I've been told by many people that I'm very easy to talk to so I guess it's true
Fred363 Fred363
18-21, M
3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

So like seriously, is there a trick to this?! I mean I'm entering high school and I couldn't hold a conversation if my life depended on it. I just find it so hard conjure up all thoughts in one place and produce a sentence. I've tried everything!!! I've looked up on the internet how to be popular and stuff like that. I even have trouble talking to my own siblings. I'm really nerdy but everybody always tell me how attractive I look, so I'm guessing that's not the problem. So maybe it's my confidence and low self-esteem. I honestly don't know what to do. I'm to the point were I might have to start cursing. I've never really cursed cuz I'm a good girl but I sometimes curse to myself. It's so much easier to be outgoing cuz literally whenever you don't know what to say, you can just fill it in with with a curse word and continue. I'm one of those church girls that usually don't do anything crazy but I really don't know what to do.

I'm not popular either, not many people at my school like me, but they don't talk to me, they make me mad instead. Although the people that do like me and do know me think I'm cool ( I don't think I am) I don't curse except in my head either. I have trouble keeping a conversation going when I don't know a person, but if I know them for more than a couple of days and really get to know them, I can talk to them. I also have problems talking to my cousins. I'm still trying to figure out what to do myself, but it's not that I have a million things to talk about, it's that I can talk about a lot of different things and if I don't know what someone is talking about, maybe down thing similar that you can both agree on, I hope this helped a little at the least

Lol it actually did help. I now have hope that even though I'm completely anti-social I can find real friends. People who don't care that I'm not getting sent out of class everyday or that I'm not always the center if attention.
Thanx ;)

Happy to help

Also, I try to get the person to come up with the conversation and then just go along with it, I mean don't agree to every single thing they say, you have your own opinions, but talk about whatever they want, that's what I do if I have trouble coming up with a topic

Let me warn you that I'm a very seclusive person, so I never have any idea what the conversation is about. Such as the new rap song that just came out?? Or who won what Grammy and who didn't??? Or even who broke up with who and who is going out?? Which is honestly all anybody talks about. Also all tHEY DO IS GOSSIP!!!! Like, my mother always told me to never start drama and wherever Gossip goes, drama follows. So then I'm sitting there with nothing to say and no one to talk to. And everybody always wants the juiciest information, but I'm always the trustworthy friend. So I don't talk about anybody or tell secrets. So like, should I gossip or not??? I mean, my whole 8 years of school I've never gossiped but then I've never really had a group of friends either. I've literally only had one friend, but we had to go to separate middle schools. (which by the way are the worse years of my life so far, just like every normal person my age) So like, what do I do???

I'm the same way, I never know what's going on, I've just stayed with the people who are easy to talk to and we can relate and I'm sure there's going to be new people at your high school that you can make friends with, I'm not trying to make this sound like it goes for everyone, it happened to me, but the first time I had a friend that was a girl that wanted to talk to me everyday was this past year and I'm going to be a senior, so that was a first for me to have someone that I never thought I'd talk to, just because I'm too shy and she's pretty popular and I'm not; but that was the first time someone wanted to talk to me that wasn't in my group of friends. Middle school was pretty bad for me too so don't feel bad

Lol again.... Thanx ;) you may not kno but this advice is actually very calming cuz I'm starting school in 2 weeks :)

Good, I'm glad

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I think i`m too easy to get along with I tend to go along with whats going on at the time. but can be take the controls kind of person.

Same here

Hey I believe it!

Haha thanks