Looking For Suggestions

I am becoming more and more estranged from my son. I was stupid and allowed his "fiance" to move with us to another state. Needless to say, things are not good. I am financially supporting the two of them and things are not going to plan. I am tired and want to send her back home to her parents. The relationship between her and I is destroying what was once a great relationship between my son and I. He is 30, she is 21. I am so miserable in my own home, but I don't want to lose my son. Any suggestions?
Choppedlver Choppedlver
51-55
1 Response May 8, 2012

I'm sorry, I can hear the hurt in your words. Can I ask why you are supporting a 30 year old son? The girlfriend, in all honesty, is not the problem. I would suggest that the problem lies with your son, and his being okay with you not only supporting him, but his girlfriend as well. That shows great disrespect towards you in my opinion. I would question where your level of self-esteem and self-worth are at. If you are not strong enough to throw them both to the curb, then this will continue to be your life. Consider seeking outside help for yourself first. Once you understand the power you have over your own life - only then will things change. I wish you the courage and strength it will take to make positive changes in your life, and ultimately that of your sons. Good luck.