An Article About Estrangement

I think this might be of interest to you:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/dec/15/becca-bland-estranged-parents

It is my story about being estranged and my feelings around this time of year. I am also, at the moment, starting an organisation that brings people like ourselves together. Would you be interested in joining?
beccabland beccabland
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2 Responses Jan 7, 2013

Hey CaliforniaSun,
becca.bland@gmail.com or @beccablandish is my twitter account. Hit me up and we'll go from there.
Becca

I am possibly interested in joining your organization. I have been estranged from my family for almost 3 years, and have found almost no support, anywhere, for people like us. What little support there is tends to be geared towards those who desire to reconcile with their estranged family member, not those who wish to remain estranged.

In my opinion, there is way too much emphasis on reconciliation. Reconciling isn't always the best option, and sometimes it is better to detach from family, especially when they are toxic or have done something to harm us.

I personally have no issue in saying that I am estranged from my family. It is what it is. But I do get some "looks" when I tell someone that I am no longer in contact with my family of origin. I don't care what they think.

I am aware that I am the exception in this--most people in my situation either can't or won't tell the truth, I'm not sure which. It isn't like family estrangements are uncommon or unusual, but it seems to be taboo to be estranged from family, even when there is a valid reason for that estrangement.

I have written two stories in this section: "My Brother Turned On Me" and "There is Too Much Emphasis on Reconciliation", if you have any interest in reading them.