My Mother Died After Childbirth At 28

My mom died at the young age of 28.  She died from complications from childbirth.  (blood clot). She never made it home from the hospital with my new born baby brother.  I remember the night before my father went to get her suitcase. It was around 8 p.m. and I was waiting in the front of  the hospital with my grandmother.  In those days you had to be l6 to be a visitor and I was almost 7.  When my father came down with the suitcase, he told me to look up my mom was blowing me kisses and waving.  I couldn't see her because my eyesight is bad.  I didn't wear glasses until I was 8.  I wish I could have seen her like my father and grandmother. They kept pointing and saying look she's right there. We took the suitcase home.  We had ballons and a cake ready for the home coming.   She died 10 hours later at 5 a.m. and she was found in a pay telephone close to her room.  I had been staying with my grandmother.  My mother's sister lived on the same apartment floor.  I heard screams in the morning and ran out to the 5th floor.  My grandmother and aunt were hysterical and all the neighbors on the floor were out there too.  Then my grandmother started yelling your mommy is in heaven.  It's 50 years ago but I remember everything so vividly. I remember how my life went from heaven to hell in less then 24 hours.  I moved in with my grandmother and my new born brother went to live with my aunt.  My father and mother were married very young and he was only 27.  He fell apart.  It was too much for him to handle. In 2002 when he died I buried him with my mother. I feel  very sorry for my brother because he doesn't  know how wonderful she was and how much  she loved him.  He didn't know my father until he was older either.  When I  was young I often wondered what our lives would have been like if she didn't die.
rosey122 rosey122
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5 Responses Jul 22, 2010

I lost my mother 1 month after my 12 th b-day. That was 40 years ago and I remember it like yesterday. She died suddenly from a stroke at age 35. My life changed dramatically and went to hell too. My father was too wrapped up in his world of dating to care for me, and I was left alone to grieve and to raise myself. From age 13-18 my life was horrible and those feelings have stayed with me my whole life.<br />
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I feel different from everyone else, I don't know things others seem to know, I am alone a lot. I still cry for my mother.

oh, what a touching story. Isn't it crazy how big events in our life seem to somehow define who we are. My dad lost his dad when he was 6 years old, and felt depressed about it his whole life. I lost my mom when I was 26 and about to give birth to my oldest daughter. Then when my youngest was 7 months old, and I was 33, my dad fell to his death outside our house, by a heartatck. I have 3 childern who will never know my parents. Hugs to you and the hurt child inside you and your brother.

My mother died suddenly of meningitis when I was five years old. One day she was sick and my father drove her away and she never came back. Our lives were totally changed, moved away, cut off from my mother's family, cut off from friends, father remarried. I became a bedwetter and was sad and lonely. I tried to forget but that is not possible and so now I embrace her memory.

Citlaly, thank you for your thoughtful words. I know your mom's anniversary will be very difficult because its very recent. When you lose your mother at any age you do lose a part of your soul. A loving mother is the greatest gift God can give anyone. Your mother isn't physically with you but her love and spirit is always close by. You will always miss her but the pain and the hurt will lessen. I am going to join the group you suggested. Blessings, Rosey

iam so ,so sorry my condolations are with you !<br />
but ifeel they are with you they protect you like a guardian angels !<br />
ower loveonce somex communicate in dreams they would let us know that they are oky .<br />
they would let us know how much they love us!<br />
MY MOMALSO PASSED AWAY NOT LONG AGO IT WAS LAST YEAR IN AUGUST 25 SHE DIED OF TERMENAL CANSER I MSS HER ALOTE SHE WAS MY SUNSHINE MY LOVE AND SOUL WHEN SHE DIED I FELT SHE TOOK MY SOUL WITH HER SO I KNOW HOW YOU FELT !<br />
ROSEY122-I HAVE A GROUP CALLED I WANT TO SAY LOVABLE WORD TO MY LOST LOVE ONE <br />
YOUR WELCOME THIS GROUP IS LIKE WHEN YOU HAVE A LOST LOVE ONE AND YOU DIDNOT GET TO SAY LOVABLE WORD SO NOW IS YOUR CHANCE TO SAY WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY IF YOU LIKE YOUR WELCOME ROSEY!<br />
PEACE AND LOVE TO YOU MY FRIEND!