For Now

I'm a lot more open online than offline. I'm generally a shy person and will say very little when talking to people in real life; especially if I dont know them very well. And I often miss out on making comments because I'm pausing for a minute to think about what I want to say and people assume I dont know the answer or that I'm not listening. I'm just a lot more cautious with what I say irl and take longer than I should to say something.

I feel a lot freer to be myself when I'm online. I dont have to worry about weird looks or as many misunderstandings. I can usually take a moment to type a reply and be sure it's saying what I want it to say. I can also be as silly as I want without ridicule.

But, I'm learning to let myself be myself offline too. I'm learning to just speak my mind (when asked, of course), and be as silly as I wanna. It's still a work in progress though. So, for now, I'm different online. I hope that will completely change soon.

Other than the chronic shyness, everything else about me online is the same as offline :)

mimsy2 mimsy2
26-30, F
8 Responses Feb 23, 2009

you don't know what to say when you don't care.<br />
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or all you want is to "receive" anything from him - recognition, approval, etc.<br />
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online is less pressing cos you don't have immediate benefits to receive, so you have your time to respond and say logical.<br />
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i say you i mean i of course. it's personal i don't know what's right about you.

Because it's really awkward when you dont have anything to talk about. I still feel that uneasiness with close friends. I dont want to be quiet all of the time and appear dull.

hmmm. shyness. i was sort of shy too.<br />
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i sometime have that awkward feeling of uneasiness when i don't know what to talk about with stranger. <br />
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why?<br />
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got to read...

I'm like that too; getting extremely shy offline when I'm perfectly fine talking to the person online. I find it helps if you start with phone or Skype conversations cause then they can see that you're shy on there and know what to expect. Also, you can grow to be less shy over the phone after a while by getting used to hearing the other person's voice.

I am the same way; I'm extremely more open when I am speaking online with someone. The downside to that is actually meeting the people you talk to online in-person, especially if you've developed romantic feelings to the person prior to meeting. I had talked to someone online for a long time in high school, then re-connected later online for about a month before meeting in-person for a weekend. I don't think he was expecting me to be so shy; I wasn't expecting the whole situation of meeting someone you've opened up to online in-person to be so terribly awkward to me. Basically I was in an anxiety-attack state the whole weekend; dry mouth, couldn't sleep, extremely tense. I tried telling him that I would be quite shy when we met, but I don't think he was planning on me being shy at all and he wasn't feeling it with me the whole weekend, which made me even more awkward. When he went back home he all of a sudden got terribly busy and now he hardly ever talks to me anymore. He says he just thinks we need to meet up again, but I'm really not into it anymore. It's terrible, because I feel like we had the potential to be something really great, but the initial shock of the disjunction between my online and offline persona ruined everything. It's not that I'm a different person online; I'm the same person I am when I reach the point of "warming up" to someone. It's just that meeting automatically makes me regress into the shy, awkward girl I usually am when I first meet people (I'm even more awkward during this, I think because the person has known me online and has expectations, it's just bad). I just never had the chance to warm up, but I was never given the chance. Maybe it would be better if we met again, but at this point (it's been a few months of just short, nothing conversations every once in awhile) I really don't see a point in putting myself out there again. Oh, I don't know what to think...

The interweb is a good tool for us shy people :D

IAM SHY OFFLINE AN ONLINE AN MY PERSONALITY IS THE SAME AS IT IS ONLINE AND OFFLINE ... YET I DONT SPEAK ALOT CUS WHEN I SPEAK I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY; AN NOT JUST GOSSIP, SO MOST SEE ME AS SHY WHICH I'AM CUS MOST PEOPLE ONLY WANT TO GOSSIP SO I DONT SAY NOTHING TO MANY PEOPLE ... ANYWAY, JUST LIKE WHAT IM DOING HERE EXPRESSING MYSELF ... I DO OFFLINE BUT ONLY WHEN NECESSARY !!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am completely the same way! There are no boundaries for us online!