Understanding Adolescence.Young adolescents have three major significant needs that must be met for them to grow up healthy and strong.
The first is the need to have a strong identity. Children need to be able to answer "yes" to three questions, she said: Am I loved and loving? Am I normal? Am I competent (or really good at something)?
The second significant need is to have good friends, to be a member of a group and to be a valued member of that group.
Third is to have opportunities to learn concepts and skills that challenge their growing brain power.
Both the parents involving themselves in an adolescent's life is very crucial at this stage in their life. Stastics reveal that, Only one in five teenagers report spending time with their fathers daily,"
While boys mature between the ages of 12 and 18, and girls between 8 and 18, every child's biological clock is different and maturation is a process of fits and starts.
Psychologist G. Stanley Hall wrote the first major work
on adolescence in 1904. He characterized adolescence as being a
period of Sturm und Drang, “storm and stress.” Rather than being an
idyllic calm between childhood and adulthood, it was in his view a
The basic thing you can do to help your adolescents now is to treat them as much like adults as possible. Obviously there are some
restrictions on what the law and other people will let you do. For example, the law will not allow them to work for wages, but you can
see that they learn to work at home. Although they cannot legally earn much money, you can still see that they learn how to handle money wisely. The law will not allow them to marry, but you can help them learn how to get along in a family relationship. Even if other people expect your teenagers to act irresponsibly, you can expect them to be responsible.