Intimacy Without Intricacy

Why is it always hard to get or maintain an intimate relationship with a person without any complications. Every intimate relationship in your life is accompanied by a package of conundrums that involve jealousy , secrets , backstabbing ,bad mouthing ,possessiveness ,hatred. Even though we don't notice them now , they will definitely show up eventually.
theDrifterr theDrifterr
18-21, M
1 Response Dec 7, 2012

Expectations. What most fail to do is set proper expectations prior to transitioning into an intimate relationship. Unfortunately, hooking up and asking questions later is now the norm in our culture. Most really don't take the necessary time to get to know the person they want to establish a relationship with. It's like buying a used car. Common knowledge is that you have it checked out before purchasing. Even with a new car, we should look at reviews to determine if it'll be right for us. Unfortunately, there was no CarFax for my Ex. The point I'm trying to make is that we tend to foolishly rush into relationships, whether committed or casual. Slow down. Get to know who you're dealing with before you invest your feelings or emotions. You can sometimes see more of a larger picture at a distance.