Oh Boy, my husband and I had the talk... Kids. We decided to start trying. I am excited but keep having doubts.

I hope and pray that our child would be born with his ability to read and write and do math. I would want what is best for it right? But then I worry too about how this kid would feel about me. Will this child lose respect for me as he/she gets older and finds that they are more competent than I am at doing things? Will they think I am stupid when my husband has to read subtitles from movies to me? I am not stupid by any means. My husband and I get along so well because we can have great intellectual conversations. But I worry. Will my child see it that way? Maybe I am just being paranoid. It just secretly scares me. I Haven't said anything to him yet. Dosn't seem worth it to. Anybody out there with kids that can tell me how it is? am I right to worry?



SelfishFool SelfishFool
3 Responses Feb 20, 2010

I am going though the same thing right now. I don't know what to do.

I am a non-dyslexic parent of a dyslexic child. He's 13 and he thinks I'm stupid. I don't think this has anything to do with dyslexia as I remember how stupid my parents were when I was a teenager.<br />
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If your child is not dyslexic, he will learn from you that dyslexics have much to offer and that no one should be judged on their ability to spell or read out loud fluently -- these are simply skills and do not define the character of a person.<br />
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If your child is dyslexic, he will learn from you that he's loved as he is, that he is accepted as he is and that he should never let anyone tell him he's stupid just because he has a different brain architecture.<br />
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Either way, your child will be a better person for having you as a parent. Good luck to your entire family.

This is Jim. I know how you are feeling. Would you like to be a part of a study that I am working on (my dissertation) that may allow for others to understand what it is like to live with a learning difference. My e-mail is . What is needed from you is for you to tell your life's experiences. Many people don't understand this perpective. Thanks, Jim