I was married for 17 yrs. and pysically, mentally, verbally and emotionally abused. My husband had a drinking problem and treated me like a sex object more than a wife. I've had things thrown at me, thrown across rooms, joked, pushed, he would treat me like a ***** around his friends. I begged him to go for help but he just looked the other way. We have 3 children together and I saw as they got older how this violence started affected them. I did leave him it's been 2 yrs now and have been nothing but harrassed with phone calls and text messages,most having to do with sex. He has been diagnosed with bipolar, obsessive compulsive and an alcoholic. He claims he has changed but I've seen too many times in these past 2yrs that he hasn't. If he didn't change in 17yrs of marriage he will never change. He wants me to do what he wants and when I say "NO" he gets very defensive. I am now in counseling because I've been emotional destroyed and very deep in depression. No matter what he says or does I still feel sorry for him and don't no why because I hate him for what he has done to me. Co-dependency? I need advice!!!!