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I am divorced. I am a single mother and, this is my story.

My marriage was honestly D.O.A. It had all kinds of wrong written all over it but I thought I was superwoman and I could conquer the impossible. 
It took me forever to realize I had married the wrong guy, it took me another forever to make up my mind to leave him.
It has taken me a long time to get over the separation plus the divorce.
I´ve had to battle to overcome depression, anxiety and social pressure. I thought for a while that was not going to be possible.

But time heals everything, yes, even the deepest wounds and now I feel I made the right choice.

I can´t imagine how I put up with that misery for so long but 
, the ever famous hindsight is letting me see where I went wrong and why I should never miss having a man like that in my life.

It´s been quite a long story but with a Happy Ending. 

underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17, 2008

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Good for you. Are you happy now?

The ending is what matters! Glad you weathered the storm.


Yes, been there and done that too. It took me ten years to get out. I look back on it now and realize I only stayed because of the kids. We were all miserable. It's been years ago now, they are all grown up. Yes, time is a healer. May your life's journey take you down a much happier path.

Cey, I had no idea! Glad you survived that too..

Oh thanks my friend, how are ya, long time no see! :D

Just following up to see how things are going. Take care, and best wishes going forward. :)

WOW, I would very much like to massage with you, we have a lot in common.... I cannot because your settings will not allow me to.... I must be a friend in your circle.... :(

Congrats to you, and best wishes always. :)

That's amazing good story welcome to the single world lol

Congratulations to the new you. I went through the same process. I didn't want to leave but absolutely knew I had to for my own sanity and piece of mind. I had the ups and downs just as you did.....I am in a great place now in life and looking forward to the future.

I've been single since febuary. I wasn't married to my ex but I was with her for fifteen years. I want to move on but I have no friend's except the ones I have here. I have made myself over into the man that I used to be plus the man I am know. I'm a heck of a lot stronger mentally and physically then in the past. What do you recommend construction? Do I keep working on me ?

I am a new man know and feel great. For once in my life I'm bettering myself for no one else but me so I can be a better version and a better dad.

Yes,time does heal a lot:)
Glad you are in a happier place!

Here's to a happy and fulfilled future!

Most marriages are cages for marriages where they put love, good that u escape

Very happy ending, im glad that you have sorted things out in your life and that your moving on, have an awesome life and what ever you do just be you. See you around.

That's wonderful! What made you finally decide to take the final step to leave and that it was enough?

Divorce can be hard but when you realize you deserve a better, happier life and build the strength to go through it to better yourself and your life it does set you free...Enjoy your life and find things that make you happy, Never put yourself second....Congratulations.....!!!!!

Happy for you to made a wise choice eventually.How's everything going Ma'am?Hope all fine.

I'm glad for you... and best of luck for your new life. I can see that this story was written in 2008 and I hope you are doing better now.<br />
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However, there is something that bothers me - the plate about two comments below me... is he for real?

You are inspiring I could not have said it better. It seams that there is a pattern and in between is a void that needs to be fixed hopefully at start up. Human whisper

I'm glad you were able to move on! My marriage was DOA also... and I wonder if I will ever have the strength to leave.

I am so inspired by your story. I am in a relationship with someone i need to get out of. And yes i had my moment of clarity a while back, like what am i doing. I see my future ahead of me, but i have not yet found the strength to move on. Its my fear that is holding me back. Fear of what ifs, and because he is bipolar, im afraid to leave and he is going to find me or something. I know i have the courage, its just being blocked. I don't say i wallow in self pity, i know i am responsible for my own actions. But is he, no. He is not responsible and has no compassion or no love only for himself. I see that, have spent years trying to help him, but only found myself drowning in his misery. I am bringing myself out of that whole step by step and i give you so much credit for being strong and leaving. I will be there sometime and i hope to share my story as well, and hopefully be able to inspire someone to make their life better. Congrats!

awesome, congrats on your new, happier life!

I'm glad that you made it through the rough times you lived in terrible marriage then being a single mother. I am striving to save my newly marriage and make our baby live in healthy envirenment but my wife doesn't care

This is great! You made it out!! I am going through that too! It has taken me the last three years to decide to leave! I can't believe it, because I should have never believed the lies. Good luck and I hope you find the happiness you deserve!

Yes Superwoman we all make mistakes. Some take longer than others to make an adjustment. The adjustment takes some getting used to. You are far younger than I in this respect and should work out real nice for you. <br />
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I am still working on the adjustment. Gettin' better.

Thank you and repeating the appropriate title to this story :<br />
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YAY !!!!!!!!!!

Thank you all for your kind words and good wishes.<br />
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I am certainly in a much better place now and as time goes I realize leaving that unhappy marriage was the best decision I could have ever made.<br />
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All my best to you all as well :-)

You go GIRL! My marriage started on the wrong foot, started limping and collapsed recently. I'm emerging from the rubble though and it's weird to say this but I NEEDED this soul shaking experience for me to grow up and face all of my issues. I'm such a different person now and working towards being spiritually stronger instead of cowering in the face of truth as I once did. With every day that passes, I leave a little bit more of the fear/anxiety/darkness behind and gain a little bit more love/optimism/light. Everything is going to be okay after all :)

I'm glad you're happy, I think you're an inspiration, more people should live for happiness rather than routine

CONGRATULATIONS!!!... for your successful journey so far!!!