Troubled Mind

Well my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and have been living together for almost 3 years. The problem is that I've noticed he has been hiding things from me, things like making up fake facebook accounts and having a secret twitter account. Normally these things shouldn't be a problem in a relationship however it's what he is doing on these social networks that has been bothering me. I recently discovered he is adding multiple girls and flirting with them, saying and using dirty language. I imagine these girls believe he's single.

It hurts to think about him wanting other girls. I've tried talking to him about what he's up to and that I know, but he just gets mad and total denial. I don't know what else to do or say. He's my first boyfriend and we have a lot of history. But I can't live like this, always wondering.

Sometimes I want to leave but I'm scared I don't really know life without him. I want to be happy but he isn't the same guy I fell in love with. What should I do?!
advice is greatly appreciated.

Please no bad feedback.
Rantedout1 Rantedout1
22-25, F
3 Responses Sep 14, 2012

My wife doesnt know about my EP acc.,,, that doesnt mean Im on here chatting up women,,

Leave, you cannot change anyone...they have to change themself!!! Your feelings are valid and matter!

Walk away. I know it hurts. I've been there myself. I've learned a lot in my relationships. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self to leave. I would tell her that this isn't what love is. That everyday you allow this, you lose your self-esteem. One day, you wake up and there just isn't any left. You've allowed someone to take it from you. The damage is done. This is your first relationship and I promise it won't be your last. We tend to love people who are as emotionally healthy as we are. You won't find someone who treats you well until you start treating yourself well. Trust me. These people don't change. It will only get worse. If he can hide these things from you now, he's capable of hiding much bigger things later. I know it hurts. I know you're scared. You can do it.