Yay!!!!

YAYYY!

Dear one, they often say about Divorce/s : I'm going to set You free coz I don't deserve You. I deserve BETTER.

:))

CHEERS!

Love to The two Angel/s.

Prayers.

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and, all s well that end well..

Prayers.. :)

I'm glad for you... and best of luck for your new life. I can see that this story was written in 2008 and I hope you are doing better now.



However, there is something that bothers me - the plate about two comments below me... is he for real?

You are inspiring I could not have said it better. It seams that there is a pattern and in between is a void that needs to be fixed hopefully at start up. Human whisper

I'm glad you were able to move on! My marriage was DOA also... and I wonder if I will ever have the strength to leave.

I am so inspired by your story. I am in a relationship with someone i need to get out of. And yes i had my moment of clarity a while back, like what am i doing. I see my future ahead of me, but i have not yet found the strength to move on. Its my fear that is holding me back. Fear of what ifs, and because he is bipolar, im afraid to leave and he is going to find me or something. I know i have the courage, its just being blocked. I don't say i wallow in self pity, i know i am responsible for my own actions. But is he, no. He is not responsible and has no compassion or no love only for himself. I see that, have spent years trying to help him, but only found myself drowning in his misery. I am bringing myself out of that whole step by step and i give you so much credit for being strong and leaving. I will be there sometime and i hope to share my story as well, and hopefully be able to inspire someone to make their life better. Congrats!

awesome, congrats on your new, happier life!

I'm glad that you made it through the rough times you lived in terrible marriage then being a single mother. I am striving to save my newly marriage and make our baby live in healthy envirenment but my wife doesn't care

This is great! You made it out!! I am going through that too! It has taken me the last three years to decide to leave! I can't believe it, because I should have never believed the lies. Good luck and I hope you find the happiness you deserve!

Yes Superwoman we all make mistakes. Some take longer than others to make an adjustment. The adjustment takes some getting used to. You are far younger than I in this respect and should work out real nice for you.



I am still working on the adjustment. Gettin' better.

Thank you and repeating the appropriate title to this story :



YAY !!!!!!!!!!

Thank you all for your kind words and good wishes.



I am certainly in a much better place now and as time goes I realize leaving that unhappy marriage was the best decision I could have ever made.



All my best to you all as well :-)

You go GIRL! My marriage started on the wrong foot, started limping and collapsed recently. I'm emerging from the rubble though and it's weird to say this but I NEEDED this soul shaking experience for me to grow up and face all of my issues. I'm such a different person now and working towards being spiritually stronger instead of cowering in the face of truth as I once did. With every day that passes, I leave a little bit more of the fear/anxiety/darkness behind and gain a little bit more love/optimism/light. Everything is going to be okay after all :)

I'm glad you're happy, I think you're an inspiration, more people should live for happiness rather than routine

CONGRATULATIONS!!!... for your successful journey so far!!!

Good for you,move on and don't even thank of going back. It would kill you and your family. I thank it is good to take your time no matter how old you are. I too went through that for only 3yrs. and got a divorce with the help of my boss and good friends. Enjoy your life!!!!!

Way to go Ms.underconstruction, u have a strong foundation now :) good luck from now on, things will only get better for you.Love and peace :)

Yea! Good for you.

Well I guess that describes mine too - bad start and no recovery, and now no intimiacy either... after 5 years, only 2 living together, it really feels over...

Thank you all for your encouraging comments :-)



Yes, by D.O.A I meant a relationship not a person and it means exactly Dead on Arrival (as in , my marriage started on the wrong foot and then it all went downhill from there).

I am new to this site - I love this thread, so many cool comments - but now I have to ask - what is a DOA ? Dead on arrival ? I can see that might apply to a relationship ( like mine .... -_- ) , but not a person we live with ;)

Please help the newbie to understand ...!!

Don't worry, I'm working on divorce #3. And, I'm only 29! They either cheated, abused or both. I am not sure I believe in love or much of anything else anymore. I suffer from Bipolar Disorder II and a few other things, including chronic pain (possibly FM). My husband calls me a faker. Who wants to live life like this at 29? But, who wants to live with a 25 year old man-child that throws tantrums, yells and is verbally abusive? I've already got two 10-year-old-boys. I don't need another son. You're not alone. I wish I could be positive on the depression part though. It is only getting worse with age. But, I gotta get these papers out of the way! So, I can either sleep well eternally or not wake up attached to this punk (to put it nicely)! I hate being alone. But it's lonelier when the person you want to love you only loves himself.

Isn't it an amazing feeling to peer over the edge of the cliff and see how far you've climbed.

Nice comment mlf1070...that was very funny. Underconstruction....it sounds like you have your stuff together now. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!

mlf1070> thats the best belly laugh i have had in months.



My sides are killing me! Thank you!



underconstruction> you are inspirational, you rule!

I am so happy for you and glad for me for finally reading a happy-ending story. I am also a mom and stuck in a bad mariage (plus sexless to boot!) and hope one day to see the light at the end of the tunnel. GL to you

mlf1070.....that is hilarious!



I'm very happy for you, UC. And for the little squirt. Does he participate in raising her?

Thank you , Myonis. So true. As they say if there is a will , there is a way, and if there is a way then its time to move on :-)

I'm glad you're out of that mess. You and your daughter are better off, as you know. So many people don't get that moment of clarity, and sometimes when they do they don't have the strength or means to do anything about it. Self pity is fine - for a bit. Wallowing is fine - for a bit. But if there's a way, then it's time to move on.

I totally understand, been there......done that. Other people handle it differently. I was just too sad and overwhelmed for a long period of time but once I had my moment of clarity things changed, and they changed for the better. Looking back on it I owe this sad episode of my life the strength and courage I have found in myself and the best gift life could have ever given me, my darling little daughter.