Always Slighted On Mother's Day, Birthday, And Christmas

I raised 3 children by myself. I worked 2 and 3 jobs all the time to keep us afloat.I always managed to attend everything the kids had going on, including endless ballgames, dance lessons, etc.....I never forgot a birthday and they might not have had boo coo stuff like other kids but I did my best and at least I was always there.
My son did call and wake me up at 6 am this morning because he wanted to be the first to wish me a Happy Mother's Day...he needn't have worried...the girls never called or anything. He did offer to take me to dinner but he was out on a job and has been gone for 4 days working...which I understand that and thats ok....his job does come first. I am so thankful he is working and has a good job.
The kicker here is my youngest daughter recieved over 200 gifts when she graduated from high school last year. Now she is wanting to get married and she has had several offers of people wanting to give her a shower.  She wants ME to call and set that up. She also wants me to take her for oral surgery this week to have 5 teeth cut out. Really? She went and had engagement pictures made today. I mean that IS more important than your mother right?
The oldest daughter...well what can I say? She has always thought everyone else should come up to her level...the sad thing is I don't get to see or talk to my little grandson, who is 7.
Funny, I have been kinda upset today (to say the least). And I was sitting here feeling all sorry for myself and I just googled "forgotton mothers on mothers day" and it brought me here. I never dreamed there were so many of "us".

At the other end of this equation is my own mother.  I sat across the table from her at the family reunion last week. She wouldn't even speak. I tried to talk to her and visit with her and she wouldn't even say jack squat.  But then she never has been nice to me...why would she start now.  She does her best to come between me and my girls and I just don't understand why everyone just can't get along and be nice.

Boy, I could go on and on and on. The bottom line is this......people do not have a forgiving spirit about old/past hurts, young people are self-centered and don't care about anybody else, everything is me me me, kids are having kids without any parenting of their own, and it is just sad. What is even sadder is it is only going to get worse. God's Holy Word assures us of that.

Prayers going up for all women who felt left out and neglected today. I wish you peace and comfort. Please be assured that the One who loves you most is aware of your pain. Seek Him in all ways and He will carry you. This night if you can go look out and see the moon and the stars, just look up at them and know that someone is saying a prayer just for you. Not only is this mother saying prayers for all of "us" mothers everywhere but she is sending you great big ((hugs))......Much love to all from somewhere in Oklahoma........... 
lordee05 lordee05
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7 Responses May 13, 2012

I - for some reason - typed "forgotton mother" into my browser, and it came up with this letter from another forgotton mother. So many similarities, one son, 2 daughters, brought them up alone, without help. Worked 2 jobs and put them first in my life. I do not see my daughters children and sending me a card for any event was never a priority. Neither with my son who has treated me very badly. My youngest daughter is influenced by the other two, but she does try to keep in touch, but not very often, she says she is busy.. It hurts so badly. There is no pain like it, I feel. For your children to turn away from you is like having your heart ripped out... I awake at night and think about it, and it feels so bad.

My mother too has come inbetween my children and myself. She is taking over my role... Yes, the similarities in this ladies letter is amazing..... I thank her for posting it.....

I am mad I was forgotten, I mean I am the least materialistic person you will ever meet, and I made sure that my boyfriends mom had a nice gift, that my daughter got a gift for her aunt, who spoils my daughter rotten. I reminded my daughter, who is 15, and she was out and about the day before mothers day and had plenty of opportunity to pick up little something, to spend 10 minutes thinking about me, but she did not. I had to work mothers day, of course, and she wakes up and locks herself in our computer room, making a card for me which she gives me when I get home at 4pm. On her birthday, and the bf's, they wake up to a nice display of cards and gifts, special breakfast, etc... on Easter too and what do I get? Bunk, and even if the kid did not want to buy something she could have cleaned the house or sometghin

Wow what a sad story and what an amazing spirit you have. I hope every neglected mother finds this story. It should be one of the featured stories. I don't know how to recommend it but I'm going to try to figure it out. This really blessed my heart. Everything you said was as important as the next. Thank you for writing this. I wish all children would read this too because they may be able to see their hurtful behavior for the first time and it may reinforce other young people to still keep appreciating their mom more than ever.

Wow what a sad story and what an amazing spirit you have. I hope every neglected mother finds this story. It should be one of the featured stories. I don't know how to recommend it but I'm going to try to figure it out. This really blessed my heart. Everything you said was as important as the next. Thank you for writing this. I wish all children would read this too because they may be able to see their hurtful behavior for the first time and it may reinforce other young people to still keep appreciating their mom more than ever.

Wow what a sad story and what an amazing spirit you have. I hope every neglected mother finds this story. It should be one of the featured stories. I don't know how to recommend it but I'm going to try to figure it out. This really blessed my heart. Everything you said was as important as the next. Thank you for writing this. I wish all children would read this too because they may be able to see their hurtful behavior for the first time and it may reinforce other young people to still keep appreciating their mom more than ever.

These stories about mothers who were forgotten on mothers day hurt me :( I'm not a mother but I can like.. feel your emotions. :( I'm so so sorry. I'm the oldest out of 4. I'll be 25 in September and I thank god everyday for blessing me with a mother like mine. I always remind her how special she is and how much I appreciate everything she did for us. So on that note (and it's late) I care. Happy belated mothers day to you both. <3

I was trying to convince myself that it didn't matter my son "forgot" to call me. My daughter is a mom so she calls - however, I'm convinced that it is my son-in-law who started that trend a few years ago - before then, never even a call. A card is totally out of the question! My 32 yr. old daughter finally remembers what day I was born on. For some reason, she always thought it was a day after my bday. Never have I forgotten a birhday, Christmas, etc. Raised both myself and worked hard to be a good mom and provide for them as well as being loving and patient. I was not a saint nor a perfect mom but we are close and they know they are loved and I know they love me too, yet feel so empty because of feeling forgotten. Amazing to find that I'm definately not alone. This is to wish all of us forgotten moms with heavy heart today much love. I have never nor would I ever do this to my mom.