I Dont Think Its Gonna Work


my husband and I have been married for 7 years.  We have 2 boys and a girl from my 1st marriage. He is a perfectionist, proud, always has to be right, insensitive, impatient, and can be mean. Im not a perfectionist at all and a hopeless housekeeper which I told him about when we first met,and he said he didnt care. Now he puts me down every day and hardly ever gives Today he went off his head because my daughters room was messy.  He fought and he said Ïdont want counselling anymore, you are not changing I am wasting mytime.  I pointed out that he isnt treating me any better.

I am about to give up. I still love him,but I cant take being broken hearted every day. I am a good wife and deserve to be loved and nurtured, not put down everyday and always told how hopeless I am.

My heart is broken. I dont know what to do.


teddybear95 teddybear95
41-45, F
5 Responses May 12, 2009

I agree with Jennifer and doctorirwin.....KICK his *** to the curb so you can move on. There are plenty of GOOD men out there that will appreciate you as you are and work with you to make a happy home. Good Luck...and take care,

Jennifer, he is abusing you. Maybe not physically, but it is abuse nonetheless. It sounds like you need to get out before he starts in on your kids. Also you do not know what they will take from this into adulthood, and into their relationships.<br />
I wish you all the best and hope you find happiness.

Jennifer,<br />
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It doesn't matter what the problems are or may be. There is no excuse for anyone treating another like this. Nobody is perfect.... nobody. You are who you are and if that isn't good enough, then there is no relationship here. You need to respect yourself and help your children. Neither will happen with this kind of influence around. A real partner helps you with your self respect and gains strength from their interactions with you. That clearly isn't the case here. Find someone who will accept you for who you are and is respectful. Better that you and your children are on your own than to have this kind of negative influence in your lives. Best wishes.

I know how you are feeling. My husband is very self centered and does what he wants when he wants and does not care how it affects me or our children. I pretty much don't do enough right by his standards. He is a hunter and by gosh that will come first by all accounts. I am not sure if I have enough love to become happy again with him. I am very discuraged as well.

J it appears there is something deeper here within him than your lack of housekeeping. If you can get to what is really bothering him you may be able to save your marriage. If you can't however, you will either have to accept what you have or end it. Either way it hurts.