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I Came Out To My Friend And He Was So Negative...It Hurts...!!!

By: lostshadow1
Written on February 17th, 2013
Hi guys, yesterday i came out to my net friend. I don't know him personaly we always chat online. I told him that I think I'm trans. And he said " do you know what that means?? Its just your thinking. You have no idea what you talking about, where you got that creepy thought, who put it into your mind" bla...bla...bla...He was so negative. Then i told him its not a one day thought, no one can tell me what I am, who i am, it just me... I feel that way seens I was kid.... Then we had longggg conversation... And he says "okkk now i got it"
he is not supportive but not even against of my transition. he think that its just a phase of my life and I'll change my mind. but I don't think so. I'm damn sure about my sexuality. I'm a guy. no one can change it not even I and ofcourse I don't want to change it. I'm happy of being trans......
By: lostshadow1
Age: 22-25 , Transgender
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    jayd6
    jayd6

    Glad he was acceptin in a way towards it. I like wut alex said bout how he could of reacted worse. Ya guys could of not been friends anymore. So, for him bein still your friend is a win in my book. Congrads :)

    Mar 1
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      lostshadow1
      lostshadow1

      I stop talking with him... he still thinking that its just phase and i'll change my desigion.. he always trying to discourage me... he still using female pronouns although i told him not to use it.. for him i'm still a girl... that's sucks.. i thought he will understand me but i was wrong.. he have to accept me as male otherwise our friendship will be over....

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      jayd6
      jayd6

      sorry to hear that. It was for the better then. Maybe over time he will understand and try to make contact with ya but stay strong, keep ya head up, and keep movin fwd on who you are.

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      lostshadow1

      he msging me everyday... but i don't wanna talk to him... i'm a guy and he have to accept that he have to give me a respect as guy untill then no talk... i don't care if i lose 1 good frnd just become he don't want to accept the truth...

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      jayd6
      jayd6

      tu-sha!

      Mar 2
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    alexdibs36
    alexdibs36

    If it sounds like he is neutral about it, thats somewhat good. He could have reacted worse. He might not be well educated on the topic, so I forsee that over time he will probably come to understand and accept who you are.

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    elmaria4i
    elmaria4i

    (sighs) It's the usual conservative reaction: "I've heard it's a bad thing, I know youth make mistakes, so it's a mistake or nonsense". It's good your pal didn't reject you, so the productive conversation may be set in future. For now only your calmness will show that you weren't fooling him.

    Feb 17
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      lostshadow1
      lostshadow1

      I think he accept that I'm trans but he still have hope that might be i'll change my decision...lol... sometimes its hard to make people belive that you are really a transguy and not fooling them :-D

      Feb 17
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      elmaria4i
      elmaria4i

      Yeah, that's a big challenge. As I said, people can't get inside of our heads and see how it feels and looks _for real_. Also, TG topics are rather complex, mostly painful (either for us or significant others). So others may choose to behave themselves like an ostrich: it's better to hide / to ignore, and the confusing theme will go away. Or - I don't know - your pal really sees this topic as a "bad influence" or "modern wave", whatever it is. Yikes!..
      So be ve-e-eery patient.

      Feb 17
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      lostshadow1

      yah i have to be patient...it just a starting of my journey. now i'll have to face my parents also... hope they won't kill me for that...lol

      Feb 17
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