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Aquarius Men Are the Most Challenging!

They are the most difficult men to catch! The light up like fire crakers at the beginning- so charming, very sexy...than they just want to be friends? 

I did not got after him- he came after me.

What to do? Any other girls out there experience the same thing? First it seems like the love or your life than they turn..!

Strategy? 

Isadora90 Isadora90 31-35 106 Responses Apr 3, 2008

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I dated an aqua man for a year
I am a libra female
He destroyed me more than any man ever. I am 31 he is 33. He always went on about loyalty and trust and how he wants long term and discussed buying me ring having children etc then out of nowhere he said he needs time and space we kept sleeping together and talking daily for 3 months he kept swearing there's no one else and I 100% believed him and thought we were working on things through his "depression" and "confusion of what he wants"
Then I caught him with another girl
Turns out he had been seeing her for the whole time and even asked her to move in and she met his family etc
I will never touch an Aqua again
My heart is completely shattered

Yes I agree. I dated one for 4 months. We broke up recently because he felt I wasn't happy with his new job. Not true. He stopped calling me and made excuses to why he couldnt call. His whole attitude changed toward me. He was excited about me in the beginning, told me he loved me, bought me jewelry celebrated me and then suddenly once he went out of town on a secret job he suddenly want to be friends. They are true heart breakers and every female young and old says they have commitment issues. Cant be trusted and are man ******. I trusted him but he started changing so quickly after his second travel assignment. They will make it seem like its you. He also didn't care for communication. He thought its over rated. Seriously! That is what is needed to have a relationship. Otherwise trust become an issue.I was warned by friends about these particular men but I thought maybe it wouldn't be the case. They like to be free and hate when questioned. Very sneaky and controlling. I will Never wast my energy on these men again. They are draining. Very detached emotionally so they will never understand how you feel. They cant relate. Stay away from them and save yourself.

I love reading about what the world has to say about us Aquas, I'm the typical damned if you do, damned if you don't, caring and giving yet taking and could care less, had a few crushes that never panned out, had a few that crushed on me, then met a little Gem that stopped me dead in my tracks, standoffish at first but I softened her up, we fell in love, dated for a while and got married, that was a mistake, after 7 years her evil twin prevailed and she pursued a more glamorous life, currently dating a dr 20 years her senior (after 2 others), the divorce crushed me and turned me into a monster, I dated, slept with and broke heart after heart after poor old suave Aquarius played heart, probably should've held on to at least 2 of those girls but I was on a mission, met a libra, fell hard, she was a pathological liar but damn could she get the job done in the sack, complete nymph, after we split I went on the warpath again, I'm not proud of it, but I break hearts, it's not pre planned, it just happens, I've been told I'm an amazing kisser, amazing in the sack and bring the best dates to the table, trouble is I can't seem to dig all of the girls digging on me and when I'm really wanting to dig on a girl she's not digging on me, so I just stay single and concentrate on my business, family, friends and interests, relationships have to be mutual for me, I don't like to chase and don't like to be chased, walk with me, talk with me, spend a little time with me, sleeping with me will not keep me, but your thoughts and actions just might......

HELP NEEDED WITH THIS CRAZY AQUA GUY. YOU SAY YOU FELL FOR A GEM AND FELL FOR A LIBRA- HOW AND WHY...I AM A PICSES PROB THE VERY WORST FOR AN AQUA. IT SEEMS LIKE YEA, I AM DAMNED IF I DO AND DAMNED IF I DONT WITH THIS GUY- YES SEX IS FXXGING FANTASTIC, AND HE IS SWEET BUT DISTANT AS HXLL- I HAVE NO EARTHLY IDEA HOW TO GET THIS GUY TO ACT ME MORE INTO HAVING A RELATIONSHIP- I HAVE READ NOT TO PLAY GAMES KEEP IT REAL ETC... I STARTED TO PURSUE HIM- NOW IT IS STARTING TO BE DRAINING TO DRAINING TO FIGURE HIM OUT- I KNOW HE LIKES ME WE HAVE HUNG OUT EVERY WEEK /END SINCE WE HAVE MET - BUT YES, I WANT THE RELATIONSHIP "THING" WITH HIM- WE ARE NOT KIDS- WE ARE BOTH 45 Y/O THE CHEMISTRY AND COMMON BACKROUND IS AMAZING- WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER IT IS VERY TOUCHY, FEELY, SWEET, GOOD TMES BUT YES, I MUST SAY HIS STAND-OFFISH, TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT, DETACHED BEHAVIOR DRIVES ME INSANE... I AM NOT THE TYPE TO PLAY GAMES AT ALL UNFORTUNATLY I SHARE AND SPEAK MY EMOTIONS AND I AM VERY FOWARD; IF I AM INTO YOU I WILL POINT BLANK TELL YOU- AND IF I AM NOT YOU WILL KNOW SO I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS GUY- DO I JUST IGNORE HIM FOR DAYS, WEEKS ETC... HELLLLLP

Many Aquarian men I know wear a "mad scientist" hat that lends itself well to the objectification of women. As much as they like to wax on about their so-called ability to fraternize with women from a purely platonic perspective, they--more than any other Sun sign--are in it for the "trophy wife" who is physically gorgeous, preferably at least two decades younger but well-heeled enough to stand on her own (the easier to divorce her when the time inevitably comes). At the end of the day, we're more a science experiment than anything. Once the Aquarian has exhausted our possibilities he moves on to the next experiment that's caught his attention. In short, the Aquarian man is a parasitical paradox who feeds off the emotional responses of his unwitting victims yet also seeks the higher ground he hasn't necessarily tuned into. If he fails to do the later he remains a monster. Women often feel compelled to respond in kind to the lower Aquarian's head games but doing so only provides fodder for his science experiment. How does it feel to be an object under his cold, calculating microscope? Your emotional responses amuse him. Because he is more human than human, you see, and you a mere mortal to be toyed with.

Yeah, don't deal with them. I've been with my husband 22 yrs. and now he becomes distant and likes to be alone. Very good in bed but doesn't show affection. They are very argumentive and nothing satisfies them always complaining. Just irritating and aggravating. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't at east not with an Aquarius man. Their attitude and personality is just too much.

They are controlling and arrogant, does not and cannot communicate. Everything you say is wrong and you know nothing because you are a woman, he knows everything. They are ADHD, bipolar and selfish. You will be miserable the rest of your life.

Absolutely the truth they stalk you then drop you. The world must revolve around them unless they dont want it to. They are better as friends. They are smart intresting people. But in relationships there partners have to comprimise alot! !!

We are good in friendship not relationship. If you are willing to be our best friend first we'll love you more than whoever! That's us "aquarius"

girl me to, but only thing im a virgo and me and my lover are totally different. been together 5 years and his attitude and personality is so frustrating. One minute we together forever,next he need time and space,wanna be single. girl its too much, but if u really know him youll know how much you mean to them because they will let u know in so many different ways. But if you really love him,stick around ,give him time its just they nature how they act

I've married and divorced twice and both husbands were Aquarians. I've spent a total of 30 years living with these men and know them inside out. While I absolutely adore them I can say unequivocally: stay away if you're contemplating anything remotely romantic. I really can't recommend them for anything beyond friendship or possible business liaisons. I'm an independent, adventurous, free-spirited rational Sagittarian, supposedly among the better suited for the elusive water-bearer, and I gotta say, I attract these men like flies and vice versa. But I've learned my lesson and understand I'm better off as friends and nothing more. The Aquarian is married to the world. You will always be an afterthought.

I totally agree with you! I was in a relationship with an aquarious man for 9 years and it has been the most draining relationship I've been in!!! they are totally married to the world and those they choose and if you're not in that list you have to wait for them until they feel it. My advice to any woman who is not a Gemini or Libra or aquarious, look the other way and find yourself someone who will actually commit and stay committed!!

Yes, and even if you're on their list (which I was) there's no guarantee you'll stay on it. The Aquarian men I've known would really have been better off in the Priesthood or pursuing social justice issues without the ball and chain of intimacy, which they suck at.

To state only Gemini and Libra work best with Aquarians is a bit simplistic. As far as intimate relations go the planet Venus plays a huge role. My Sun is in Sag but I have Aquarius rising. This is a common combination and I believe one of the many reasons Aquarians are drawn to Sag and vice versa. But the difference between Sag and Aqua is the former doesn't take sadistic pleasure in toying with the emotions of others.

Bless your soul woman. Its great when you dont love an Aquarian . The minute you do they will go back to their wives <the world>. The most emotionally painful mistake i made was falling head over heals for an Aquarian male. Never become vested in one and you will have them close. Step over that line and your lost.

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i am a Capricorn girl desparately seeking advice with my aquarius man. we have been together for 1 year and 11 months. next month would make us 2years. i love him so much and he loves me too i know it but we keep getting into arguments and sometimes they get physical. we both have a temper. but anyways......my aqua man decided he wanted to take a break for about two months to think if he wants to come back to the relationship....i am ok with that once i know he'll be back for sure. but the thing is he is never sure. one minute he is cold , and the next he is hot. at first wen the break was fresh we still acted like a couple even though we were on a break. i would constantly chase him around to get him to talk more to me and open up to what he plans to do but he just keeps stringing me along. lately he has started to ignore me. what should i do? should i ignore him back also?

same here with my big head *** boy. no do not you do your own thing too once they see u minding your business he'll realize what he's doing. they are free people thats why they act as they dont need a relationship all the time. make your relationship as a friendship but also give them a challenge some to make them remember and realize u good for them.

I need help someone... So I'm a Virgo who dated a Aqua man 10 years ago.. I thought he was a odd ball b/c we never went out and all he wanted was a phone buddy so after a year I met my husband and moved on. NOw a decade later, i'm divorced and ran into my old phone mate. We talked the first couple of days and he was so sweet/caring. We talked for hours and it was great. Stupid me started catching feelings less than a week and like a idiot I told him that I don't want to get hurt.. He looked afraid, I now understand that I most likely scared him away b/c I don't hear from him so much. So I have a few questions:
Should i be the first one to text him? Should I call him? Or should I just let him contact me whenever he is ready? He did say he's not looking to be in a relationship but if it happens it happens. A decade ago I couldn't get that, so I'm hoping I can charm this guy and one day be his lady. I don't feel like a month has passed these last ten years when we first started talking again and I miss him.. I know this is sad being it only been a week but he's such a sweet heart and such a intelligent guy... So should I just throw in the towel b/c I have scared this man or just allow him to chase me and don't call/text him?

do not im a virgo also. stay away! the only reason im still with mine is because we actually been together for a long time and we actually love each other. but as a virgo women you know how we like to express our feelings alot! they are unemotional people. so in that relationship you will go through so much crying in hurt. but if you really like and care for that person give it a try.

Yes, they are bipolar, bipolar, bipolar. Run for the hills, unless you like roller coasters. Dating an aquarius man is not for the faint at heart.

LOL!

i am a Pisces and I am in very strong like of an Aquarius man..I'm so confused because he gets distant and tends to pull the silent card whenever I ask him what to make of our relationship status, but then he'll turn around and ask me if i love him..i also noticed whenever he is in a bad mood he can say some really mean and hurtful things..I'm not the kind of Pisces who gets quiet and timid whenever someone hurts my feelings..I'm a Pisces with a short fuse and when my feelings are hurt I either shut down or spaz out..I dont want it to get to that point, but should I let it.? is that what it will take to get him to understand where im coming from.?

run for the hills that's all I can say

Much of the same experiences. I have done tons of research and if it hadn't been for online resources...I would've quit him months and months ago.

I met him online 8 months ago. Things have always been slow. He wasn't a charmer...didn't come on strong at all. It started as an email a week for a month..then a text a week...then one random phone call. Sloooooowwwww. We met after a month.

After a month or so he broke it off with me claiming he didn't have time...came back. Broke it off again...saying we never see each other. I figured out the test at this point. So then a month or so later I flipped out emotionally and he said we need to go our separate ways...so having done the research I did on these men...I called his bluff and did no contact for a week...guess who came back. Well that was the last time he has done it.

He finally caught feelings about 3 months into our fwb. We kept things casual and then he changed.

Mine is very flighty. He will say let's do this or that and it doesn't happen..ever. He changes his mind like the wind.

The first few months was a roller coaster of emotions. I couldn't figure his mixed signals out for the life of me. He will blow my phone up for a week or two and then go distant up to a week. I known him so well I can predict it.

He isn't a social being. He likes being alone. He is a rebel and one of the most stubborn men I have ever known.

We have had a rocky road..about 8 months worth. He is cool and fun to be around and we do have a strong bond. He does care about me...its the little things..his actions.

You absolutely have to the friend mentality with these men. Every time I have mentioned a tiny bit of feelings he disappears for up to a week. He does come back stronger each time.

Haven't met family or friends which does tend to bother me...but as slow as he has moved this whole time...I am not surprised. The first few months was a day each week of texts. Now we text whenever.. very seldom calls...but I get a lot more I miss you texts these days.

I just get upset because we don't do much and we have so many similar interests. I think if he would let me in...he would see it. He slowly starting too.


be genuine and be yourself..have the friend mentality..at least for a while. If they ignore you... ignore them back. They do like to chase...let them. He ignored my texts and calls for a week because he injured his back and was in lots of pain..and was "grouchy". So when he contacted me I ignored him...he blew up my phone. In 5 hours I had 8 texts and 6 calls....he completely freaked out. He was in constant contact for 2 weeks after that...every day. Then he got sick
..quit responding to texts again..text to see how he was feeling...no response. So I text him back and said I guess you are grouchy...hope you feel better...call them out.


If you feel they are worth it...learn how to handle them. He isn't romantic...not very affectionate...but he is one of my best friends...slightly addicting. But be prepared for a toxic relationship...mostly on his terms. At the same time stand up to him...and put a little fear into him. When he returns from his aloofness....he will come back like he wasn't gone...I have never mentioned a word about it and just been my relaxed self. I am an Aquarius also.

hey everybody! im in need of some advice! if anyone wants to give me some thats awesome! if not that's cool too. So im a 19 year old Aquarius male, ive had alot of crushes through out my life but beacause of my odd ball nature i usually cant act on them, Ive been in two "relationships" both fairly recently. the first was near the end of last fall,i was lucky enough to meet a girl that was mutually attracted to me! she was really layed back more so than any other girl ive met so telling her i was interested was like asking a good buddy to hangout ( she was an Aquarius too) Needless to say i was stoked! we got to know each other over the fall season and things seem to be going strong, until the middle of winter. she pulled the classic Aquarius distance thing. i found it ironic later on that i had my heart broken by someone who tended to act similar to myself, i like to think that experience taught me a valuable lesson and that i wont be foolish enough to do it to someone who cares about me. in order to forget her and move on i joined the drama program at my school which was one of the best decisions of my life! new friends and even managed to meet the sweetest girl ive ever met ( shes a pieces) through the influences of my new friends i asked her to prom really romantically much to my own shock and we even went on a few "dates" after we graduated. but heres where the problem comes in, i was never able to tell her how i felt, the whole Aquarius barrier thing is no joke. whether it was from fear of getting to close or rejection i could never work up the courage to tell her how i felt. sadly she ended up going to college far away ( all the same i was super happy for her! :) we still talk every now and then but my romantic feelings for her have started to fade. So my question is this: should i try to make it work with my pieces friend? Or move on because the "spark" has gone. And if so how can i express to other girls that arent layed back that im attracted to them. It drives me nuts having passionate feelings for someone and yet cant tell them to save my life! any help will be appreciated!

I'd say after reading an inordinate amount of comments on Aquarius Men traits and behaviors, I gotta say all those negative traits belong to MEN!, not only to Aquarius men. I have to clear the air before all future daters jump on the bandwagon of stay-away-from-Aquaman motto.1. "3 days rule" or whatever crappy rules to stay cool and act like you don't care; it's a frat boy's rules, not Aquarius men being aloof or detached. 2. Aquarius men need space? Who doesn't need space? All men and women cherish their privacy and enjoy a little bit of solitude. It's not Aquarius trait for crying out loud. 3. Aquamen flirts like in a row, there's no tomorrow. Well, is that trait only exclusive to Aquarius Men or ALL MEN? or perhaps WOMEN as well? Sometimes "sociability" is often stretched beyond the boundary and said "Flirting". 4. If you are clingy, they go away. If you stay aloof, they'll come back. What's that? Isn't that common for all those teenagers crush, college relationship. sorority, fraternity and such? When you're young, you wanted to explore more, so you're not looking for a serious relationship. All those negative comments about Aquarius Men, do not ever date an Aquarius Men should be directed towards all D-bags, pla<x>yers, scoundrels, culprits, etc etc etc. --> Here's my story if you care. Yes, I'm a 100% Aquarius men, with Uranus eccentricity, Saturn demon personality and such. (I). I had a crush on a girl when I was 16 whom I still remember to this day, I'm now 31. When I say "remember", I'm not saying sexually remembering, I'm saying that how my memory works. I wanted to talk with her every single day. I wanted to sit and stare at her for like I won the prestigious Nobel Prize. But things didn't work out that way. She's Libra, I checked after so many years of childhood by the way. We were young. We have our future. My constant calling her phone doesn't work as passionate and loving nature of Aquarius men. It came out as "needy and clingy" type of horny teenage boy. (II). When I started my college year, I came across another pretty girl who is by the way Sagittarius. We clicked each other. I liked her and she liked me. All of our friends declared "We are the duo. We match perfectly well, made in heaven." I was floating in the air. I was walking in the air. I called her every day. She picked up her phone initially. But later on, she gave me all kinds of excuses. Only when she needed someone else to kill her time, she picked up the phone. I started develop so-called "aloof" trait. We finally broke up. (III). Life goes on and I moved on. I started to develop "hatred" for dating games. It's all about when to call, how to attract, how to respond, what to remember. I wanted to say "I like you" when I feel like I wanted to say. I wanted to call someone if I feel attracted to. I love spending time together with someone and share our life experiences. But those rules, those games ruin my emotions, my momentum. Fast forward, I tried not to look up the girls horoscope and let the mystery takes me to the future. I came across the French girl. She was very nice, very attentive and I thought we really hit it off. She texted me every day, I texted her every day. I don't have any rules, games. All I'm feeling is I wanted to make her special. Then Boom!, she stopped texting me and calling me all of a sudden. I'm speechless. I dropped her a message if she's still interested. It took a whole day to get "Thanks!" in reply. What else? she was dating another guy behind my back. What's her horoscope? I later found that it was Virgo. If you're wondering "Maybe I'm an exception to the rule." No, I'm not a losery type of Aquarius men. I'm pretty handsome, well-dressed, and most often I got 2nd look from the girls. Not that I'm bragging here. But to give you the perspective, this whole scenario of "Aquarius men are aloof, detached, blah blah blah" while all Men do that **** and almost all Women play that mind games, I just wanted to say NOOOO!. It's not Aquarius. It's the freaking life show where Men and Women try to play games to mate as many as possible!!!

Nicely said

And sex with him is out this world his bad self lol

For the most part the aquarius man can be mean but once he's on earth dude is pretty good. I've dated two but the one i'm with now is so much a woman can dream on. I'm too an aquarius. We couldn't stand each other ugh in the beginning. Then we grew tired of arguing and came to see those arguments ended up taking us bk to the beginning. And he admitted he's not the lubby dubby type and he told me to bare with him in trusting him as he slowly give me his love and i respected that. We both have a child together n she's a leo by surprise leos r cool with us. So if ur settling for an aqua man b patient of he tells u he cnt luv like u want him to cus of his past life and being hurt but trying to fight it all trying to luv u believe him. Once u catch him in luv he never knew he could find. He's all urs but you'll lose him if u force him to love ik it seems unfair but everyone deserves to b loved right

And i'm a february born 1-91
He's january born 31-92

Taurus woman married to a Aquarius man for over 10 years. We have had only a handful of arguments I can count on one had in the past 15 years we have known each other. Like their sign says Aquarius men look for strong intelligent women, if he has to take care of her or if she is weak he will get tired of her fast. My husband has always pursued me even after marriage, it could be because I never let him feel like he has my under his spell. I have my own hobbies and friends and to be honest I let him have his freedom cause I have mine. These men don't like the tied to the hip this with his lover, let him be independent and he will always be around, he is also a great provider once he falls for you, both emotionally and financially. Act insecure, say or do stupid things, be weak minded and you Aquarius man will be gone, or in a nut shell they don't want women who have emotional issues or cry too much. And as a Taurus woman I can't have a sensitive man who is always on me asking me questions about my feelings, it's probably why me and my husband are best friends. I am more logical than emotional unless I get mad, logic is something this sign understands, being emotional over dumb things makes them question their relationship with you. Yes Aquarius men can have huge egos, be brash spoken or even seem unemotional, but if you are a strong woman that can talk to them on a intellectual level and not emotional they will respect you and do almost anything you ask. So putting them in the right direction is easy, if they seem to unemotional or cold, just remember they are introverts and have to have things pulled out of them, but if you can get them to love you there is hot passion under the coldness, just don't be so into yourself and your insecurities not to see it. So if you are a women or even a man who needs constant I love you's, touching, reassurance, passionate crazy fights, or emotional support over small things Aquarius men are probably not for you. But mostly they are there when it counts, they provide for the kind of life style you want, they are fun, humorous and very very witty...and when push comes to shove if and when crazy **** happens where most people would run away, your Aquarius will still be with you. They are a fixed sign with strong qualities and and look for a soul mate that they can call their equal.

U need to understand Aquarius say a lot of crap because they r playing mind games. And not in a bad way... It's to test u and see how u feel based on your reactions. I'd he said friends. Then play the friend card back. One thing I've learned from my aqua male is the less u call, text and say? The more they want u. I'm a leo and I'm very passionate when I believe in something sometimes to a fault. But I did my research on these guys and I am following everything and it's working. .y aqua male told me he doesn't want a relationship right now and "we'll see ". And so I played along. The minute he questioned where I was going and with who? My response? "Why do u care? " and I repeated his words and he was in awe. He knew I wasn't gonna sit around and wait for him and continue my life. That changed him. U need to be aloof like he is and u will see. Don't get me wrong they aren't bad guys they just take longer to committ. Thw more u give them freedom and less nagging, the more he will find u intriguing. I'm a leo and he is my opposite, I researched how to treat him from a female leopard perspective and it's working. I like him more and more everyday as I can see he does to.

My aquarius boyfriend hasnt spoken to me for a month now- he said he wanted to marry me but all I said was he was a culprit over something he said and now hasnt spoken to me- if he loved me enough to want to marry me would it be enough love to return

The key to aquarius men. They have to love you more than you love them. Enjoy them for who they are. Dont try to change them. They will appreciate you & love you deeply. 10 years married virgo female

im glad to hear you a virgo so am i. and me and him love each other so much we done been through so much stuff!

I am so glad to hear you are a Virgo women making it happen with an Aquarius man. I have like/loved this Aqua man since I was 15. I saw him on and off. He's very quiet, doesn't show much emotion, he has never said anything about us but his actions at time tell me he likes me as well and besides why would an Aqua man continue to gravitate towards me (each other) for so long if he didnt feel anything for me. I just wish I knew what his feelings were. I am now 42 and our paths have crossed again coincidently after 10 years.
I walked away from my marriage and him 9 years ago. I was driven crazy. I thought I could handle him since I have had another relationship and knew that those feelings for him were gone after all it had been 9 years ago.
Well I've seen him now 4 times and I am starting to realize that those feelings will never go away, they've been dormant and think they will never go away.
Although I still feel strongly for him....I see myself walking away from him again because I dont think he will open up and tell me how he feels about me. One thing I did notice this time around is he's a little more open, I have witness some emotion from him but didnt hear from him for a couple of weeks. I think maybe he felt he was out of his element and was embarrassed. That just showed me he is real, has feelings and I am NOT crazy!!
SOMETIMES I WONDER IF HE THINKS OF ME well now that I mention that he was reminiscing when I was over at his place, about something that happened between us when we were younger. He was asking if I remember this, that, what I said etc. I was perplexed but I guess pleased that he's reminiscing, good thing? bad? who knows.
HOW IN THE WORLD DO I GET HIM TO OPEN UP?
IS IT A HOPELESS CASE?
Perhaps because my ex is/was a close friend and still have mutual friends together. Can that be more important than a relationship?
For Gods sake we have one life. The past is the past. Cant we just leave the rest of it out, whats left of it, make memories and be happy. Thats all I want.
Confused and Frustrated with an Aquarius.
If I knew if he liked me, I'd wait for him and continue as we are, no pressure.

I'm an Aquarius man. I don't know what yall talkin 'bout. And the Aquarius sign does read me quite well honestly, which is a surprise to me, as I haven't found hardly any of validity in horoscopes or zodiac matchings, etc.

What you may percieve as a man coming to you may be something completely different. I don't know if it is because I am Aquarius, but I naturally flirt with women without intending to. (I've actually never intended to flirt, it just comes naturally) And if a woman is pretty and kind in nature, if she smiles at me I will smile back.

And unlike most men, I will genuinely seek friendship in a woman, not always looking for romance, and I am definitely not a one-night-stand kind of guy. (Which is reason for my still being a virgin, I neglected opportunities for shallow loveless sex)

Meow. I don't know what else to say. If you have any questions, I will answer freely.

Its refreashing when a man is not selfish and misleading to women. There so much a good frienship can offer without complicated emotions, and mind games.

I have been with Aqua man. I did not get attach because I just needed fun and someone and he was there. I am Libra/ Scorpio and I found him very interesting. We were friends for 5 months and he was super nice to me and then he went back to his country and when he came back - OmG. He was so sexy- I do not know what happened to me - I wanted to sleep with him instantly. And we were in this club and it just happened I went with him to his apt. And the sex was Amazing, and we talked and slept together and he was so kind to me. For me it was just one night stand, and I could continue our friendship, but...He continue msg me and we continue seeing each other. And then I was flirting with some guy in the club because he was ignoring me whole night and I am not used to it. His best friend approached to me and said WTF, are u doing with my friend? And somehow, after big amount of alcohol in our blood, we finished together in bed again. And he was so agressive, which my Scorpio side really likes, great sex. And after that nothing...he did not msg, he was ignoring and after some time he needed some project for school, and he called me like nothing happened. i was in schock. What an idiot! After everything, and ignoring, you give me a call like that: so I went ahead and told him, that he cannot do it, that I am really sorry if I hurt his feelings that night but he is just a sex combination for him, that I was attracted to him because of his intellect and humor ot his body ( he has great body by the way- he is an athlete) . And his response was I did not ignore you, I am sorry if you thought like that. And after that i did not want anything with him, cuz he was so selfish and unstable and I noticed I can fall for him easily if I continue. And he left again to his country, did not call, did not msg me and to be honest I did not care, did not even miss him. And bum: he suddenly msg me out of blue and told me he is coming for short visit and he would like to see me. And I went. ( I like having sex with him). And when we see each other again, such a burst of emotion. And he remembered everything: some things I do not remember even telling him, and statements like i missed you, i choose carefully girls I am coming in contact with...All these questions did you miss me, what do you like about me...Come on give me a break ... And i was expecting him to call me b4 he leaves but he did not. Thats aqua, you should not expect too much- just fun. When he is with you he cares: great conversations, cuddling but don' t be stupid and get attached.He is selfish, unreliable, unstable...I refer to me aqua as wind. So, to conclude, aquarius is just for some fun, sex, good humor, conversation and nothing more.

Well that's unfortunate. Maybe I'm just the oddball aqua who actually wants to settle down and have a family but never finds love? :(

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I have read a lot of the comments and I found some of them very helpful. I absolutely adore my aquarius guys although there are times when it seems as though he's detatched Ive learned to respect his space. It can be challenging sometimes but its worth it. He is the most caring, intimate, humble, akward, charming and loving guy I have ever met. There is never a dull moment with us. I love his manliness although he doesn't wear his emotions on his sleeves I know that he love deep and that he has a great heart. And if youre lucky enough to have connected with one and you have the time and patience to really get to know an aquarian man hold on him because it will be well worth it. Delightful, Deep, Intriguing, Free spirit, Whimsical, Fun loving, Sexy, intellectual, patient, understanding and just all out a great guy.

Meow. *purrrrrrrr*

Wow, lots of sad stories here. Even worse is the fact that those types of behavior are not exclusive to aqua males in my experience. Before I tell my story with my dear aqua guy, I wanna say that your astrological sign does say a lot about you, but it isn't everything. A lot of guys (and some ladies too) are just pure and simple jerks. Not much to do with their sign or not. Just try and keep an open mind and try to get to know your guy for who he is and take him for who he is. Don't try and paint him into whatever type of guy you want. If who he is is a selfish, heartless jerk then cut your losses, value yourself and walk away. And by valuing yourself I don't mean play games. If he doesn't answer your text or calls you back, stop going after him, that's not playing a game, that's showing what the consequence of him being disrespectful to you is. People seem to think that playing games is part of relationships but it's not. It's manipulation and lies and it only bring by problems.

With that said, I have to explain first that I'm a Capricorn lady. In other words, I have some of the aqua attributes like a strong ability to detach from emotions and use reason. It doesn't mean that I don't feel. I feel a lot, but I have a strong ability to keep my emotions in control and separate myself from the situation and seeing it through the perspective of reason. I also had many bad relationships in the past (none with an aqua ever) so I tend to be protective of myself and careful about committing.

About four months ago I started dating the first ever aqua person I've ever been close to. I had no idea what to expect and after a friend of mine said we were perfect for each other only judging by our signs I decided to research the aquas. A lot of it made sense. He is aloof, he does space out, he's not clingy, he doesn't define our relationship, he's very self absorbed. He's also very self confident, attentive and caring when we are together (best lover I've ever had), perceptive, he remembers the important details, he's very morally correct, and awesome company (we have the best conversations).

Yes the aloofness and the self absorption does annoy me, but that's just how he is. I'm sure I have my own bad traits too. I choose to focus on the good things he has to offer me as long as I'm still having fun and being treated decently. For example, a couple times he didn't reply my messages. I didn't go after him and when he came around I was clear to him that I was displeased. We had a great discussion about our relationship where he tried to get away with but I stood my ground and he ended up apologizing and now he really seems to be trying to make up for it. I don't expect all of his attention to last long. I know soon he'll revert back to his natural behavior and I'm ok with as long as he is still treating me with respect and I'm having fun.

So that's my strategy, take him for what he is, deal with what you don't like and appreciate what you like. Nobody is perfect, aquas and us Capicorns are a bit difficult. I know I'm not for everyone, but oh well...

My mother and brother are Capricorn, and I was just a little later in January to be Aquarius. :3 My sis is Gemini and my dad is Scorpio...

Anyways... Perhaps when you notice "bad" traits in a person either sign typical or not, if it does not cause any real harm but is just annoying or a bit unnerving, maybe see it in a new light. Like say the self-absorbed Aquarian man. You can just flip the switch. If you care for him, accept all of him, and admire even the less admirable bits. I am only using him as an example, but I try to do this with everyone I care for. Like this young 10 year old girl I know. She is very bossy for her age and I am 18 but she would always tell me what to do without even saying please. Although a bit rude like that, and I would often correct her to say please, I found that trait of her admirable.

Another note is that even though people can be one way due to the way their life and culture has been, I think all of the signs could be seen in much greater light if we all were more tuned to spirit. It is unfortunate that many people have dumbed down the signs as just a quick way of reading people for relationships, without any true understanding or connection.

I had a very hard time dealing with an aquarius guy... as many mentioned in the Aquarius man love profile is very much similar to him...

He shows his care by listening to me..but hardly respond..the way he respond me, is by imitating my style of talking or my friends' way. If i show too much emotions (being sad or complaining problems without properly forming the whole story) he could directly ignore me. TOtally cold-hearted..

But in times, he suddenly will mention about what i had said (as he has very clear memory.. I was thinking maybe he need times to progress what he had said, replaying the whole situation very slowly.. (almost two weeks for each situation)

there are two side of him > one is in a very serious mood, while another is willing to play and have fun.. you have to figure out which one when he is talking to you.. once careless.. it is always hard to pick up the pieces..

ONE THING to Take note is: when he is outside with his friend, try not to chat with him. say it politely to him

He somehow very serious, formal, proper even though he is funny and creative.. somehow he doesnt like girls that are timid minded or show that they cares... it turn him off completely.. and he will ignore you. If you really like him, have to be very careful or what you say, what you act... listen more to him, his idea, his life. But he is very self concern and selfish..

I know that girls have feelings, somehow like to flirt and say something stupid by seeing the guy they admire.. the time when you act like that.. he will say "What's wrong with you?"

I try and try to play cold, be his friend, be patient and listen... i know that this is suffering.. so the time that i forgot to be what he want me to be ( normal , cold, easy going, do not talk random stuff) he freak out, and scolded me...

SO I split out all my feelings and i gave up.. seriously is a hard time.. but if you really want to be with him... you have to play the games... either you wanto be yourself or you wanto please him... I choose to give up.

Its so difficult to be someone else, but its a good choice to be yourself in the long run, since eventually he would have discovered something up? Try and be happy without your aquarian and move on to a guy that clicks with you mind body and soul. Aquarius men are the most difficualt man to be with, I think many different things could put them off... being clingy. sappy love, talking too much and being predictable.. those are just a few things... i think they like well developed people who have interest other than sex and making out or simple wanting to be with someone because thats what expected.. not sure. have hobbies passionate about a art or skill or a cause. if they dont like you they stop talking to you and they ignore you... I know I was once with one and I liked him too much. I never really had a chance.

As an Aquarius male I can definitely understand a lot of the frustration within the comments of this posting and not to justify any wrong doings experienced however what a lot of people tend to not understand is that we are birth with the gift and the curse of innately knowing who we are. We do not go through the luxurious phase of "finding ourselves" because we just innately cannot live in the present and with that I believe stems the issue that throughout life, definitely in our youthful years, not only do we acknowledge how "unique" we are but it seems like the masses (generalized) tend to go out there way to remind us about it as well, just not in the same sense as we do. We are extremely eccentric and we love for everybody to get a piece of it cause not everybody is that comfortable with themselves to laugh at themselves to place a smile on somebody's face. However, its the individuals who abuse this attribute who tick us off lol! Then that's when outwardly everything goes without notice, but since it's kind of expected anyway, inwardly we have to deal with our emotional wounds in private because of those select few we tend to generalize the masses thinking that they just won't understand. <br />
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But I can tell that a lot of people read these zodiac articles, which I must say are extremely interesting, but they read them for Aquarius males and they categorize us due to what they read without really assessing it to the overall behavior. The articles say that we are unemotional, aloof, and detached then they say we are strong eccentric humanitarians. To us it makes absolutely no sense for an emotionally unstable person to look onto another who is also emotional unstable! That's just going to potentially add to the problem! We would rather look upon an issue with reason and not emotion because reason is unbiased and just while emotion tends to neglect humans of their right to make mistakes and feeds that oh so annoying "I-syndrome"! So we parking lot our feelings for the moment when others are in need of our presence and we come back to them in private! Helping others is rather intoxicating but as an Aquarius male I can definitely admit that the living within oneself like a prison can go completely overboard but I can tell you now, insulting us by calling us "aloof" and "unemotionally" isn't really going to help your cause! But do not be fooled, we are extremely emotional, if not the most emotional people breathing! Just because you may not witness it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.<br />
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We are people who simply live for the WHY of things. "Why did you do this?" "Why do you think this way?" "Why does this work this way and not that way?" The what and the how are more or less irrelevant. To us, why instills a sense of constant learning and understanding. LADIES....LADIES...LADIES....DO NOT BECOME OFFENDED OR WORRISOME when you and your spouse are shooting the breeze then he instantly goes off into a freaking daze and just seems to be stargazing into an abyss of nothing and the conversation seems to just stop while it was at it's climax lol I can assure you YOU DID NOT START TO BORE HIM NOR DID YOU LOSE HIS ATTENTION, NOR IS HE FLAT OUT IGNORING YOU, we just tend to think about A LOT simultaneously and when our mind wants to seriously concentrate on something you have to understand it's not impossible but it is really really hard to not give it that 3 minutes or so minutes of attention but rest assure majority of the time we heard and understood everything that you were saying after the fact and on most occasions can regurgitate everything you said verbatim! But I can understand how this can be a shot to the ego of a female of any zodiac (definitely those Leo's lol) and can gracefully admit it's something we need to work on! But don't poke or annoy or go out of your way to receive the attention you believe you were getting previously. Either give him his few minutes of quiet time or take a general interest in what he may be thinking about and genuinely ask what it is that he may be thinking about. Everyone knows we love the art of conversation, and if we feel like you're coming from a place of genuine interest and truly don't mind shifting gears for a moment then we'll more than gladly be willing to share and then we'll hop right back onto what we were speaking of previously if it mutually still holds relevancy.<br />
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Now a lot of you seem to really be into zodiac research and I can applaud that, so if there's anything you have read upon Aquarius or have experienced from multiples then you would know that outside of certain aspects, no two Aquarius's are alike. And as well I don't want anyone to think that they have to compromise who that are to please an Aquarius male or anybody for that matter but please do realize that relationships are a two-way street and if you are willing to acknowledge the wrongdoings of another on the reason why something potentially did not work out then take it as a learning experience of yourself and being willing to take on the same acknowledgement of oneself as well. While zodiac's are, in my opinion interesting and more or less precise, do not allow it to generalize your opinion upon any individual but give insight to possible behaviors.But for those who are still willing to date an Aquarius, here is MASSIVE CHEAT SHEET if you want to tame your Aquarius spouse without them realizing that they are being confined to love simply: <br />
1.) Intrigue them and keep them guessing what you're next move is but in a good way <br />
2.) Stimulate them somehow someway...if an intellectual conversation is not your thing then just keep and open line of communication up 3.) NEVER question our intent but do ask us why we think and do the things we do<br />
4.) Stare at us....if our feelings for you are deep that will make us feel weak therefore drives us freaking wild lol<br />
5.) LASTLY, please do not be the female who loves to center the relationship on yourself or around sex.......or both (LEOS) lol. Show some form of self dignity and you will be far get what you seek lol

I just had to reply to your "leo" quote. Lol You said Leo twice in your comments calling us self centered. Well, iI do agree with the sex comment , but you also said not all Aqua's are the same in a astrology way. That goes for me too. I am an older " Leo" and i valve an equal partnership. A relationship is i give to you and take more. No! Joke. Lmao. I had too. Really a partnership to me is sharing. My claws may be in now. Lol. Yep! ;)

""""""To us it makes absolutely no sense for an emotionally unstable person to look onto another who is also emotional unstable! That's just going to potentially add to the problem! We would rather look upon an issue with reason and not emotion because reason is unbiased and just while emotion tends to neglect humans of their right to make mistakes and feeds that oh so annoying "I-syndrome"! So we parking lot our feelings for the moment when others are in need of our presence and we come back to them in private! Helping others is rather intoxicating but as an Aquarius male I can definitely admit that the living within oneself like a prison can go completely overboard but I can tell you now, insulting us by calling us "aloof" and "unemotionally" isn't really going to help your cause! But do not be fooled, we are extremely emotional, if not the most emotional people breathing! Just because you may not witness it doesn't mean it doesn't exist""""

I mostly quoted it so far because I couldn't really tell where the end of the point was and the rest seemed valid and part of the claim. But yeah. Often when trying to help others, I have to fake emotional enthusiasm so they feel comforted. And when i am being serious and giving my true opinion and offering as much guidance as I can, people have often said I talk like a fortune cookie and tell me to take thigns more seriously! I'm like, 'what?!' :(

But yeah. I do have emotions, I have a lot of them. You can see them clearly in my poetry. But on the outside of me, you see almost nothing. I cannot express my emotions in the same way others do. A genuine smile on my face has more weight to it than a genuine smile most others would show, because mine takes a lot of emotion to be able to express.

Mine gave me the same STD on three occasions in the last 2 years. He is 52.
I will never date another Aquarius man. He had no respect for his sister or his own son. Very selfish and took life and peoples feelings for a joke. The third time he got infected he and the woman treated themselves and he never told me. True to my word as I told him if you infect me with anything a third time I will charge you. That is just what I done. I was with him 5 years. First 3 good. Last two I allowed his mind games to break me down emotionally Now I hate him.
I will never talk to a man once I learn that is his birth sign. They have manners and behavior of dogs and pigs.

Oh my gosh i had to sign up for this conversation boo, u r totally right mine did the same lied to me and we have a child together. He have kids everywhere come to find out, Smh Jesus needs to flush foolish men down a toilet. That Aquarius.....sorry to say they all lie and sleep around....

There is the human, and it is pure and it is what it is until it is born, and then due to its experiences and the strength of its spirit, it will respond in various ways. All of the signs can be beautiful, or demonic. I find "sign-racism" almost everywhere. What if you dated an Indian man, and you had an awful experience with him, and because he was Indian you avoided dating all Indian men because they were Indian? That is the same reasoning you have by blocking the signs. You can't tell if someone is bad by their sign. It takes an inner light called intuition. NOT assumption.

They date u and make u fall for them big time and when you show it they just loose interest, stop trying, become distant and uninterested cause the challenge is gone they conquered u... More times than not u are prob still in love with the aqua male deep down so u agree to friendship to remain attached and he likes to be adored, chased, stalked, its their ego boost... So even tho he's not with you he still feels loved but he's free to move on to the next big exciting challenge ... Aqua males never stay for long... They can be very selfish

I married an a aquarius man. We've been married for 4 months now and when we have a disaggreement he ups and runs away for at least a couple days especially around payday. He's done this 7 times and is ok with running. He moved back home and we will get an anulment when I return from my trip. There's so much more to say and have experienced the same as comfort123. It's just amazing and I trip out on all men!

My father was an aquarius, when my mother and father would have an argument he would leave and come back 2 days later. Typical aquarius behavior, they run from their problems. I thought as a humanitarian as described in their signs are they not suppose to resolve conflicts, and consider the feelings of others?

When I have arguements with people I care for, I will do my best to get my point through and remain calm, if it elevates I will desire time to cool off and not become angry at someone I love. Usually this time is only a couple hours though, and usually less than that.
I've had arguements with ym sister in which I barely said anything and she was venting her emotions on me and even somehwat physical, lots of yelling and cussing, and after she was done and stole my spot on the computer or whatever she was bugging me about, I would do a favor for her, like make her a sandwich and such. She is an adult not a child, and even children have more intelligence than we give them credit for, so it isn't like she'll learn "oh if I treat him badly he does nice things to me". It's more like, I see you are in need of a break, here, have my sandwich.

I admit I got alittle off track and confusing. I often don't know how to spill my thoughts.

Ohh I can so relate! Why is that? Anyway, here's my story. This Aquarius friend that I've known for a long time confessed to me that he's had the biggest crush on me but we've always been in a relationship with someone. He was a little dorky before but has gotten very attractive recently so I decided to meet up with him to "catch up on old times". With that being said, we had a blast talking and flirting for awhile and then we began having sex and that too was great. But then when I asked him where we stood, he became confused and said that we are "just friends." Ouch! I was so disappointed and I feel so rejected because everything is so great with him and I would really like this to work. But he said he's just not ready for a relationship. So since I can't have all of him I'm distancing myself but I find myself thinking about him and what we had everyday. I'm craving for him to say the least. I'm at a lost.

U shouldn't be... Men tell a woman they not ready for a relationship because they don't want it with u. Truth

Lashaay. It is not true. I am an aqua and I can tell you a secret: it is all about woman reaction to it. Maybe I dont want a relantionship with you after sex but the fact I did sex with is very Important for me aqua and your reaction is the key to change my mind.

I don't know if this applies to all Aqua men, but when it comes to relationships, what is not said does not apply. If he does not tell you he is your boyfriend, he is not your boyfriend. You have to be blunt.

I had the same experience out of no where just wants to be friends. Then he says he loves me but hes confused. Wtf are u confused about if you swore on somwones grave youre not seeing anyone else wtf?

Ooooh. I can see as an aqua I am. So if I am confused does surely means I am seeing another person. See, you already blew your chance to have a relantion with me due to your intelligence.

I been friends with my Aquarius for 2 years. We became closer this may. I thought he was feeling the same emotions as I. But he wasn't. He so intimate and loving but unemotional with words. I recently fail in love. And I meant failed!!!. What I don't understand is his energy helped produce this love I am experiencing yet he is a stranger to love. Foolish me, didn't listen to him tell me to be careful because he is not good with matters of the heart. So I allowed my feelings to evolve into love. I am 39 he's 31. So maybe its time. I thought about playing the love games but I don't have the energy. I love him. I haven't told him. I did say I was falling in in love. He said nothing back but he doesn't want me to get hurt. Wow. I mean wtf. nothing back not even a I like u too. Im so hurt. He act like he has no heart. I cut it off.

My ex boyfriend who was an aquarius had problems with showing emotions, he hardly said \"I live you\" instead he said \"I care for you\" and lack of affection in public.

Coz we have to be sure if you do not try a relation just to escape another guy. We like it slowly and trust. But trust comes slowly.

Let him go. I keep getting into relationships with Aquarians and I am a Leo. I do not know why this happens. But I have had issues with every Aquarian man that I have had past relationships with.

One thing I noticed is that they are slow sometimes with understanding or putting things together and can be selfish. Another thing is that they have issues with not being able to love themselves fully because they have had hardships in life or abusive parents. If they do not love themselves and do not love God then they will have problems committing to someone. When they find you convenient as time goes by in the relationship they will end it. If they don\'t want something or someone they let them go quickly because the importance is gone. So don\'t feel like its your fault. You did nothing wrong. It\'s him... it\'s all him. It is how Aquarians are wired. They are very direct and you need to handle them with directness. Tell them what you need and do not censure anything. Take your time in getting to know him. Don\'t tell him that you love him. Let him tell you that he loves your first. Aquarians need to be sure that they love someone before they say it. When they say they love you they mean it. If he doesn\'t love you he will not say it. So if he does tell you that he love you later on down the line make him prove it so that you know that he is not lying.

I have been friends with a man in college for 1 year now and he asked my out on a date 3 days ago. Never knew he liked me. Had no idea. I just found out that he was born January 21st. I said to myself \'damn here I go again\'. What is very weird is that this guy is the most deeply intense and direct Aquarius I have ever met. When I mean intense he is intense and direct with every single thing. His energy so strong and grounded. So please pray for me and wish me luck. I do know that if this one plays games with me I will kick him to the curb first faster then he can spit.

We are not selfish. We want you to do your best and solve your problems. We do not enter someones life to solve her problems. We have our own too. We like to help onlg after you did your best. We do not like bad people.

My ex was the same he always says i care for u ... He said he didn\'t think he has ever really deeply loved anyone ... I personally think its cause they like to have so many women at once even if its a girlfriend and loads of female friends so they spread their emotions thinly ... And they never truly bond with just one person their girlfriend ... My recent aquarius x was with me but i found out he was also with someone else at the start of our relationship... Claiming he wasn\'t gf and bf with the other one .... It destroyed me and now I\'m left with the decision to either forgive him or move on ... But if i stay id be worried he would do the same to me .... Cause he said she was just his friend and believe me he has more female friends than male friends

I think as an aqua that you are not so clever so you try another sign.

Goodluck xx lol

Ask him how he feels about you. If he says he loves you then that is confirmation. If he doesn\'t say anything then you will know the truth also. His actions speak louder than words. So if you don\'t feel like you are being loved by him then he probably doesn\'t love you. I have had the same problem you are having. I ended up breaking it off with the guy. He asked me to be friend with him and I said nooooooo. How can I be your friend when you are emotionally unavailable. If I become your friend again then you will have to emotionally available and respectful, mindful, caring and be a man of your word.

Everybodddy!!! I will explain here something about our aquas feelings with words. You see, we aquas are very sensitive and we like to express with words and facts our feelings but once we experienced rejection and jokes about our feelings we later will have fear to express them to same person or another. So, it is not entirely our fault but our earlier experiences. So becareful when how you all people respond to others feelings or you or other inocent people may suffer in the future. So thats why we become cold. ;)

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I am a Leo and married to an Aquarius man. I have been with him for almost twenty years now, married for 14 years. Its true its an emotional roller coaster, and sometimes I wonder how it is possible I am still with him. He wants to know everything and is always with new ideas but your ideas will be put aside and not viewed as important. He is demanding with his affection and then when you give it he abandons you emotionally and goes out with his friends you need to have a life an active one for when he decides to go. But he will also be jealous of this life when it occupies you and he will demand and accuse you of abandoning the relationship. Whatever he says which is a lot don't listen to it too much and always remain a mystery he will be forever interested. But it will be a roller coaster still.

U need a medal lolol i dont know how u have done it unless ur aquarius urself .... I have had a lot of experience with aqua males and I\'ve been destroyed many times only ever by aquarius males ....

Sorry ladies if you have had bad experiences with aquarian men. We are not all like that. I do everything I can to make my woman happy, I would go to the ends of the earth for her. I am very honest and sometimes blunt. I tell it as it is, I do not mean to offend or hurt anyone. To all the woman that have been hurt be aquarian men, I am sorry but we are not all like that :(

I am a Leo and I have been dating an Aquarius Man for 2.5 years. I can relate to your frustration. He found me. He chased me. He did anything to get my attention. He stole me from a Pisces man who I only started dating for 4 moths and the Pisces man is 100 times richer than him!

He did so many wonderful-sweet-kind-surprise-charming things. He even pays half of my mortgage without putting his name on the title. He is the most charming man I have ever dated. He never spent a day without call or text me. I thought he is Mr. Right.

Then after 2.5 years of being together (including one year of sharing a house) I asked him what his thoughts about our future, he simply said that he wants to stay boyfriend and girlfriend, but doesn't want to get married. He said that he doesn't want to lost me, but he doesn't want to be tied down. I looked up his birthday and horoscope explained that his water sign values freedom above everything else.

When I turned my back to him, he begged me for attention. When I show my love to him, he is cold and aloof and told me that he doesn’t want me to smother him. When I treat him like dirt, he treats me like gold. When I treat him like gold, he ignores me and needs space!

He is full of contradiction in our relationship and within himself. To him, half cup of water is always half empty. He always wants more than what he got even he is already a multi-millionaire and still work 16 hours a day.
My advice to you is if you love him enough, keep him and prepare

a lot of tissues and always ready for emotional roller coaster rides. If not, let him go free and it will save your headache and heartache. I let him go and he keeps coming back. I broke up with him over 20 times during the past 2.5 years.
I realized that I need to find someone who gives me emotional stability than being with a part time lover like he is. He is fun, calm, confident, charming, and extremely intelligent, but he drives me crazy with his indecisive and aloof nature. I feel like I am wasting my time with him. Women like us are like flowers. We are only bloom in a short period of time. After a certain age, we are not as attractive anymore and wasted our time on indecisive men. He is the most frustrated man I have ever dated. That’s how most Aquarius Men are, sadly. :(

Aquarius man right here, I understand where youre coming from. It\'s very hard for aquarius people to trust someone because they are over protective for themselves. They need time and space. When they do, they can be the most loyal, loving and intense you\'ll probably ever meet. They also like long term relationship. So Be patience. Good luck!!!

Hi, I have some quesions for you aquariusman92 or any aquarius man for that matter. Im a Virgo and yes this long ride with this aqua man has been a roller coaster. I wish I could tell him how I felt. I hope that he knows how I feel when we are together. we met when I was 15 (we had a hiatus from 33-41 years of age) Now our paths have crossed again. I thought those feelings were gone but noooo they are not, unbelievable!!!
Can I tell him I want to go somewhere with him and will he say yes or will he reject me. I would think going out of town just the two of us would be an adventure and that would entice him.
How do I get him to open up?
From age of 15-33 I was GOING CRAZY over him just LOSING MY MIND. I had to walk away, couldnt do it anymore. 9 years later here we are again and our encounters are much much much improved than 9 years ago.
I want him al the time. I want him to open up, to trust me, to engage. HELP

Advise: try to do something when you are emotional. Stay occupied

Yes, yes, I agree. Thanks for the advice. I've dated my aqua man 2 months, it feels like 2 centuries...been nothing but an emotional roller coaster...i'm too old for this ****...NEXT!!!

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I'm married to an aquarius and he is mean, uncaring and aloof. Every time i come up with an idea, he finds the perfect excuse not to like it. I feel like he is jealous and competitive with me and that hurts me because we are supposed to be ONE. He should be proud of my accomplishments and gifts, but he's jealous. He makes me cry almost every day. I dislike the fact that he yells and that scares me. The way he says things or speaks to me just breaks my heart. It's so weird how I will stay up all night unable to sleep because of our fights and he's happily sleeping and snoring away. I don't know how long I will be able to deal with this. Today he called me a ******* ***** because I asked him to serve me some juice he was about to finish and he said it was his, not mine. I'm an aries and I tend to get hurt really easy by aquarian people. I feel for them. They make it so hard to love and accept them. I'm surrounded by them, most of my friends are aquarians but they don't seem to accept themselves and have low self esteems, even if they are intellectual, smart and witty. I've always been so happy and independent and since I married my aqua man, I feel sad, down and depressed. I don't want to say what I like, desire or dream of anymore because all I say is stupid to him or I get an automatic judgement. I feel like I'm carrying a burden and my aqua man is my cross :( If there is an aquariaus man out there, please comment, thank you.

I'm so sorry you feel the same way. I was with one for 2 years and towards the end he was the most emotionally abusive man. Please do not believe him. Do not let his words affect you: you are not stupid. You should threaten to leave him; you are strong. These asaholes deserve a lesson. They are so weak their big egos are a facade. You should tell him you've had it, calmly and need time to think. Regardless of his reaction, he probably will go crazy and insult you, keep calm. You need to take control of your life and emotions. He is your husband not your master.

Ur spot on .... This has happend to me time n time over .... They are the best anyone has treated me then they change and get really nasty .... To me its as if they let u get away with arguments etc but they are secretly waiting till the end to get u back big time .... Dont understand the part when they get really nasty and then u fall out but they always come back a few months later n try and be nice but same things happen again ... Why do u think they keep coming back?

Life has ups and downs didnt you know it ?

If ur not happy get out of there .... Sounds like he is very abusive to u ... Forget that he\'s aquarius and consider he\'s just not a nice man in general .. Wish u luck stay safe x

Yes you are right. Counseling would be good for him. He wasn\'t taught to love himself in his childhood. He has probably had many hardships in life and probably never fully matured in the realization that he needs to know his self worth. He needs to know that he is enough the way he is. He doesn\'t need to better himself or seek outside of himself to fill the void; the emptiness. Tell him that he is enough and he can let go if the self anger. He doesn\'t need it anymore.

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I'm a Gemini woman with an Aquarius man for almost 5 yrs now. My father was also an Aquarius maybe that's what helps me understand them. Anyway, the best thing for you to do is not pressure him into anything, make sure you always give him his space, listen to his dreams when he let's you in on them (they're big dreamers), express your thoughts on things he expresses to you but don't be critical or judgmental (he's just letting you in on his way of thinking, he doesn't need your approval or a mother) Aqua men are very sensitive despite there hard exterior. Find out what his interests are and set up a surprise date. They love the arts, museums, tech, they love learning and they love teaching what they know, they think outside the box so don't be uptight, have an open mind. Anyway I've been living with mine for almost 4 yrs together almost 5 and no one ever thought he'd live with a woman and according to his family he wasn't very respectful of women he dated, however I've never seen that side of him, he still opens my door and pulls out my chair. I will say this if you seem easy at all the challenge is gone so be a little mysterious yourself.

Look ladies I am an aquarius man, I have read that many say we have commitment issues and that we are also emotionally detached from you, the truth is from my own heart and not my intellect I find that I need to guard my heart because commitment if in fact there where to be any would hurt me if my partner was unfaithful b/c when I love I love very much, and in that respect to get hurt in that manner would tear my heart out and about emotional detachment fact if I were to show my feelings they might reflect back from my heart in a way that you might not understand, though I show them purely out of love toward you for affection.

A broken spirit weights more than a broken mind.

They're the most confusing beings I've ever met in my life. Especially when it comes to dating.

I'm a Pisces woman dating an Aquarius man. I simply adore him. I love the fact that I never have to wonder if he cares. He shows me in every way. It was slow at first but after spending days and nights talking about everything under the sun, he fell in love with my mind. He also reminds me of how beautiful I am and how he studies me from afar looking for bits and pieces of me he doesn't know. It makes me smile :). He is the most masuline man I've known and I don't mind him being in control especially when he always has my interests at heart. It is such a turn on for me to see him use his head and his hands to get such manly things done! Pisces are known to be emotional and clingy, howerever, I have a life and I too, need down time. We have been able to get through our aloof times because I don't take it personal or as a sign that he doesn't care; plus the look in his eyes when are back in each other's presence pulls on my heart. :) I am learning so much from him and he feels the same about me. Never thought I could care so deeply without being so deep into my feelings but instead a great balance of emotions, intellect, and spiritual bliss.

U watch him very carefully ... The min u love and show it or try pressurise him on something he is stubborn on well thats when u will see what everyone else on here see\'s ....

Oh Thanks so much...finally something good said for Aquarians..

When I read dash61s response I feel for her and hope that what just happened to me doesn't happen to her. I met my Aquarius a year ago. For the last year we have been flirting with each other and slowly spending time together. He did exactly everything the sites said he would do from showing extreme interest, flirting, to going out of his way to make sure that what I needed was taken care of, and started spending time together. He came to family functions on occasion and introduced me to certain members of his family. He took me to his favorite hangout and things just seemed to be progressing slowly but well. When I expressed how I felt about him, he ran just as his profile said, but he came back just as the profile said they would too. Even when I attempted to withdraw he would not let me. He even made statements that reinforced that he wanted me in his life and what a good woman I was etc. I am a Sagittarius and I too felt that I had met the perfect person for me and a very good friend. I made posts of excitement too... Then...all of sudden he changed...started denying everything...begin playing mind games and acting very "player" like in his demeanor. Perhaps he was doing it all along, and I just missed or denied it. When I finally got to the truth of the matter, he had been running game all along, had another woman and was still out meeting, dating and having one night stands with other women even on her. I should have heeded the MANY posts by people like Specialkennag who warned to stay away. This is not my first encounter with an Aquarius I was just hoping as others hope that my Aquarius would be the one that is different. None of them have been. My friends complain of similar incidences in their Aquarian interactions too. My heart is hurt but I am strong so I will move on. I now posts SERIOUSLY ladies, if you have other options in men (well even if you don't) give special thought to dating or getting into a relationship with an Aquarian man. There may be a few relationships that are working well but for the most part no matter what site you are on you find 100s or more of posts of people who all declare the same thing about the Aquarian male. It's just not worth it when there are good men out there under other signs that won't treat you that way. To invest any time in a man that will turn out in months of emotional repair is worth avoiding. Good luck to you dash61.

How did you leave him? I feel like you just posted my story with my BF who is an Aquarius. We have been together for 3 1/2 years.. I have tried to leave him but he comes back and will not let me go.. Im tired of this emotional roller coaster.. I want it to be over for good.. If I could ever bust him with my own eyes and he wasn't able to lie, I would be done, done .. But his good at not getting caught ..

O my days its like reading my story ... Everything us the same .... We split up about a week ago after i found messages to women in his phone and i found out fir some of our 16 months relationship he actually was with someone when i met him he replaced her with me .... Then i found him on plenty of fish looking fir women so u know what was gonna eventually happen to me lol he was in the process of replacing me but i caught him out before he did !

I have an aqua man as well, I am a virgo. It has taken well over a year for us to become close. It is worth the time and effort I have put into him. I don't know of a better person in the world for me. I respect his space and the time it has taken for us to become what we are today. My moon is in Sagittarius and I also require some room and freedom. It IS worth the effort to get to know him and the time it takes. Sometimes time I feel as if I should pinch myself to see if I am dreaming. I love Aquarius!! :)

I am also a virgo woman dating for two years an aqua man, and I have not gotten anywhere with him. He goes hot and cold on me all the time, he even is rude and very mean then comes back when I ignore him totally. He says to me I love you, miss you, need you and blah blah. What do I need to do? being "friends" is fine with me if that's what he wants but why all the unnecessary words. Can you help me virgo?

U are dreaming lol watch him like a hawk .... Eventually he will slip up and then u will experience what everyone else has experienced and it isn\'t nice ..

I am currently spending time with an aqua man, he is the oddest and most quirky man I have ever met as well as being so politically incorrect. He amuses me to no end. We have been seeing eachother for 6 months I don't know why exactly, we never make plans its all pretty random. I don't really want a relationship and I don't think he does either so I suppose this works. In the beginning he didn't like being too cosy or affectionate now when we spend the evening together he wraps himself around me all night. I tell him I don't want a relationship with him and I could never live with him but I think we will always be friends and if we meet someone else we will still be friends and he feels the same and so we continue.. I am a Libra with loads of Scorpio planets and like my own time to myself, as well as my independence and really dislike clingy men. I have had a previous long relationship with an Aqua man and he really broke my heart, but we are still friends and have recently moved in together as a share arrangement. Aquarians really like to have a friend that is also a lover I think, they are impersonal and they do live on their own timeline. i have learnt a great many things from aquarians and being independent and true to myself is one of them, they will support you in your dreams and visions, they really want the best for you and they truly believe in equality. They don't want to support you they want you to be strong and support yourself so that they can have a true and equal relationship with you. If you talk common sense to them they get it. In some ways they can be emotionally underdeveloped that is their thing to work on. And yes they can drive you crazy if you have expectations - best not have any, they can be infuriating with little things like not being in touch best to just get on with it and not wait, you might meet someone else who is more your thing that way. They dislike feeling obligated and are too stubborn for their own good. My friend is always offering advice and I just listen and agree but continue on my own merry way doing things my way, I do think I know more than he does, he tried to get me more work to earn more income (so I could travel with him, I found out) but I am happy where I am at right now I study full time, work part time and that's enough for me although he thinks I could be wonder woman, but i am not interested in that, he will have to wait in that case or seek another travel partner. I have my own agenda. Anyway i told him this week that I couldn't care less if he wanted to be intimate with other girls, not that he asked and not that I think he is, I just thought I'd let him know that I couldn't care. He thought this was very nice of me, If he does though I will not be able to continue being intimate with him as I am too concerned about STD's I never mentioned this point. Anyway I know he is going to be twisting this one around in his head for a bit trying to figure it out and probably on the phone all next week checking in with what I am up to. I think that will be funny. Best to not let an Aquarian pin you down. Good Luck

I am an aquarius guy... and I am not sure if other guys are like this but this is how it is for me.I love a woman who's beautiful, but at the same time, intelligent and a bit random and weird.I love people who are confident about themselves, and not have simple talks about weather that doesn't really get anywhere. We have two parts in ourselves, one cold, and one hot. And the cold comes out, usually when we see things in other people that are incompatible with ourselves, or my philosophies. Or when were just by ourselves in mood for some thoughts.We do believe in true love, but we don't think true love should be easily given. We do test girls a bit. If the girl seems like she can give everything of her to me, and not in a manipulated blind love type of way, but when we truly know each other, and we accept one another for who we are. Then we can go to hell and back for that one special girl.If I feel like I want to meet another women, I will tell her straight up, let's have a polygamy relationship for a bit. Honestly we have a lot of feelings, and yes we are narcissistic. We hate dealing with people who we think is not intelligent, or boring and normal.Even if they are super hot, if they are not intelligent, we lose our interest quick. WE might just run away after we get in bed with them.We value a relationship where there's no games being played, and where the girl is real with us. We are the type of people, that if you are real to us, then we'll be real back.And yeah.... Aquarius men can be really hard to catch... I admit it myself, sometimes I wonder if I have too high standards. I think maybe some girls think I am gay, because I am often cold to even cute girls if I feel that they are not worth my attention. Of course I do want to have sex with them, because aquarius men tend to be a bit kinky, but I just don't feel like they're worth my time, or energy.and yes this is stuck up or elitist, but everyone belives in their own minds, at the end of the day...You have to be a beautiful girl, that's also different from the herd, to get our attentions...While also being yourself, and if we really love you, then we'll talk a lot about almost everything, and if your the doer type, who has the follow through skills with our planning... Then were going to have a lot of unforgettable adventures.=================================Remember we think that being truthful to our feelings at almost all times is good for other people, not good for us. Were being like that on the cost of our expense, because were the ones ending up getting hated on, but at least the other person will come out with a new lesson because we were truthful to them . Like if we don't really respect someone, because we think they're too simple-minded. We'll never be a jackass about this, just we won't talk to you (I do agree about being a bit closet elitist though). And yeah I can see the error in this type of thinking, because who knows how a person is like? But It's just our intuition telling this about people.We just like sophisticated people, and are attracted to them.We have highly thought out moral codes and philosophies that we tend to stick close to.And we like to be individuals and be with individuals...So never be scared to show yourself, and if it doesn't work out. it wasn't meant to be anyways.

thefreed... Thank you so much for responding to this post. It is always beneficial to hear from the horses' mouth what they really meant or how the really feel. I am a Sagittarius who is suppose to be a perfect or well compatible match with Aquarian men. Until two years ago I have never encountered an Aquarius male in any fashion that I am aware of and not until then did I ever date or attempt to have a relationship with one. I met my first Aquarius in 2010. He was a construction worker without formal education outside of highschool. He was extremely immature and played a lot of games with women. So needless to say I ended that as quickly as it started. I chalked it up to his immaturity and social habits i.e., heavy drinking and partying that made us incompatible. Yet, I did not devalue all Aquarian males because of my interaction with him. I went on to date a Cancer. Totally different exchange. He was warm, caring and very loving, but long distance made our relationship difficult and he was more of a home body where I am very free spirit. We are still very good friends to this day. I have since met another Aquarian. I did not know that he was an Aquarius until after I was well attracted to him. We instantly clicked and he began to show all kinds of interest in me but when I read about your personality type that is status quo for you. Supposedly you are naturally inquisitive into each person you meet until you make a determination as to whether they are "worthy" of your time and continued friendship/relationship. Thus, I didn't take his comments or gestures as being serious. We did have a conversation in which he explained he was not ready for a relationship, but wanted me to hang around. LOL! For what? What I don't like about Aquarius is that they treat people as disposable. It's almost inhumane their mindset towards the treatment of people. So what most cannot hold a conversation on your level that doesn't give you the right to act like you are superior to that person and demean them by not showing them the time of day. That's silly... You would think an intellectual would know enough about human behavior and people to know that we are all created different with our own values and gifts. To treat people like they are beneath you is absolutely ridiculous and I think really comes from low self esteem than it does the realization of a superior state of intellect or being. Sagittarians are said to be intellectuals as well so are Aries and a few other signs, but I do not see them acting like they are above the rest. At any rate out of the three Aquarians that I do know the two mentioned above and a female supervisor I have not seen the special qualities that would accompany someone who should think so highly of themselves. The second guy is extremely handsome but has his flaws. He endeavors to appear socially elite but those of us who can see through your Aquarian foolishness can pick up on things too and he is not as sharp as he portrays himself to be... We just don't humiliate you when you say something that sounds stupid or display behavior that is highly immature like believing that someone is too simple-minded to be involved with... The rest of us have evolved to a state where we don't have to lash out like the school yard bully to make a point or demean others to make ourselves feel better or seem better. The Aquarian supervisor displayed this behavior (and I will say it in your language so you can understand it well) but was dumb and dizzy as a box of rocks. You of course could not tell her that and she referred to everyone else as stupid. The rest of us just looked at her like really? If you only knew who really looked stupid at this moment. Just know this that at sometimes while you are speaking your mind you are really revealing how messed you are...It is unfortunate that you cannot see how deficient you are in your thinking nor pick up on how the rest of us really see you for it is your own life that is deprived by misguided thoughts on relationships and people. I found all three of those Aquarians were very lonely people hopping from relationship to relationship because they couldn't sustain once in it. That is so sad... And they were the problem all along... Maybe we should start being truthful to you so you can learn a lesson from what we have to say... Something is wrong with you and your thinking... You are not as superior as you think you are... It is an abnormal disposition you display operating in deep dysfunction so get over yourself... As far as me, if I never encounter another Aquarian again in my life it would be too soon. And no it is not because of something bad between the me and the second Aquarian I just despise people who lack compassion for others and humanity and treat people like they are beneath them. I imagine Hitler's army and early slave traders must have been born under this Sunsign... Now how is that for some truth for you?

“Our judgments, like our watches, none
go just alike, yet each believes his own” -Alexander Pope.
Look everyone believes in their own decisions, and what they believe to be the "truth.", I too believe that almost everyone has a quality that they're genius in.
But I just have a built-in source of self-esteem which leads me to believe that I am different from other people, and I personally believe my way is better. In psychology people generally think difference is inferior.
Anyways about that Hitler thing, I can't speak for all other Aquarians, but for me I hate working under someone. Also I always dreamed about being a martyr that does good for the world, even without any recongnition... So I am not sure if what you say can apply to all aquarius people.
If you've had some problems with Aquarius people in the past, why don't you go tell it to him?
For me I don't lash out like a school yard bully at all to make myself seem or feel better. I don't really care what other people think... And I think that's just me.
I also don't treat people like they're beneath me, I too have people I look up towards and my heroes.

I am not sure why your lashing out like this, and just boxing in all the aquarians together, cause the world is not that simple at all.
It's really sad how deficient you are in YOUR thinking, everyone just has opinions, not truths. And they just believe in their opinions. This is only an argument of opinions, and different people will side with you and me.
Also in this society with the idea of marriage and only one suitor, all relationships except one will fail. And that one might fail too.
Look I am just confident in the things that I know I can do well, and I would like to be with people who are similar to me, and that's natural. Everyone's like that.

Valois Trancy - you response just proved my point. Thank you. No other response warranted.

The Freed and Valois

The Freed, again thank you for your response. Believe me I have told them. But as so eloquently put by Valois most Aquarians don't take it well when you are as frank with them as they think they are entitled to be with you. I just did the same thing to you that you guys say you have a right to do to us, but as proven by Valois you can't handle it when it's done to you. You did give a decent response, but you clearly didn't like it either so with the tables turned how does it feel to get a dose of your own medicine? It is you and many other Aquarians that have stated that you have the right to give people the "truth" and make them better as if you are of some superior intellect or in a higher seated position in society where you have the right to judge and then be as brash as that which appeases you without consideration of others... You quoted Pope but then attacked me from having a different opinion than you. That seems hypocritical to me and that is what I dislike the most about Aquarians. Different is not better and different can actually be less productive than that which it is compared in some cases. But who said different had to be inferior to the point of exclusion. Sure, it is natural to want to be with someone who is compatible with you and you have the right to select your permanent mate with your own criteria. However, I understood you to say that you do that with all not just in intimate situations. I am just saying in a nutshell, you shouldn't think more highly of yourself than you ought. Everyone has deficiencies even you wonderful Aquarians. It's not a problem to think that you are different... I am know I am...and love it. But I don't go around attacking people because I am... And if you feel entitled to tell us about ourselves, be open and mature enough to take some constructive criticism from us even when it doesn't feel good. As evidenced by Valois response, most I have encountered or read or what even the 100s of others posted about Aquarians...I am not the only one saying this if you read other sites and other posts below...Aquarians do that a lot. We were called scumbags...Really?? And of course none of it could be true or food for thought... I had to have some type of issue to be lashing out that the perfect Aquarian when I don't. I still talk to other guy and just met up with him other day. But what I do like about him is that he doesn't try to hide his issues. He will let you know that he has a problem. I do thank you for being mature and not result to name calling. Valois, I didn't call all Aquarians nazis... don't twist it... I did love your response about Hitler thefreed...I wouldn't want to work under anyone either..LOL...As far as lumping Aquarians...it is understood that there are always exceptions to the rule. This however, is a blog about the Aquarian male personality so I used the appropriate terminology for the blog. My only question to you thefreed is... who said you do that well? You are confident in what you have defined, right? So.. why can't the rest of us be entitled to that same freedom without ridicule? Just food for thought...as you said we are sharing opinions...

well its nice to hear from an aqua but heres the thing i don't mind how judgemental or even the fear of love or any of the things that make you end or start a relationship its that when you know you have someone that is on your level and can't be one step ahead of whatever game you play you run cause you finally found your match why? i am my aqua equal and he knows it all of them (3) that i have dated knew it so why do they still want to test me until i say screw it i could have a somewhat better relationship if i let him go. when i get to that point i do and i have had a proposal out of the two but not the last one and i don't want to dump him but as i said me being a libra i will not take bullshit from no one so i don't mind the not so emotional i can wing it but when i know your lying i start not to care and i can't stop it once that switch goes on. what im really asking is are the test worth as much as you lose playing them on women? what if you deem her worthy but waiting on you she left is it worth the true loss to your heart that you know will cut deep just like it cut her?

Hi Aqua guy, what if you meet a girl and she knows you are dating her friends, she likes you and be your friend and sees you once in awhile. You date his friend too and he finds out. And she denies it. Do you revenge her, dump her, or stay friends with her? What can she do to keep your interest and not be hurt?

To ReallyAquarius1

Although I wish aquarians were more predictable like several other zodiac signs eg. virgos cancers, capicorns etc. I find their unpredictablity charming and sometime agravating, yet interesting, I do become confussed as to which trait some Aquarians display to me that I find more
interesting and irritating. They keep me guessing for sure. I have a brother who is Aquarius and he is one of mmy favorite brothers since I was a little girl.. He is always smiling and thinking and doing something, yet very thoughtful and considerate to others. So how can anyone be upset about that? In relationship with one, he was attentive sweet, giving, delightful and playful. I did not realize what I had in my hands and tosssed it away. My mistake ggrrr. i can turn the clock back in time but i would have looked at him and treated him way more special. Maybe some day I will get that oppertunity. I say people are who they are due to different life experiences and upbring has some influence into the makeup of customs and habits of each indiviual. Were also thinking and feeling our way through life, and sometimes information hits in a gut level that surprises one. Aquarians seem to know things to their advantage or maybe they test out life to see what happens? Of course what women does not want the man they love or like to be ga ga over them..but life is what it is and its not going play out like i want it to.. dang it. ive read alot of comments from other Aquarians and it really surprises me that they are so upfront and honest even when not so nice words describing the bad relationships.. I have to thank you for your honesty.. It helps me see Iam not losing my mind and maybe Aquarians can love but not the way I want it. It is exciting though. I read so much about them because I need help to understand what going on with me and them. Especially since they keep their thoughts to themselves, what is up with that??

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SURPRISE ! I have been wondering if I was so lucky to date the wierdest person in the world. now that I know I am not alone. I am a Cancer girl met my Aqua boy who is 28 now 6 months ago. We've been through times that we both recognize there are just too many difference between us but we eventually came to agree on resolving the issues together. I've been feeling so uncomfortable about his distance and aloof. He always look like he has so much going on in his mind but he always tell me there are nothing special happening when I questioned him. He treated me coldly and his attitude portraited a very cold image of himself. It's wierd that he doesnt hold my hands or even walk beside me while we go shopping or out for dinner and I complained. I could see that he imporved after I raised my concern. Not sure if he's the typical Aqua since he never disappear suddenly. But he certainly contain the Aqua traits of playing mind games, we've once broken up while he suggested and I told him I am cool with him and he begs me back telling me he was just testing me. so we got back together. Things got better and we went to a trip just 2 weeks ago and that was great. His attitude changed after we got back from the trip and he told me it's becuase of his super busy personal and work stuff but I saw him online messaging his friend while it took him forever to give me a cold reply. I kept asking why he changed and who he's been messaging with and he told me the same thing. I knew that I've been pushing him in a hard way after reading all the posts and finally after 3 days I asked for a talk and he explained the same thing again and I told him I don't sense his care. He then stayed quiet for a long while without talking and said that we should take a break becuase he tried his best to improve what I said and just that it wouldnt success everytime. So he want a time off on his own to improve how to treat people better. I asked him if it means a break up or he just doesn't love me enough to give us a chance and he told me no, just that he need a space to step back to reflect. I don't know what to do and to expect as it's been eighth days he hasnt been talking to me not even a message, can anyone pleaseeee help !!!!!

dear lag713

I believe Aquarians like thier space quite alot... and they need time to miss you so that he can return with more love and passion to give. You on the other hand might want to take a hobbie or become more interesting and busy yourself of things you are interested.. If you have a onbe track mind and its all focused on him.. Then you may become very boring to him.
and he will seek someone else who sorry for saying this... someone who has a life and not so dependent on his every word or deeds towards you.. You will become very selfish in his eyes and a whinny cry baby that can live life without someone holding your hand to say its ok and its alright...
You have to be a strong women with your own interests and life going on with out him... Watch and see how quickly he wants to be back with you..
but next time make sure you are an interesting person, and not always dependent on his presense and time. Be a big girl, and try not to judge him harschly because you were not taken care of. Then you will see more of him.. and try not to criticize him in everything he says or does not say.. or do or what he does not do.. Or he will be gone forever.

Have a life of your own too. I think yoh have to much time when yo uh do nothing.

I can tell you all it is quite simple, aqua men are attracted, interested, and entertained by intelligence. Therefore if as long as u can entertain him mentally you have his undying attention. When he loses when he is no longer mentally satisfied that's when you have lose him. The longer you have his mind's attention the better your chances of getting him completely.This does not mean completely allow yourself to be fully discovered. If that happens, been he can control you. Allow him to pick his interest but, never allow him in too far. If he can control you, then it is not interesting, and he will never be yours.

This aquarius Is a fakaquarius. He wants honesty but is dishonest. Wants privacy but snoops into all my private business, including watching me in the shower with his third eye. He values friendship and brotherhood but but is an elitist who has handouts about everything form race to religion to the right clothes shoes etc. tries to act all cool, accepting but is not. He's a closet elitist in every sene of the word. He wants SPacebut gives me none. None I meanhe hears every thought, every letter, he knows whne I burp or have a sip of water. He is so smothering I should have been dead from suffocation yesterday. He thinks he's so Noel and altruistic but he's reallybeignselfish and Thomas I don't see through it. High standards? It's all relative, he will marry someone for the perks. He will not think twice about cheating, he counsels abused women but does it himself. He name calls, ridicules, I mean I t an email calling me pork chop with miss pig because I've gained some weight. He's also call me *****, horny, etc. does not take no for a answer to I a nice way like a ocrazy stalker kinda way. I could go on but this page would run out the net would run out.

Wow so many comments on this topic. I want to tell you something, I am dating an Aquarius male, i am a female Taurus and my ex was Gemini and acted like the Aquarius. My point is that all the man are like this with a clingy woman. I am a very loyal Taurus and when I had clingy boyfriends no matter how loyal I was I wanted to get rid of them. So people, stop being clingy nobody likes a clingy person. If my Aquarius man would be clingy to me I would play with him. Seriously. So he sees he can play with u and he is playing. Be detached.

i had one of those for 7 years everything was everybody elses fault and i finally walked out two days before he proposed and that was because he had went through every woman he could find and none of them were even close then he realized what he truly had but if he had to cheat to find out then screw him libra woman don't put up with liars or cheaters and the judge is just them no sympathy from the jury

Dont play with him too much or he may go.

My aqua man is da best .. He is so loving and sexy very charming and witty... It is hard for him to commit or even try to date but when he decided to date me... OH MY GOD......... I AM SO LUCKY... I am not clingy either so I don't scare him off.. We are both tons of fun :D

A lot of what is said about Aquarius's are true. I was married to one for 17yrs, my bother is an Aquarius and my current boyfriend is an Aquarius. I am a libra. We work out great so long as both sides give each other space. The best advise I can give anyone dating an Aquarius is be yourself with them, give them space. I live with my boyfriend and he has 2 rooms in the house that are HIS. He needs to feel like something is his and he has a place to go to be comfortable, where he can retreat too. We do almost everything together but we also need time away from each other. I play pool one night a week and he shoots pool on an opposite night. That is our time away from each other!! I can't stress enough that you can not be needy. This is why Libra and Aquarius get along so well. We are not needy people, we are independent. We also love our freedom as well. I do not ask him who calls, text etc...he gives me my same space and does not ask me.

The only other advise I can give anyone dating an Aquarius is they are in love with your mind....not your body.

huh.....definitely agree that they are like firecrackers in the beginning and burn themselves out into friendship. Not sure why? I loved them both so much but they hurt me so much more than any other sign has also.

This is not uncommon. I am an Aqua male, 29 years old, and its funny how much of what I read online about us is pretty dead-on accurate. If you really like this guy, you need to make it an absolute point to tell him straight up: "Hey, I need you to be honest and forward with me on this," otherwise you're looking at cat and mouse as long as you'll let him. We are strange like that, I dunno why. Its true though, I have a naturally aloof quality about me that has always either attracted women or completely turned them off. My advice is to be straightforward and honest with him, and if he's not willing to return the same, let him go and move on, at his loss!

i am an aqua man and much of this is true
i admit i am the biggest piece of **** without being a bad person and i hate it i was in love with a gemini and pushed her away because im ******* crazy and could not stop with the mind games and fear of emotional closeness
i began to manipulate her emotionally and mentally when i realized that this is what drives her
now im dating a leo and in no time i learned how she was and began to manipulate her too
i dont understand why
i have figured out that physical interaction is what makes her tick so i hold back sexually until i have to use sex get her back under my control
i am not open to love because i have this idea of a perfect partner that ive chased like a ghost throughout my entire life but i never find her because in my heart i always believe that my partner is not in love with me, but in love with how i make them feel and i cannot put faith in something illogical like feelings because my feelings change so rapidly.
im deathly attracted to sag and libra women because they will not play the mind game or they are better at it than i am and i wind up overwhelmed emotionally and under their control
when i figure a woman out or i feel like i can control them too easily i lose interest because i feel like they are easy and someone will take them
i admit it is confusing because i am a caring friendly and compassionate person by nature and an incredible friend and i usually try to make friends with women first so i slip by any kind of walls they have up

Woww... Yu really, really broke down exactly what was going on during my relationship with an Aquarius man [im a Virgo woman] I'm shocked &amp; hurt at the same time but it is what it is. Thanks for the explanation since he can't give me one...

I totally understand your point of view. It's not confusing in anyway what so ever. A woman that can be controlled to easily or who is entirely too clingy so soon would mean that she's jumped into your world blindly and seeking more of a companionship more than she is your heart.

I'M A SAGITTARIUS FEMALE ..I FALL IN LOVE QUITE EASY,MET THIS GUY IN 2010 ,HE BLEW MY MIND WITH HIS INTELLIGENCE AND THE WAY HE DRESSED HE REMINDED ME OF THE MODEL TYPE..I FELL DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH HIS SMARTS AND HIS POEMS..WHILE WE WERE SEEING EACH OTHER 3 WEEKS I THOUGHT I WAS HIS WORLD UNTILL I FOUND OUT HE HAD AT LEAST 3000 OTHER WOMAN IN LINE FOR HIS HEART.. HE WOULD DATE AND HAVE SEX WITH AT LEAST 40 WOMEN A MONTH AND TELL THEM ALL THE SAME THING ..HES HIGHLY ARAID OF FALLING IN LOVE AND STAYING WITH THAT PERSON FOREVER.. HE COULD COOK ,HE WAS FUNNY ,HE MADE ME FEEL SPECIAL...WE LOVED THE SAME MUSIC R&B SOUL ,WE BOTH COULD SING WHICH WAS GREAT...WE MET AUG 2010 AND FELL APART DEC 2010 .. AROUND SEPT -OCT 2011 WE MET UP AGAIN STARTED GETTING CLOSE AGAIN AFTER HE PUT TONS OF WOMEN BEFORE ME .HE WANTED TO BE FRIENDS AGAIN ,,I SLEPT WITH HIM BUT I MOVED ON SO YES I CHEATED ON MY LIBRA MAN FOR THIS AQUARIUS. I LOVE THE AQUARIUS SO MUCH I JUST NEEDED HIM BACK..NOW THAT HE FOUND OUT I WAS TAKEN HE WANTED ME BACK BUT TELLS ME HE DOESN'T BELIEVE I LOVE HIM ..ITS CONFUSING BECAUSE I REALLY DO..HE IS EVERYTHING TO ME ,MY SOUL CRAVES HIM . WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON BUT HE HAS A BIG PROBLEM SAYING HE LOVES ME WHEN I TELL HIM. HE IGNORES ME EVERYTIME ..

Avoid him at all costs. He's dirt. You put him on a pedestal as if he's this god and as if he's all mighty and powerful but deep down he doesn't even know his true strengths or his self worth. He's in search for his own self worth, that is why he's unable to commit to anyone. Until he develops this sense of self worth -- many women will love him but he will not give love in return. Let him be or he will scar you mentally or worse --- physically. He doesn't have self worth so what makes you think he will have it for you?

My name was originally Saltines but for some reason I can't log back on with my original name. Update: the Aqua man did not get the job so he is not relocating as yet. We are still in different states, I am unclear of my status with him. Two weeks ago he ask me when i was coming to visit him in his home state, i was unsure so he told me he will figure a good time for me to visit. I asked him will he pay for my trip he said he would pay half because alot of things came up and he has to use the money for those purposes. In my head half was not good enough for me and I refused to pay half for a trip that he is plannIng for me. Any way fast forward to today he and I had a phone convo where he stated that he was frustrated because he has to pay over a thousand dollars to have his car fix because his insurance do not cover it and now he can not go to Vegas at the end of this month. "EXCUSE ME!" My reaction is your going to Vegas which was a trip he never told me he planned (pissed). He said he felt that he did not have to tell me. Point of the story is he has money to spend to go to Vegas but can't pay for my full ticket to visit him in ATL. For a year now the only thing that came out his mouth was "i'm going to visit you" but he makes no time to visit (i have yet to see him) now he wants me to fly out to Atl to visit him and I have to pay half (mind you i am unemployed). I am not going through this again as you read my past blog i used to pay full fare to visit him and he never came to visit me. Plus he has money to plan a trip to Vegas (I thought he has important things to do with that money) but now he can't even go because he has car problems. (Should I be happy?) To go off on a tanget he changed the subject and started complaining about how is friend is selfish bought a popular video game for his boy and all he ask his friend was for a beer, his friend said no because it was his last beer. Mind you he always knew his friend was selfish and had issues in the past about his character. Therefore I boughtup some scenerios where i lend people money and they never pay me back(mind you he was one of the people who i lend money to on many ocassions and never paid me back, but i refrained from stating names) Off course he agreed people are selfish and i should not lend people money, but he fail to realize he was a participant, and the reason his friend used him is called Karma, but i guess Aqua males can not analyze themselves. So that is my dilemma. I wanted to address both situations but he said he had to call me bck, but of course like an Aqua he has not.

Just to add he so quick to give to the people that use him and do nothing for the ones that help him (well for anyways) It a sense he wants to buy frienship or he wants the wrong people to like him. SMH!

Now to Isadora, hun... Aqua men are the most challenging men of the zodiac that I have ever experienced to date. As you continue to read this page and explore other sites, yes you will find some women have successful relationships with them but most don't. Unless you are a Sagittarius, Libra or Gemini with a mental health degree (and I mean that for yourself because they will drive you crazy!!) the best thing to do is not date an Aqua. Even these women who are "supposedly" well suited for them have problems with them. They are flawed, which in and of itself is not bad because we all are, but what makes them hard to date or befriend is that they don't know it. You can't fix what you refuse to admit.

I am a gemini woman who is running out of patiance.I usually ignore my Aqua ex bipolar behavior but this is too much. I feel comfortable knowing my status, I hate when he analyze me and feels he knows the best solutions and I am not allowed to analyze. I hate the secrets and the half a$$ stories they give and one has to find out the truth later which they will probably deny. I hate MIA syndrome (I do not ask for much, but a hello text to know that your breathing would be common courtesy) I understand they love their freedom but to not call for 5 days or more is ridiculous. He live successful woman and probably would find hinself a syga monmma. I hate he picks people who do not care about his well being before me. I hate that money is hos driving force.

Aqua man.....<br />
Listen up ladies.....<br />
From a mature perspective we have no time 2 tolerate wishy washy women...<br />
Don't try 2 manipulate us and don't try 2 control us.... We love strong women that have things going on for themselves... but at the end of the day we want a women who will either walk with us or let us lead....We are intense people with intense emotions who are not afraid 2 tell it like it is.... We can't stand it when people take our kindness 4 weakness.. We are unpredictable and are capable of amazing things both positive and negative.... (Trust me u don't want 2 see the negative) All we ask 4 is honesty and communication no matter if you think it will hurt our feelings.... We have good hearts and show people respect no matter who they are.... We are slow to judge and quick 2 help....<br />
Its only those immature females that want to dominate a weak man and manipulate him that say all that bullshyt about aqua man being this and aqua man being that....Shut up! Sexually we have no limits if we really love or like u.... We have a high sex drive with the right partner and will only aim 2 please please please all night and then some.... As long as u know how to be yourself and make us feel comfortable we will open up 2 u emotionally,physically and spiritually.... If we smell u being fake then we will leave because whats the sense in waisting time.... Yes we are independent and can be loners.... Why cage a bird..... We would not want to cage our partner and take away their sense of freedom and individuality...... No one is perfect off course as we do have high standards....but its all fair in love and war!

Wow... I dropped in on this page, because I am experiencing this issue with my Aqua friend. I must say I found your response both enlightening and amusing. I guess the main issue I have with Aqua men is the sheer hypocrisy they demonstrate alone. Don't get me wrong I am crazy about my Aqua friend, to each his own. Everything that I read about Aquas states that they are loving, emotional, humanitarian people. Yet, they will ignore you, which is utter disrespect just wrapped in the lame excuse of "that's just me" or "I need time to connect to my thoughts" or "I am not into you, so I ignore you to get you out of my life." The real truth is that its just simple and plain immaturity. Every person deserves respect even if you don't like them and if you desire such upfront honesty of others then as an honest Aqua you should be able to give that honesty to others in return. If you don't like them or want them around, tell the person don't play the very games you claim to be so turned off by... To ignore someone who you know is contacting you is child's play. Game.. plain and simple. Another example of hypocrisy in the life of an Aqua. If an Aqua is such a stand up humanitarian, then they should take into consideration the effect their "weird" behavior places on other people. It's really narcissism hidden behind an astrological sign. I even noticed that you prefaced everything around what a person has to be or do for an Aqua to show you kindness as in "if you make us feel comfortable then..." When you stand people up, don't answer their calls, demand that they must be a certain way in order to be in your good graces or they are simply not worth your time, cancel dates and appointments with no thought of calling and saying you're going to be late as others have mentioned as a common with Aquas, you are really just being self-absorbed, self-centered, immature and extremely narcissistic. The very value you claim to have for humanity as a whole you cannot even display on an individual level to a person or a group of people on a consistent basis. Yet, have an uncanny sense of entitlement to be rude, high-minded and even explosive in temperament if challenged for your rude conduct. Humanitarian?? It's sheer hypocrisy at its finest. Someone who is afraid to share how they feel especially for older Aquas let's say 35 and up, there is a real problem. It's not an Aqua characteristic it's a social development skill issue. If you retreat the majority of the time when someone presents emotions (unless that person can "make" you feel comfortable) or you feel insecure that's an inner development problem that is common among people who have experienced issues growing up or failed to develop socially that can happen with any sign. It's not an Aqua "thing." I guess, my questions to Aquas,where is your responsibility to be a good little human being like you require so much of the rest of us? Where is your level of commitment to friendship and relationship if you are not getting out of it what you want? While spending so much time analyzing the rest of us to see if we are good enough for you to answer our call, when you are you going to use that energy to explore your insecurities, deficiencies and weaknesses that you bring to the table? Don't you think that the most humanitarian thing you can do is to be "neighborly with thy brother" which means that some of that analysis needs to be put on the man or woman in the mirror? What good are you doing Aqua if you are not helping to foster healthy relationships with all man-kind especially those that are in your path in search of the higher meaning of life and humanitarian improvement? Just food for thought for you high-minded intellectual Aquas. :) We still love your crazy tails though... But you are some difficult people and should really start reflecting on how you miss the mark as well and not just how the rest of us miss your "high standards."

I agree with everything you said. Your statement is very wise. My relationship with my Aqua ex was dysfunctional rather than conventional. Why are they so scared of commitment and emotions?

DamnAquas - lol nice rant, tho you hit a few honest nails on the head, which i respect...

I personally love to read negative stuff about my sign...at the end of the day, a lot of it is true. We're fickle, we might be on one day and off the next...and yes, some of us do lie. Not sure why though. I don't know many guy aqua's besides myself, but I know several females, tried to date a few but ultimately didnt work out.

My question is this though, if life is so bad with your aqua guy or you really can't stand your aqua guy, why stay with them? I personally love the fact I can break it off with someone when I see the relationship is not going anywhere, the aqua females seemed to be the same, but I don't understand why everyother sign puts themselves through needless bs with a particular guy when there is so many to choose from?

A follow up question to the above - what is it about aqua guys that deems entire blogs written about how much they drive you girls insane? lol seriously? When I read this, my mind instantly tries to find out just whats between the lines...cause there has to be something. To the peeps that talk about their aqua who was broke and jobless, that you mistakenly allowed to move in and spend all your money, sorry but thats on you. It really doesn't matter what sign you are, if whoever you're with can't handle his business like a pro, he's a no...period.

Libra's are your worst nightmare my dear. ;)
Stay clear of us or else.

Wishy washy is the synonym of indecisiveness. I've always hated how selfish the Aquarius is. It's as if we are obligated to stay with them forever in their dungeon of love lmfao. Sure they are very giving people but sometimes I question the intentions of the Aquarius. The intentions aren't as genuine and pure as they should be. Lol I've noticed that you've said "don't try to manipulate and don't try to control us" but that's all the Aquarius ever does to any other zodiac. Anyways if you date an Aquarius you'll learn the most darkest lessons. I appreciate my past experience with one.

I just love damn aquas reply.. just telling it like it is....AMEN

now see i love this it is the truth i have been waiting to hear and aquas are not bad or evil just misunderstood like libras is all so what i caught a bad aqua or two it won't stop me from loving the right one that comes along i am surrounded by them as they are surrounded by us go libras and aquarius

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for sure its their stradegy their afraid of committment mine is doing that to me right now they get over excited about u then they slow it down cuz they feel trapped. also they lash out and stuff when their hurt they want a girl thats caring and sweet cuz their uncomfortable being that way. what ever he does to u do it back til he gives in wich is hard but also i try to kill him with kindness then he feels bad. they like challenges tho

If anyone wants to know what an Aquarian man is really all about rent the movie The Man Who Loved Woman directed by Frances Truffautt. Truffautt wrote and directed the movie and he should know the subject well because he's an Aquarian himself.

I was dating a aquaruis man for just over a year. Hes lost his house went bankrupt owes everyone money. I had money in saving he had. I money for gas or smokes and tells me I can't save money raising a family. So we lived together for 7 months and I finely left I couldn't take it anymore. He's a lier drama and a bullshitter. So he went to Toronto on the weekend to a wedding and pick up a new women he told me about her. Then the next weekend he had her at our house. I'm not texting him or calling him nothing. He's very verbally and emotionally abusive. He doesn't work and has ms. I have a good job. I feel like he lived off me and my son. He has two kids of his own one adha OCD and the other one is autistic I love him to pieces but I will never forgive him. He's was great friends with my brother and family. His relatives are friends of my family. He did tell me about this girl. It yet he's sneaky about her too. We've only been split up three weeks tomorrow and he's moved on already. I can't just move on but why has he ??? He told me it was over and for me to move on. So I did and know he text me last night livid.

by indian vedic shastra... ascendants sign is the main sign of the person... so many women's feel cheated with an aquarius man that means they are not actually aquarius... aquarius man's are highly compatible with Libra, Gemini and Leo women... so definately these signs of women really enjoyed with aquarius man... aquarius man's are loyal once they commit and if they don;t commit that's for obv you will see them having never ending affairs... they are shy but once open up you never know whats in the package... and they will never complain... if women's are expecting that they will tell you where u lacks in so after that you can change or you will make things better so forget... that's not gonna happen... if u understand and start moving then you are lucky else he will not even give you a slight hint about where u lacking... they are sexy in there own way... and they want there life as secret or say... they are secretive...

Im a gemini woman who was in a 8.5 year relationship with an Aqua man. I met him in college and gave him space and that's what intrigued him to me and plus i was an artist. Our relationship was unconventional because after 6months of being "friends"he moved to another state and we had a long distsnce relationship. He promise to visit me (which never happened) I ended up buying my own plane tickets to see him, providing necessities, and paid for everything when I visit him in his state. I did this traveling for 8.5 yrs. through the visits I found picts of him with a female hugged up, flight intinery of a "friend" (girl) who he had to pick up from the airport, more picts of females, he comtacted his ex-girl friend (he claimed she was annoying) on myspace, he made fake facebook and myspace pages and lied about it. I was so fed up with his shananegans i confronted him which he always said they were just friends. He was mad at me for going through his personal things to find this info. I called him out about his facebook and he was mad, he stop speaking to me for a week and then he broke up with me christmas day of 2009. I went to his home state to visit him but he basically shot me down. I try making contact after but he ignored me so i stopped and moved on with my life which i had a short relationship with someone. finally last yr 2011 on my bday he sent me a birthday e card to wish me well. I admit i broke down because i did not hear from him in1.5 yrs. I finally called him the next month because i needed advice in how deal with a family member who became sick, he also dealt with it a few yrs ago. He seemed nice and gave me good advice and told me he wiuld be here for me. The next few conversations he wanted a profile pict of me and also wanted to visit me. He also inquired about my loce life which i told him i was seeing someone but broke up with them. He was mad that i was intimate with someone after him and stop speaking ti me for 2wks (can you believe, lol!) he also was seeing someone fir a short while he claims, Whatever! Probably many and was females he cheated on me with (but i have no proof). Currently nothing has changed and he wants to relocate further for a new job. I am currently pursuing a second degree and he constanyly ask when im going to be finish with school. I ask if he has plans for me he says "maybe I do" however he never really comes out and say what he expects from me. I wish he could say "come live with me, or i'll help you pay for school" but he does not. I always been there for him financially when he had nothing , but if he gets this job he will make decent money. I am so confused where we stand. One minute were friends next minute he does not want me to hace inimate relationships with other men. So confused?

I'm a Libra girl, I have an aqua husband for yearssss. We're fine, the thing is Aqua has free soul, they dont like to feel that they're being controlled, which what most women do in relationship, but you must control your aqua man, otherwise your relationship is getting nowhere. So be smart, don't play games, just be a lady, control your aqua man without making them feel it. <br />
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Always (pretend to) be the one who's more logical than them. But keep being loveable, sweet and funny. Once in awhile, give him unique surprises. He loves it! Dont think its a big effort, I enjoy it very much! Because I get what I want and the rewards are worth it.

i am an aquarian . i do the same with girls . this is a strategy to prove if the partner is realy in love . If the partner dont do nothing about me , i dont turn back even i have loved her more than my selfe . I just wait her to come , if she give me any hope . But if she doesnt just go away . Aquarians are very extreme , they want things to be perfect ore nothing

im an aquawoman and had a one night with an aquaman. he run his mouth about his x wife religion and having a dauther that he loves to death. as he kept talking I acknowledge we were identic i oculd tell he runs his mouth saying he owns several houses ,etc. .. creative lier.. also sex is good but something is wrong with this aquaman they tend to sleep around and get tired of the same woman and somehow when they see is over they go back and want the challenge.. they dont like condoms so your well expose for STD's they trust all woman they meet careless of aids etc.. this aquaman i met is a doctor educated but when it comes to aquaman they love all types fat, skinny, loud mouth they want the sex and they are good actors.. I never been emotionally envolved with one but had boyfriends and I'm able to discover their games.. my adviice a virgo man is selfish but loyal they dont sleep around and they have determination aquarius dont have a mind of its own and they dream alot and one thing they dont like to get hurt they will go in depression but in the other hand they dont think of others when they cheat and lie is very easy to do for them..

Ive ben talking to an aquarius male for 2 weeks we had sex first date yeah he kept making drinks and now he txt me everyday i dnt txt him we havnt spoke on the phone its like no need to what do this sight look like between us what doom am i coming to im A GEMINI

I'm a gemini and I wish a ran when my ex boyfriend left the state indtead of getting into a ling distance relationship that did not benefit me.

I'm a Taurus female and have been dating an Aquarius male for a little over 2.5 years. Took 2 years to get him to admit we were official, but to be honest I didn't press him much about it over those 2 years. Anyway, I agree with a lot of the comments here except the stuff about them being liars and cheats. If you look up aquarius male, the desc<x>riptions always say they are honest above all and once they ARE with you they are loyal. As far as I can tell with mine, it's true. But, correct. They will not call you every day. They will not want to spend every moment with you. They will laugh at you if you talk astrology to them and they can easily get bored. They always need to plan an exciting date, or else they will feel like a failure. For as much as you probably want to keep them entertained, they have a complex for keeping you entertained too. Stay independent, have your own life and don't cling to them. They HATE a clingy woman. When you do have a major heart to heart talk with them (for me once a year on average now) you will be AMAZED at how much they actually do feel, but just can't express on a more regular basis. I think they actually feel SO much that they bury their feelings. Just can't deal and don't want to. Since we're coming up on 3 years soon, I guess we're due for another talk! Hopefully I'll have positive things to report :).

I am a scropio woman but the more I read these comments the more I think I'm really an aquarius man. lol. I act crazy with my aquarius man & I am amaze that he is still prusuing me. <br />
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-I'm very hot & cold. I think its because I am so passionate & emotional that I just do things I do not mean. I'll blow up in his face, calm down, see that he had a point & then apologize all in the same breath. But I won't do it often.<br />
-I'm very honest but reply back to him in riddles. I also shut down when I become sad around him. He ask me what is on my mind but I say nothing & leave it at that.<br />
-I'll start the text or call him and then suddenly stop. But sometimes I just need my space to think. & when I start thinking I get so lost in my world that I just forget about the real one. He always contact after 1 day of no communication tho.<br />
-I want to be in a relationship with him because he is so strange & intruging but I'm not ready & I def know he isn't either. So we just decided to be friends for now.<br />
I had a big emotional eruption, told him to lose my number & then started to flip flop. I was sorry, I needed him but when he said we should just be friends I agreed. Lol. No contact for two days but then he text. Now we're just fwb (which is cool with me) but it seems like he is playing games. Its alright cause I'm game. If we going to tango then lets tango baby. I just hope he can keep up with me! I need a little stimulating mind games. Muahaha!

I went through the same thing you're going through now. I wouldn't stand for his crap, like showing up 2 hours for a date and acting like nothing happened. His excuses usually were valid, like he had to work late, except he failed to let me know when he knew he was going to have to, usually days beforehand. The SOB texted me a million times a day, yet he could never manage to tell me important information like that. We've missed more concerts and plays, ect., which is very expensive (I never put my hand in my pocket for any man and neither should any other woman either) for him and frustrating for me.

im an aquarius man and i honestly feel most women are boring. i think this is why some are kinda "womanizers" cuz its easy to get caught into a game of taking one thing u like from a variety of women (and this doesnt mean sex). i think its weak/annoying when a girl is overly passionate and seems to only want me to be just an emotional companion because aqua men dont draw their happiness or stability from one individual. we like independent women who are focused on something greater. for example, id much rather date a business woman who is only passionate sexually with me than to date some one who seems to only be focused on me and is very clingy.<br />
i usually do play games but thats because the passive aggressive nature of women kinda brings it out. most women like to hint and play games which is cute at first but gets annoying and it makes me want to do it back. i think the biggest problem is we have some sort of strange commitment problem because we always think there is someone better once the initial thrill is over

These guys, "hit and run", to maintain control. If one has any sense "common sense" BEWARE. Abandonment and absentism is their trademark. It's astonding how any one of them, standing with their mouths hanging open, when what they do is done to them, and they are divorced and standing ALONE. And in their heads they say " how did that happen?" Don't take the excessive abuse and question yourself and lose years.....They don't get it....their honesty is their version. Imagine that....when it all backfires on him....It takes a man to be a man to to ask what did I do to bring this on...and they take too many of your years to get there....in this case "better late then never" is not the cliche you want for your life experience as they steel your years....cut it off as you see it...in the here and now so whoever you are out there you can have life....they are life suckers....and you are not their mother. You don't have to get caught in their web for life and lose yours. Their track record seems to indulge this type of male in a web of health issues later in life....then whoever is there gets to take care of them...you are not their mother....get on and get out before you get caught up in their coming web of degenerative health issues

My Gawd, have you hit the nail on the head. To top it all off, they suck in bed. The worst lay I ever had was with Aquarian men (yes, stupid me went out with 3 of them over the course of the years). I'm the type of woman they go after. Elusive as a butterfly and fiercely independent andI don't have time to take bs. 3 strikes and you're out. I made all of them hit the road before they even knew what hit them. All of them begged me to take them back and that they would never do what they never really realized they did to begin with again. 2 came to my house (I didn't open the door) and called hysterical crying telling me the same line "I've never been in love before" as if that would make a difference. Ladies, actions speak louder than words. Don't believe their bs of telling you one thing and doing another. Unbelievably, after all these years I still hear from these creeps from time to time, with the hope that I'll somehow miraculously take them back. And Spinn is 100 % right, they all look like shyte by the time they reached middle age because their debauchery ravages their looks and their health. But I disagree with Spinn on one thing. There is no such thing as safe sex short of both of you getting physically checked out prior to being intimate. But beware, even after you do that you still are at risk with these guys because they can't be faithful even if you both agree to exclusivity.

I met an aqau man 6 weeks ago.Im a leo.We had a date and he was complimenting me every five seconds of how beautiful and sexy I am and next thing you know we go do the deed. a few days later he wants to see me again and we have a great time again and he mentions that he loves my soul. then I don't hear from him for two weeks and he decides to call and says lets get together so we did the deed again.Now telling me he wants to wake up everyday with me.At first I was thinking wow this could be a good match i was looking to have a relationship.Then the next date he says I don't want to pry into your personal life but i want to take it to the next level wtf !?.Then says how bout we spend tomorrow together as im leaving i say sure and guess what I havent heard from him in a week. I was on cloud 9 for the first few weeks and now I feel so played and pissed off that i fell for this. Im not really sure why hes doing this when we had so much fun together and I'm not going to worry about it anymore if i said something wrong well he didnt get to know me and quite frankly its his loss.

It's called love bombing - a psychological technique. Unfortunately, they're not doing it because they're trying to get you to love them. They're doing it because they say whats right off the top of their head without any thought to how the other person is perceiving and digesting it. For most rational people, telling someone how crazy you are about them comes after knowing them for at least a little while. But, for too many Aquarians, they'll make you feel like you are the most unique human being on earth immediately. It's very flattering but also stupid because they don't really know how they feel except at that moment and once their out of your presence they may still think of you that way but that doesn't mean it will make them put you first. No one comes first to Aquarian men except Aquarian men. In one to one relationships they are the most selfish beings on the face of the earth.

I'm an aqua-male digging east cultures. <br />
My take on dealing with aquarians : requires simplicity at best. <br />
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Be more straightforward, no gimmicks, ceramics nor cosmetics. Present thyself plain and simple. THAT represents valuable integrity most aquarians will appreciate. They walk their talks ba<x>sed on a bag of rarely realized, yet rationalized, life supporting plans. Share your most agreeable dream and if he finds you in his big picture, he'd find ways at any cost to make it happen, just dont flank too much. Inside, he's flat out insecure at most times anyhow. Refrain from mental/verbal nags, instead give him a rub and massage on his back down to his ankles. Those are the points where you can really deliver "support". I can imagine an awesome get-together would start from picking up vegetables, cooking, wine, cuddling, and ....(perhaps, bed time adventurous trip), with all times flared on active communication (smart conversation, not intellectual one).

Sorry for the english, but i just wanted to add some informations about us aquarius men and some of the reasons that can make us aloof sometimes.<br />
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The biggest turnoff for us aquarius men is being exploited and tested by women. Let me explain the reasons. Women tend to test men to see how attracted they are to them, the problem is when a man react in some way, like for example showing her some attraction she will see him as weak and boring and will generally reject him as a potential mate.<br />
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Aquarius men see the world differently than other people (read even more rational than most men do) and see no harms to show attraction to the girl he like. But when the girl try to test him he will see right though this and will quickly see her as being a very dishonest and distrustful person in his eyes.<br />
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The problem is at least 9 out of 10 girls do these tests and we just have to wait until they do it to counter test them and turn the table at the last time.<br />
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From an aquarius man point of view the girls who do the most these test are the ones that are prone to fall for jerk or abusive men (in contradiction to what they think that doing so will protect them to weak men). They are the kind of girls who are the most irrationnal, and unfortunately bad karma tend to punish them for the bad way they treat good and honest men with unhealthy games, by just making them more and more abused by bad men.<br />
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The strongest man is not the one who spend a lot of energy trying to looks dominant by putting other people down, but the one who is intellectually above all that and want to keep is integrity instead. Believe it or not, but the latter is really the one who will be able to run in front of you at the last time to take a bullet for you, the other guy will never do that.<br />
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I know it can looks contradictory in the eyes of most women but we aquarius men really want the best for the girl we like but we know intellectually to well that it is impossible to really make such a girl happy because she put to much contradiction into the equation. So when you try to test him he will see right through this and it will make him become aloof and it will make him playing some games to counter test you and see if you are that kind of girl.<br />
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That is the essential reason why we are not easy to seduce,. Yes we are that selective and rebellious, we do not care to fail on purpose to the tests some girls put on us because for us a girl who act like that is seen as totally uninteresting and unattractive. That's what real integrity looks like for us and we are very patient individuals because we know that it take some times to get the best and smartest woman.<br />
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I know a lot of aqua men who are happily married to marvelous and rare women, and these women are happy and have succeded with them because they have learned to be themselves instead of spending most of there time by reading seduction books written by women who know nothing about what men really are and what they really want.<br />
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I feel sorry for all the girls who complain about aquarius men and i can totally understand that there can be bad aquarius men out there, but when i read some comments that some girls put on aquarius forums i can also understand what kind of behavior have made their aquarius men become aloof and suspicious.<br />
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We are not game pla<x>yers on purpose we just tend to make people taste their own medicine sometimes. We are naturally rebellious against what we think are abusive and unfair systems.<br />
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Hope this help a bit,

I'm an aqua male. And reading all of this is quite interesting to me lol. I just got into all this horoscope things and almost everything about aquarius so true. So I will tell you woman about me, hopefully shed some light on us aquamales. In dating a Scorpio, yeah, a Scorpio. We have been together for a year now and boy.. What a year lol. Quite a few times my girl has screamed at me to the top of her lungs " YOU F****** DRIVE ME CRAZY!!!" and I pretend to feel bad, but inside... I felt nothing. When people talk about the disappearing acts I understand.. But for me, I would say I'm going to the store and I'll listen to my iPod on the way, then get lost in my head and end up walking for hours. My gf being a Scorpio drew up all kinds of assumptions, but I didn't know what to say about it, note that I had no idea about the whole Aquarius disappearing acts. So every time we fight, or I'm just pissed off at some irrelevant thing I go for a walk, or for a run, not on a busy street, I prefer a quite street.. And I don't know of its because I'm an Aquarius or because I'm just weird but when I'm by myself, especially listening to music. I'm in a whole other world. Sounds dangerous as I'm like that while driving but I've done it for so long I can tune out of a conversation within seconds. The reason why me and my Scorpio have moved past a few things, for example... Me tuning out during a conversation. She always has something very interesting to talk about. Things where I have to analyze in my head( I suppose aquarians love to analyze) and I'm not sure if it's me but if someone explains a story to me, I can draw the picture vividly in my head. And so I never tune out from when she has something to talk about. Being a Scorpio she's a sex freak., I'm not... Sadly. Anyways, because I am curious of new things when it comes to sex, it interests her a lot. Because according to her, "never in her life has she have to move to so many different positions in one night" so ladies. If your looking for a night to remember, Aquarius are the ones :) so the whole emotional hot cold, non emotional things I hear about Aquarius is interesting to me because like before, I don't know of its because of my sign or because I'm weird but I just know when to turn off my personal feelings. But at the same time I can be very affectionate and show all kinds feelings. And then.. Snap* I can turn them off, maybe it's because we work together and we have to keep it professional I don't know lol. When I was younger( I'm 20 now) I've dated all walks of life, and usually most of those girls opened up daily quickly, mentally and physically, I felt as if, because I already knew you... I dont feel as attracted to you anymore. So, on to the next mystery. So too keep an Aquarian, make him work a bit to .. Figure you out. But don't be a total b**** about it. And the only way to know for sure if he loves you is when HE does figure you out, and he'll decided whether he likes your personality or not. I do believe about how Aquarians think way into the future, and analyze everything. They can piece together every little information they get and solve a mystery with logic, and reason. For example., my Scorpio cheated on me, well, she was talking to another man( texting) pretending it was we cousin. Long story short she slipped and left little pieces that had me in a state where I just knew something was off. And I used my super analyzing skills and without her even confessing to me, I already knew everything about their relationship behind my back. After we talked about it, she even told me that she hid it so well she was just so surprised that I knew. We get lost in our heads quite often and it's up to that Aquarian whether or not it will be his ultimate dimise, so take what I wrote to try and understand us. We do have a lot of friends and we tend to drift off from reality time to time. We are not non emotional, I love my Scorpio, even though she did her dirty deed, I understood, it was because she felt how you guys feel about us aqua males, but once I realized who I was and how I as an Aquarian I strive to change. Our on year is in three days and yes I pulled a classic Aquarian move and randomly opted for a trip out of state to celebrate. She and I worked out how I go out and just be alone for awhile so for her being a possessive Scorpio she try's to change her ways and let me be. It takes two to be Ina relationship and I know our signs are the worst comparability we are trying to make it work. I'm sorry for how everyone feels aquamales are the absolute worst in the lot. I feel ashamed actually. But know not all of us are the same. Some of us are evolved and some live their entire life's unevolved. So don't take what everyone says to heart. We are weird sons of b****

I dated one for 8mo and I will tell u it was pure hell! Lie,lie,lie! Cheat, cheat, cheat! They seen to be related to satan and all of his demons, they do not know the meaning of love or honesty. I curse the day I ever met him. If any of you ladies run into Kevin Williams black, 6ft 216 pound run I say, run!

Hello, i'm an aquarius man, and i will try to explain some things about how aquarius men works.<br />
First all please forget my english because i'm a french speaker.<br />
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Believe me or not, but when an aquarius is aloof with you, it's only that there was something that made him suspicious about you. We have very penetrating minds and sometimes people have absolutely no clue that we can see right through every little thought that came across your mind that you are not obvious yourself. If you are not perfectly honest about him it will be a big turn off for him.<br />
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We usually appreciate more a beautiful personality than a beautiful body. If you are pretty it can be a plus, but if you are the kind of girl who uses is gourgeous look to manipulate men, you have almost no chances to seduce an aquarius man.<br />
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We can be very romantics but not in a walt disney way by making gift like flowers and chocolate boxes. We want women to be our equals but we want that it go both ways and that you respect us too by not playing these princess games. For us the ultimate romantic girl is the one who have integrity and don't sleep around with lots of men and manipulate them. <br />
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Never play superiority or domination games with us, we love thinking that we deserve better than that.<br />
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Another thing, when an aquarius man say some things that can seems mean about you, it is not to be taken personaly, he just want to express is concern so you can both see what is wrong in the relationship and can both make some adjustement and have a better relationship.<br />
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I know it can seems weird but he do not say that to hurt you and probably really care for you, it is just that we love to solve problem because we know that constructive critisism is the best way to make things better before things become out of control.<br />
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I have read carefully all the negative posts about aquarius men and understand your frustrations, so don't hesitate to ask if you want to know more about us. ;-)<br />
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Hope this help and have a great day! :)

some hints to know that an aqua is so into you?

very well said bundlefly:)

Hello Caprius, hard to say because we can be aloof if we like you but we can be like that too if we don't like you. Try to flirt a bit with him, smile to him from time to time (in a friendly way) try to make some eye contact, play a bit hard to get but not too much, girls who play too much games tend to be annoying in our eyes because we don't like to be taken advantage off and it will make suspicious about you, make things light and fun in your contacts with him, if he likes you chances are he will flirt back even if he is the shy type (i'm a bit of the shy type sometimes, so i know, lol)

I am a Senior lady and I met my aqua man on a dating site.. we dated for about 7 months and by the way I am also a Scorpio..at first it was delightful... He was the perfect gentleman and very charming., but then after a few months the red flags were flying everywhere.. he was showing his true colors and I don't care for that particular color.. one minute he wanted a relationship and the next minute he wanted to friends.. it was like that with every aspect of our relationship or friendship or whatever it was..and then he started wanting to have these little talks which amounted to him being critical of my actions, just any little thing that was meaningless..Talk about mind games ( which I hate) it was almost like he was aggravating me into breaking it off.. I finally got the message and broke off with him.. I have not heard a word from him since and I am very thankful for that.. It was just to stressful and not worth the time or the effort.. and at our age time is very valuable.. I don't regret the break-up.. I am quite relieved and there are others out there who would be glad to have a simple, honest relationship..with no mind games.. Not to say I am perfect, but aquas aren't either... the way they are is just that and if someone wants to deal with it that is fine, but not me.. Life is to important to be stressed to the max over someone who really doesn't care that much.. I am glad I saw the light when I did and now I can get on with life and enjoy it.. Thanks for listening..

You are one smart lady. Bravo!

ive met a aqua guy, he is a soldier, we have had our first weekend together and it was great, but advice needed, i am a gemini, and love contact 24 7, but i dont txt or call him, i wait for him to contact me first then i reply, after our weekend he kept up the contact for four days now its going abit quiet, ive still not messaged, whats the way forward guys?? is it silence???

just keep waiting aqua need lots of space sometime...

Uh, he might be busy, like dodging bullets right now.

well I learned some thing from reading these blogs but I also have my own experience to go on. I did not know that aquarians were such game pla<x>yers!!!! But it was in line with how I acted bc when I first met my Aquarian guy, I was using him.. so I was rarely around for hanging out, conversations, and sex.. I made him wait 2 months and I was dating this kid!!!! But as I smartened up and got used to his relentless charm, I gave in and began giving him my undivided attention. We started talking and hanging out EVERYDAY!!!! Long story short I had this "fling" with a girl since I'm bi and that hurt my aquarian guy deeply since I was honest about it.. but what can I say aquarian guys can be soo lazy to the point they dont wanna brush their teeth and so dumb that they do not know how to save money, which made me put attention else where. I tried to mend things by apologizing but it seems that just invited my aquarian guy to cheat.. but sneakily. Like I was up front about what I did.. dont go online and talk to girls inappropriately in a gaming site that I didnt even know had a chat room!!!! Idk maybe what I did caused our relationship to go astray, and my lack of rebounds right now may be having me feel disabled whereas I still wanna hang... but hes with it. He swears hes still loyal ect but I dont believe him. Our last straw was that I was snooping thru his fone and e-mail when he was sleeping and he thru a fit!! I told him he could see anything he wanted of mine but he was not having it. So before he left I made sure I smacked him around and called him all types of names since i couldn't snoop, and I took it as he was bring shady! sooooooooooo overall if u got a good aquarius, dont hurt him! but then again be careful they are sneaky, dumb, and lazy sometimes....! <br />
Oh and I'm a LIBRAAAAA BABBYYYY!!! BEST SIGN EVERRRR lol

I have been seeing an aqua man for a few months and he too disappears and don't hear from him for days. We live a hundred miles apart. We had sex the first night which wasn't very smart but I guess we had alittle too much spirits. When we would see each other we always ended up in bed together. He stated right from the start that he didn't want a relationship/ commitment. He wasn't ready for one beings he had just got out of a relationship with his ex wife speaking of which they (she's an aquarius too) were married two times and lived together for a few yrs and then he kicked her out. He told me the last time that I was his brown eyed girl and that I was his best friend and I was special. WTF. He disappears for days at a time not necessary doing anything wrong but just not hearing from him. We have talked for hours and I literally mean for hours. Four and a half hrs on the phone several times and even after having sex we would cuddle and just talk for hrs... Don't get it. Now I am just his best friend.... He has said that this would never last forever so I am not going to contact him first or anything. He does drink alot and so did his ex wife. He really did seem interested in me but the more that I have read up on aquarius men it seems like a patteren that they live by....

also i know female friends that have been through hell with there aqua but aqua men u just cant get enoough of i even no sum that will hit there women.... show that u care but at the same time be distant me and mines flirt with women togeher for the fun of it... be there friend but at the same time be lady like classy bc more than likey there use to hootcies.. just always make it clear that he can walk towmorrow and u wldnt lose any sleep and he will be yours mines try to play games but i play them better... they love strong women but its a must too have losts of patience lots!!

im also a capricorn..thanks for sharing your insites..can you share more? thanks!

My daughters father is an aqua. and we have been together on and off for 4years. and let me tell you we have been through it all. Im going to tell you when a aqua man loves you.... and wants you he will not play those games. I dare my aqua to try me they love women that dont take know mess he knows better. if he dishess it be prepared to take it x10 NO JOKE... to my ladies dating a aqua yes u have to have a cast iron stomach to deal with them. and u have to be a very secure woman bc they will try you just to see if u care nothan personal u have to be just as distant as them. I use reverse psycology on mine through out the relationship and now hes beggn to marry me!!! lol always stay 2 steps ahead and at the same time always be different then what hes use to I KISS NO ***.. and it keeps him at my feet GOOD LUCK CAPRICORN- woman

hmmm well with my experience with aqua men you can't put to much thought into it..go with the flow..give him a little but then retract..make him chace you..be his friend and easy going when you see him..don't be to demanding..or look to much into what he says or does...it usually takes them a while to admit to themsleves that they like someone..just my experience...dated one for 5 years and it took 3 years to get him to date me...he played like he wasn't interested in me..at first i chased him them i gave up and once i acted like i didn't care anymore he chased me like nobodys business....and he was the most amazing boyfriend i ever had...loyal..kind..caring...they are hard to get but worth the wait

true!!!!!

hmmm well with my experience with aqua men you can't put to much thought into it..go with the flow..give him a little but then retract..make him chace you..be his friend and easy going when you see him..don't be to demanding..or look to much into what he says or does...it usually takes them a while to admit to themsleves that they like someone..just my experience...dated one for 5 years and it took 3 years to get him to date me...he played like he wasn't interested in me..at first i chased him them i gave up and once i acted like i didn't care anymore he chased me like nobodys business....and he was the most amazing boyfriend i ever had...loyal..kind..caring...they are hard to get but worth the wait

hi gzink52 may i know your bf's birthday? :)

I have been with my partner 16 years ...<br />
I am a Leo it is a cool relationship ,he's straight forward but does like his own way,not romantic ,but does make you see from a different perspective..rather shallow i'd say and rubbish at support ,he can do it all in his eyes ...which is lovely ,but sometimes you need to talk a situation through,but hes past that subject...u need to have your own life with an Aquarius ,they are fab ...if u want a true open ,supportive relationship of two people and not just one ..then this isn't for you ,but if u want unique ,logical,unconventional ,fun,unpreditability this is the one ...good luck.

hello Aquariun men,<br />
would appreiate some advice from youselves.<br />
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i just met this aquariun man. he's chasing me. <br />
i wasnt paying any attention to him at first...but decided to give him a chance and he's got my attention.<br />
we went a several dates- had fun.<br />
he's very straightforward. <br />
we ended up doing the deed only once. thereafter- i took a step back- because it was toon soon and i had regrets. as i really wanted to have friendship then if all good then progress into something more.<br />
we had a chat afterwards.- i asked him direct questions- he says he still likes me, he's not using me and would never hurt me.<br />
we still meet up and go out. but not planning to make another mistake to bed until more feelings develop.<br />
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have i spoiled things or are they capable or being restored.<br />
please advise.

Stay far away from them! They will not marry you, just play head games. When he disappears he is with other women. He lies and cheats. Not a faithful lover! He likes quickies with strangers, too! Not very healthy!.. He is not always so smart or an egghead! he can be quite stupid and naive! He is a the Fool!! Fooling you!

I like Aquarian men but I end up dumping them and they seem to hang on forever!<br />
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Pesky fellows who don't take no for answer and if they love flirting with disaster!<br />
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They cheat, they lie, they call you and tell you they love you after they have had a quickie with a stranger! Don't marry one if you want peace i mind. They can be boring even if they are eggheads(?)<br />
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Most of them are smart, yet naive about relationships. They are liars, big liars!<br />
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Tell him that you do not give your consent to analyze you, he is like an electron microscope!<br />
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He can be very wrong about you, too! Just dump this guy or just be friends. He is a real pain in the ***. If he pursues you first that does not mean anything he is also pursuing others at the same time that is why he disappears for days. <br />
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He will marry later in life to an older , much older woman. He needs a mother! Unconditional love types!<br />
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Move on you won't regret it, believe me. Find a loving and passionate Pisces, he's much cuter and smarter, too.