Should I ... Or Shouldn't I

So here is a lame one .... *sigh* ... trust me ... you'll get bored very soon. Same ol thing you always hear. So ... on with it. One of my best friends has confessed his "un-dying love" for me. Hahahaha .... okay not really. But ... he said he has liked me for a really long time and wants to be with me. I've known him for 10 years. I consider him one of my best friends and he is always there when I need him. More realistically ... he never leaves my damn house unless I am sleeping so he is ALWAYS around. Most annoying. And I feel partially to blame because there was a night when I was drunk and I made out with him. AND I DON'T REMEMBER IT!! Honest!!! So I feel that that one incident made him think I had an interest in him. Well ... he is my friend of course I have an interest in him, but not so much of a interest to be WITH him. I mean ... sometimes I think about it and maybe it wouldn't be all that bad. But most the time I think about it and I just feel disgusted. Not in a mean way. We had this on-going thing throughout the years when we would tell people we were brother and sister (because we are so close) and actually convinced a lot of people into believing it. And trust me, if you saw us you would think it impossible for us to even be related. But you know how the world is these days, anything is possible. Anyways, back to the topic, I'm just really frustrated. I mean I've been single for about five months now and I don't want to be in a relationship at the moment and he knows this but he is pushing. And I have asked him numerous times to just stop it but he still does. (maybe that is why I am getting frustrated) He is a good guy, he is caring, makes me laugh (sometimes), he is responsible, yada yada yada. But he never stops talking!!! And sometimes he is just really really annoying. UGH!! I'm getting frustrated again. How do I just tell him NO! and without hurting his feelings .... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Maybe I should just tell him I have no interest in guys anymore =) Oh that is just mean. I love guys! Just not this one ... not in the relationship kinda way, but in the brotherly sisterly kinda way.
LosingIt LosingIt
22-25, F
5 Responses Mar 29, 2007

tell him frankly ..

Don;t get physical with him just because he is there all the time. If you like him at all as a friend you have to just sit him down and tell him straight. Otherwise you will hurt him worse later and the sex thing will just ruin a possibly long lasting and good friendship. We all need good friends that we don't have a bunch of history with that we would rather not have happened. Also if he does go psycho you don't want to be afraid that he will want to get too close and physical and scare you to death. He probably keeps thinking and hoping that you will come around but if you know that you won't just tell him now.

I agree with the other 2 comments. And bottom line is if this guy is as clingy as you say, he's gonna be hurt (even if it's just his pride), from a little or alot. But you can't let this be what holds you back from setting him straight and getting on with YOUR life!!

If your sure that you don't want to be with him in that way tell him you want to date around and that you want to just be his friend only. Maybe too give yourself some distance away from him so you can let him down easy. It sounds like he is around you 24/7 so maybe you should get out of the house and do things with other friends.

Here's an idea - spend some time apart from him. See how you feel after a while, and see if he goes psycho on you (hopefully not in a harmful way). maybe that will convince you one way or the other....