Tires You Out ...

I watch my p's and q's pretty consistently, but have you ever found yourself talking with someone who claims hurt from most everything you say because they're either taking everything the wrong way, or out to goad you ...  taking offense even if you're agreeing with them ...  haha ...  that's funny ... and sad ...  It's an arguementative waste of minutes, unless something good comes out of it all.  Your patience and understanding get a workout while your trying to figure out a clearer way to say the same thing ...  that's egg-shells to me ...  I don't know about anyone else ...

gottaBhappy gottaBhappy
51-55, M
8 Responses Mar 4, 2009

Hey deftone, to be honest, I don't know a mom's guidance ... I didn't have to take what I did from an authority figure ... I count myself lucky ... I think you had to! ... I couldn't believe what I was seeing the first time, it came out of the simplest comment. But she kept talking. Sorry to hear your mom is that stressed, and she takes it out on you. My friend has sons your age ... I can see why you're moving away and rendered speechless. It's pretty hard to just nod your head all the time without having a thought or two to vocalize ... and when you do ... it puts you on the defensive how she responds. She needs to talk it away. If you can't do it, that's okay man, what can I say? It's intense ... Do what you gotta do, and be happy while you're young, man ;) ...

Hey, ShellFinder, thanks for your take... my thinking is that if they are that sensitive, and I'm 'choosing' to put up with it, even though it is drama, and of course I'm being manipulated, it's something they are looking for and need. Maybe I'm wrong for helping out, so if I'm complaining in my post ... I have no right. I was really just trying to summarize a very complicated experience ... <br />
I'm offering my friendship de facto so they know I'm a friend. Ever have a friend vent at you, and they didn't treat you their best? Same difference. In 5 months, she's nearly back to content. Believe me. That was an effort to even get that far, sorry, I have to remain vague :) ...

I had to do that with my mom.... it sucks. I think she a big part of why i take meds. We dont talk and im moving to another city. She could say something and it would be alright but god forbid you say anything to her. She was very selfish. me me me .

When people are that sensitive, simply tell them that your not into their drama and not into being manipulated. If they want to act that way, they no longer have your friendship.

Yes, TendereyesPrincess really hits the nail on the head always, I find. I nod at her frequently, as I do for you lovis4u :) ...

A path of less resistance is always the way to go, but not always allowed by some ... With you helping clear my way, I pledge to not be as silly next time! Thank you TendereyesPrincess for being so sensible and kind :) ... here, let me get the rest of those shells ;) ...

I used to wear a plaid shirt, I don't wear that one anymore ;) ...

yes i definetely have . some people you have to watch everything!