Disowning My Mother

My parents separated when I was 18 months old. The first time I met my mother I was 13. My sister was 15 and curious as to who she was as she never made contact with us after running away with another man. Throughout my dealings with her I got a lot of people who had been friends with me for years telling me that my mother had been saying very nasty things about me behind my back. My sister on the otherhand was getting on famously with her so I did not confront her in order not to ruin their relationship. I decided it better to ignore her. That was nearly 15 years ago and in 2006 I married my wife and decided to try to patch things up with her for the sake of my sister. Invited her to our wedding and wanted her to take a major part in the procession. She was thrilled until 3 weeks before the wedding my wife rang her to remind her of the rehearsals. My wife received an outburst of terrible abusive language as to where we could shove our wedding. So from here on I decided to disown her, not for the way she spoke about me on the phone to my wife but because my wife had to listen to that verbal abuse from someone who is supposed to be a mother. I spent my teenage years asking myself why I was such a bad person. What I had done so wrong for my mother to hate me. In the end after looking through all the incidents that happened I realised that she has never had a place for me in her life. That is something I have to accept and build a future for myself without her in it. It took me a long time soul searching. But I hope anyone who is going through a similar situation it might give you a bit of strength
Thank you
Be happy
Trev