ComplimentsI struggle with compliments for a variety of reasons.
One, I come from the understanding that when you're first meeting someone or haven't seen someone in a long time you will usually comment on their hair or what they're wearing to break the ice. Yes, its nice you took the time to notice and say something nice, but I knowe often times its there to break the ice.
Second, I feel feeling good about said compliment digs into self esteem. For a person with a lot of esteem the compliments are constantly coming. They get them a lot. A person with lower self esteem tends to want those compliments, craves them to make them feel good.
What about the person in between? Like myself. There are days whre I receive a compliment easily. I say thank you and comment on something back. I easily take the gesture. On the days I am not feeling good about myself I don't want them because if I am commented on an area that I don't believe in myself it makes me think about that and how I hate it. It brings atttention to those areas wherw I am insecure, and I am already struggling with the day ahead.
I know compliments are suppose to make a person feel good, but for me they don't always.
deleted 26-30 8 Responses 3 Feb 24, 2011