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So….. had my heart broken……… been exactly 2 months and 20 days now…….. how do you get over someone? Well for starters, it takes time. As much as this sucks, it’s true! I wish I could just erase all the memories just by snapping my fingers and be normal again. But unfortunately things just don’t happen like that. The first few days, life is hell. You just try to get your head around it, clawing at all the thoughts racing through your head, desperately trying to cling on to a memory that might help you salvage the situation. You want things to get back as they were, when you were happy and you just keep on torturing yourself……….. this can last a few days or weeks…. You are tearful, angry, hurt……….. you go through a whirlwind of emotions that shift from love to hate…….. Life has suddenly become very oppressive, dark, cold, menacing and full of hurt………. You just yearn for your other “half” that has been so traumatically amputated from your soul………. Eventually as the days go by, you start becoming accustomed to the fact that the other person is no longer in your life, in fact they have already moved on………………. They are enjoying their new found freedom, meeting other people and having fun. They don’t care about your feelings anymore. All the time that you spent together, all the secrets that you shared, all the promises that you made to each other….. that’s all gone! It’s in the past! The sooner you come to terms with this (and trust me on this one, it’s bloody hard to!!!) then the easier it is to start to letting go. Letting go of what you had and realising that it was just an illusion!!!! .Once you’ve made up your mind that you can’t salvage the situation, that you can’t make up and get back together…… then that’s the beginning of the healing process………

 

andersfrench andersfrench 26-30, M 7 Responses Sep 24, 2009

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I'm sorry and I totally understand your pain. It has been 8 weeks since my heart was torn into pieces. I stay with him but seeing him everyday is a reminder of how much he has hurt me and a reminder that we change, our love, our relationship change. I wish, I was as strong as you or as many ppl seem to think of me to walk away. The thought of moving on is more unverable than the one staying. I am glad that you are at the end of the tunnel, stay strong and I hope to follow your steps soon.

as for me, moving on is the best thing to do.<br />
make urself a better person.<br />
go to the gym and work out.<br />
go to parties, do not alienate yourself.<br />
hang out with your friends, that's what they're for.<br />
have the time of your life. <br />
make sure that when he/she sees you, that you don't look pathetic.<br />
it will just make them turned off by you.<br />
no one likes to see a moping, crying person.<br />
you don't win them back by being broken down.<br />
make everyone look up to you as you should be.<br />
believe me you'll have more admirers for they will see how strong a person you are.<br />
NO ONE IS WORTH YOUR TEARS AND THE RIGHT PERSON WON'T LET YOU SHED ANY.<br />
I myself would just move on as life should be, think about living.take care of yourself.<br />
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im not going to comment much...i agree with u and with them (up there). the pain is part of healing. allow urself to feel that but be sure not to be bitter. go out and mingle with others. allow urself to grow with this experience. u r strong. u will find the One eventually. :)

im not going to comment much...i agree with u and with them (up there). the pain is part of healing. allow urself to feel that but be sure not to be bitter. go out and mingle with others. allow urself to grow with this experience. u r strong. u will find the One eventually. :)

i symphatize with your emotions....i've been there to the point that i received a ring! it was sooooooo damned difficult to forget and been two mos also up to date!<br />
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we can make this!

Thank you Crystal Clear, Evania and Sisyphus Rex for all your comments. Yes, I will get through this! :)

Wow; what a poignant description. I am sorry that you've hurt like that. It seems that the relationship was out of balance. Proof is she is not hurting as you. That's something to always look for, balance. Otherwise one stands to hurt more. It probably is a challenge to keep the balance, but necessary. Then again, I don't know that much either. Sorry man. I think you're on your way and you've probably grown and matured as a result of this heartbreak.