting past these annoying moments with him is to have fun! Every couple is different. Maybe you can shape the energies and with a gentle bending of his ear he's going to hone in on the same frequency and EUREKA!!!!! In the meantime, experiment in various ways how you can find these different energy frequencies. Make is a playful game for you. Make him see you happy and laugh for no other reason than being happy to just be with him. Maybe he will get a clue but he will have started to change. I know that 10 minutes of solid attention from our man would make us so happy. They suffer from ADD. ALL of them! He's got to be your soulmate since you met as children. Even brothers and sisters are annoying through the ages! Problem is people get boring and stale. they get lazy. At least he doesn't have itchy feet! We grow up faster than men do and maybe many things about him seem childish. You feel lonely because you are confused but finding mates isn't always easy if you were to start over again and sometimes we don't get two chances of finding our soulmate. maybe you can find a hobby you like to do while being in the same room together, that way he knows your with him but not needing him to be with you but you're both doing something together that you like (kniting, scrapbooking, soduku, crafts, etc) and this might make you feel less lonely and happy.

Your story is more common than is believed but many of us fail or give up too soon. It's painful and we really feel for you! I think you shouldn't take these things "personally", even though it feels as if it is. Perhaps if you think of it as something biological that happens to men and women after children are born, perhaps the positive aspect of this whole situation is that he is WITH YOU and the children at the end of the day. This IS the testament of his love, fidelity and devotion to you! If this spark of hope can help bring you comfort and joy, it will bring you peace to your family. Keep him close! Give him plenty of affection! Spend time talking with him. Do things together! LAUGH! Most of all, stay friends, and communicate constantly and you will find that through the years and and as the children get bigger and leave the nest, the love of your husband through the years will have grown! Remember to maintain & create the warmth and the happiness in your home that will make him happy to be at home. You are so lucky to have found a man like this! Keep him! Keep working on it! Stay on the path! Have patience and be courageous. No one said it would be easy. The goal is that once the children are old enough to start their own lives, you will both have the life for each other and friendship means everything. He's going to adore you for your patience, your wisdom and for being an exceptional wife and mother! Stay happy and know you are blessed! Keep working with him!

I FEEL UR PAIN AND FRUSTRATION.. ALTHOUGH MY HUB DOESNT GO OUT MUCH..ITS USUALLY VIDEO GAMES N TV EVERY SEC HE IS NOT WORKING. WE FIGHT N COMPLAIN ALL THE TIME. I KNOW THIS ISNT HEALTHY. I KNOW HE LOVES ME BUT ISNT IN LOVE WITH ME.. HE SAYS HE WAS IN LOVE WHEN WE WERE KIDS (TOGETHER FOR 8 YRS) AND NOW THAT WE ARE MARRIED THAT LOVE IS STRONGER BUT NOT A CHILDISH INLOVE.....(??) HUH... <br />
SOO THAT MEANS WHAT NOW?<br />
I'VE NEVER FIGURED THAT OUT BUT I AM ON THE VERGE ON MOVING ON..BUT ITS SO HARD.. I CRY ALL THE TIME.. HE MAKES SO MUCH TIME FOR HIS HOBBIES AND HIS OWN ENJOYMENT BUT NOT MUCH TIME FOR ME.. <br />
WHEN I BRING THIS UP HE SAYS, WHAT ARE U TALKIN ABOUT WE JUST WATCHED DEXTER OR SOME MOVIE ON TV!..THATS SPENDING TIME WITH YOU..<br />
UHH NOOO... YOU WERE WATCHING IT AND I SAT DOWN TO WATCH IT TOO.. OR I WAS GONN WATCH IT ANYWAYS ON MY LAPTOP.. <br />
OR HE SAYS WE JUST WENT OUT TO EAT! WE ALREADY HAD FAMILY TIME.. <br />
UHH NOO WE WENT OUT BC U SAID U WERE STARVING. <br />
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ITS JUST SOO IRRITATINGG!! <br />
HOW TO I GET HIM TO COME TO HIS SENSES! <br />
OR AM I WRONG.?? <br />
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HELP PLS..<br />
-LONELY N CONFUSED AT THIS POINT