Loud

I am a loud person.  At least once every few weeks I am told this usually in a condescending voice.  "you're so loud" uh "you are so rude".  I am tired of saying sorry for being loud.  I don't have a hearing problem - just loud.  Guess what I ain't changing, however I always feel that I have to shut up cuz I disturb people and let's face it their day is much more important than my own.

I am loud for 3 reasons:  my sister has a serious hearing loss always have to be loud for her to understand me.  My mom is from Jersey - enough said and lastly my father rather would pay homage to his TV, book, etc. than pay any attention to his children. 

I am loud therefore not wanted.  Thank you so much fellow humans for teaching me to basically shut up and that what I say doesn't matter.
gurucarcar gurucarcar
41-45
2 Responses May 8, 2012

I know you posted this a long time ago, but I came across it and felt an urge to respond. I think I know how you feel--I always feel loud at inappropriate times. It sounds like what you do is certainly not on purpose, and I don't think you should be made to feel ashamed of it. Perhaps you can find a way to negotiate this issue: on the one hand, you can try to be conscious of your volume when not around your family. On the other hand, you can be clear to people who react condescendingly towards you. If someone tells you that you are loud or rude, try and respond with absolute honesty: "it wasn't on purpose, and I'm sorry if I disturbed you, but there's no reason why you couldn't ask me to be quieter in a kinder way." Think of it this way: you may be a bit loud, but they are acting unkind for not considering your intention or feelings. Nobody is one hundred percent conscious of their actions all the time--we all do things without meaning to. You shouldn't feel badly for simply being human.

i think you guys/gals are cute........shakes everybody up