My Mom Died- In Disbelief

My mom passed away November 20,2012.. She was only 49 years old. She was sick for a long time (had a lung transplant 8 years ago and her body gave up) I don't know what to do it doesn't seem real at all and I want to call her everytime one of my kids does something, she always loved that. I just feel so lost and heartbroken and it doesn't seem real. Last week with the funeral etc seems like it might have been a dream. I know there is nothing that can fix this and that the worst is yet to come. I'm only 29 and I have to spend the rest of my life without her, I am so so sad and lost, everything seems different now, this Christmas is going to be so hard
Krystynnaa Krystynnaa
3 Responses Nov 28, 2012

I know how you feel, my mom died on 11/23/12 and it still feels like a horrible, horrible dream. I am still trying to cope with this "new reality". I just can't go it alone, I am going to go for grief counselling. You may also want to seek some counselling (group or individual) with kindred spirits who can help support you through this time. You may want to keep a memory book in honor of your mom. Take time to capture those precious photos of the children, write down the stories you would have shared with your mom. This memory book will be a keepsake in years to come.

I know how you feel, I just lost my mom december 5, 2012 she was only 53, and I just turned 30. I don't know what I'm gonna do with myself! It doesn't seem real! She battled pancreatic cancer for 21 months, it was a tough fight she had to fight! I was there when she took her last breath, and still somehow can't believe it!
Only time will heal us (some) there will always be a scar.....

You have my sympathy. My mom passed the day after Thanksgiving, so I know how you feel. I am also feeling lost and heartbroken. Thing is I am 48 and it still hurts, but I do feel bad for you losing your mom so young, and at such a young age for your mother only being 49. All I can say is hold on to the positive memories. It sounds like you had a good relationship with her if you were calling her to tell her about your kids. In the end that's what matters.


My condolences on the loss of your mom. My mom went to heaven on 11/23/12 the day after Thanksgiving. The pain of losing my mom is bad enough, but her siblings (four sisters) all stopped talking to me after her death. My aunties were all upset that I followed my mom's living well, which allowed her to pass away with dignity and without prolonged medical procedures and medicines. The pain of losing most of my family is almost unbearable.