My Love Eternal... Gone...

My wife and I began as friends and worked our way towards falling in love and were so close to one another that even today after our divorce we still remain best of friends... Somewhere along the 10 year marriage I was told we lost the passion and although my wife was away for some years due to medical issues, I still loved her from afar and was eager to be with her... We talked all the time on the phone and over the internet and it was during this time she asked for a divorce... My heart sank and of course depression and madness ensued which thankfully I got over a year later... Only in the last few months had I seen her again in person in the hope of rekindling what we had lost... My love for her will never go away and up until now she remains in my heart as the only woman I will ever be in love with... I have no incline to be with anyone else but her and I wish that she had confided in me earlier about the lack of passion so that we could have tried our upmost best to fix this together since it was the only area lacking in our marriage... Thankfully we still talk to this day online as she is overseas once more... I miss so many things now that she's gone and wonder if there is any way we could be together once more...
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10 Responses Jul 16, 2010

You are not alone. Many of us are still in love that the person that we married, even though divorce or death may separate us. I gave my Amy a divorce at her request even though I did not want it. I released her because I loved her. We are still "friends" to a degree yet I miss our conversations and doing things together. It feels so empty sleeping in a bed all by myself without the best friend that I ever had. I have chosen to remain single for the remainder of my life. I had my one true love. There will not be another. My life has taken on a new phase and we must accept that many of the things in this world are beyond our control but life cannot take away the good times and the memories. It's OK to miss someone. It's OK to shed a tear. It means that we have a heart. It means that we are alive.

My wife of ten years left me for a former friend a year and a half ago. The affair lasted only briefly and I thought we could make our marriage work again. I was willing to try anything. I forgave her and put a lot of the blame on myself for pulling away emotionally months prior to the affair. As of now there's no chance I can see she will ever come back to me. Her mind is made up and she's moved on. I miss her every day almost more than I can bear. The idea of being with someone else, of starting over, makes me sick to my stomach. I'm 45 years old and I don't know what's worse, the idea of spending the rest of my life alone or the idea of spending it with someone else besides my ex wife.

Well from the other end, I married a man that was divorced for seven years had two grown children by her with two grand kids.<br />
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I thought this man loved me heart and soul.I moved in his home with all her things left behind because she took off with another man married him but her husband died,while he was engaged to me. Now I am finding out the hard way my husband will never be over her no matter what he tries to say. It took me months to find this out he hid it very well. A women knows when she is not truly loved and she also knows when she was used.<br />
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I have child involved in this mess.<br />
He bucked me when i went to put her things away. I asked kindly maybe their children would like to have her things some they took a few things but most is still here. <br />
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I was sick when his daughter got married and could not attend the wedding.He was gone for hours,I finally talked with him and he admited he hurt to be around her and was upset because she was talking to a new man not soon after her husband died but that fell through now she is free again, but he stated he wanted to try and work out our marriage, I see no signs of this he mentioned her today to the point it broke my heart into, I can't live like this.If she would have him back he would kick my daughter and me out in a heart beat. I don't want a man to try and love me he should have loved me before he married me.<br />
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I did not know this before I married him and gave up my home. Now were trapped with this man until I can find a place to go with my daughter as my work is only part time due to the economy where i live. This is pain and suffering at it's very worse.I stored most my stuff in boxes in his storage building not to mention the things i lost. <br />
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So men if you are still in love with the x and can't let go of your past to have a better tomorrow , do not drag someone else into it. It's cold and unfair to the person you may use to pay her back or trick her and yourself into beliving youu are over her when your not.And that is what he did, their is to much to put down here it would take days.I am deeply hurt and upset to find this out.<br />
She is living with his grown daughter so to see his grandchild he does have to be around her a lot. She has no income so my guess the bomb will drop anytime when her new son-in law gets sick of her being with them and he already is.

I'm personally a little crazy, so I'm in the process of getting my ex-wife back. I blamed her for everything after our divorce while we still kept in touch. Then I had a realization that not everything was her fault and that I indeed need to work on myself much more than she needs to change. So I've let her know I'm in the process of changing and that I will do whatever it takes to get her back. She seems to be fine with. So I say to do all you can to improve yourself and prove it to her by changing and you just may get her back. Just be careful of your ego, as it can very easily incline you to go back to old behavior when with her. You'll have to treat the situation as if you both met for the first time and not make judgements or bring up the past, as it no longer exists. I'm doing it because she's intelligent, sexy and overall just a wonderful person and I believe that the flaws I see in others are the flaws I see in myself; a mirror reflection. That's just me. I'm willing to fight for what I want and for what I believe in.

all i can say is that the womn is a very unfortunte person.

I certainly feel your pain eekba. I've given up trying to get over my EX. I still love her with all my heart. There is no end to my love for her. She betrayed me and left me for another man. Married him and it lasted about a year. I have our daugher every other weekend and baby sit for her frequently. So I see my EX frequently and I just want to embrace her and tell her we can work everything out. I had hoped after her last divorce was final we might get back together. But no chance, she's about to remarry again. I just can't get past what we had. I've tried and now I've given up. I'll always love her.

It's so sad. There is this and then try reading the forums on people who have man trouble.....

You know i agree with mmcgaugh , Life doesn't stop there. You can't just stand there in the middle of your road of life looking behind at your past but you have to move on . We all fall but if we fall 10 times we stand up 11th . I know sometimes it is very hard to let go of the ones you love but you have to if you want to live your life . Start new again , meet new people and i think EP is a good way to do that . If you need anyone to talk to you can contact me . =)

mmcgaugh might be right. It is sad, how things have turned out. She probably lost plenty by leaving you but you should go out and meet new people. He's right, you never know.... <br />
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I am very happy to hear you two are still good friends. Good friends are hard to find and it is rare for divorced people to be friends after. That in itself is special and is someting to be thankful for.

I can tell that you still love your ex-wife. However, one reason that you still love her is due to you living in the past. You have to realize that your life and her's have moved on. Even if she came back that does not mean that things will be the same, and more than likely they would never work out. It is great that the two of you are still friends. That means that the two of you are still a part of each others life. Start putting your energy into getting out and meeting new people, You never know but maybe someone very special just might walk right into your life.