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My Widowed Mother-in-law

There are people who simply enjoy making others unhappy or miserable....by saying things that hurt or sarcastic......or there are  people whom they can be happy and superior than you, but not the other way round......2 good examples are my widowed mother in law and my husband's sister.....though things may have had happened more than ten years ago....

When I first married into the family back in May 1993, whenever my sister-in-law came to visit my mum in law, I would joined them and sat together with them at the dining table as a family.  But I realised, they had never really accepted me as part of the family but as an intruder instead.  They were both discussing what to buy (costume jewellery) then and I was left out in the conversation.  From then on, I had never joined them anymore.

There was one occasion whereby I realised my mother in law bought nice bead shoes from Malaysia & I saw a pair of bead shoes in  my sister in law's house.  My mother in law had never asked me if I wanted to buy or anything.  It hurts me a lot though I acted as if I didnt care at all...but in actual fact, I did care how they treated me........I was always left out but they were very nice to my husband and my two boys...........can anyone tell me if you were me - how would you handle thes situations?

Recently my husband had fininshed serving his 6 month job contract and I resigned my job as an Admin Executive because I had an extremely demanding and difficult lady boss who didnt have empathy for others at all.  But what upset me most was that we have to depend on my mother-in-law financially at this point of time.....

During this time, she always buys gifts for my husband and my 2 boys and honestly - secretly inside my heart, I was so afraid of losing my husband and my 2 boys to her as she is financially better than me.  Deep inside my heart, I felt she is trying to win them over to her by showering them with gifts.  Worst off - I have to depend on her financially though I didnt like her at all.

Recently, I feel I was losing respect by my husband and my boys as I am not working now and I have no money.  What I saw was my husband and my 2 boys were on the verge of being won over by her by her money and gifts....I really feel very bitter and depressed....

I couldn't take it anymore as my husband and my elder son had been ignoring me lately but always sat together talking happily to my mum in law instead.....I felt so angry and upset......despite of how much and how well I had taken good care of them by cooking them nice food, washed and ironed their clothes etc etc.....I felt I am losing out to my mother-in-law because I have no money at the moment as I was not paid by my ex-employer who refused to pay after I had resigned from the job.....

I am angry, disappointed and depressed....why did God let these things happened to me?

 

 

 

 

JWTeo JWTeo 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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why dont you just chill out.....