This is my story(the most recent anyway)

November 23.2008 I was sitting at a red light and I was rear ended by an idiot that never even saw me.  I was in a f150 4door truck with a load of firewood in the back.  He was driving a BMW.  He didn't even slow down.  Anyway I thought I was OK at the time.  I was wrong.  Since Nov 23rd I've been to hell and back. I can't work, Can't drive, I have to wear a back brace.  I have an open incision on my back.  I can't bend over, I can't push, pull hold anything over 5lbs.  I have to wear this stupid thing that shoots electrodes in my back so the fusion they had to do on my back will heal faster.  They had to scrape bone off my hip and use it to build the crushed vertebra that the idiot crushed when he rear ended me on Nov 23rd.  But, the thing that hurts the most.  The thing that is hardest to handle.  The thing that I find hardest to deal with....over the brace, the pain , the lack of any kind of life.......is this.  My "husband"  has not been to the Dr with me once, not ever.  My"husband" didn't take me to the hospital for surgery.  My husband whined and yelled at me on the phone when he had to come pick me up at the hospital.   My "husband" just likes to bark at me and tell me I need to walk more.  How does he know?  He's never even MET my Dr.  Much less asked what will help me or hurt me. 

He's not really my husband.  My husband died 10 years ago.  :(  He would have never treated my like this.  OK, so this is my life.  I'm stuck, I can't work, I have to heal.  So, I can't leave, yet.  I'm not sure .....I'm not happy, I hurt, I'm alone with someone else....that's the worst alone.

loreese loreese
3 Responses Mar 17, 2009


I know how you feel my husband is an idiot and let me down just after major surgery. And like you the man who was REALLY my husband died 25 years ago. I wish I'd never bothered to get married this time.
I can't leave because of my child....well not just yet.
Keep your spirits up, heal yourself and then plot your escaped.
Love and hugs Xxx

Always look on the bright side of life. Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.So Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.<br />
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God bless you…….:)

I am so, so sorry this happened to you!!!! I was rear-ended by someone, too, but I was fortunate enough not to be injured. The person who hit me while I was sitting in traffic hadn't taken his medication that day, and was living in the half-way house in front of which my car was idling in traffic and he failed to notice the traffic had stopped ahead.<br />
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The injuries you sustained are so dreadful. And you have no support when you need it the most. That doesn't sound like a relationship that is making you very happy. I am so sorry you have to stay in it while you are healing. Heal quickly, with my prayers.