Mira Mesa Welcomes You!

Today, on my way home from work, I saw something in front of the Mira Mesa Target that I have never seen before:

 





Equality California Volunteers





Although this community which I call home seems pretty much apathetic to most issues, gay marriage seemed to be a hot one for this community--many of the lawns near mine sported so many yellow and blue signs that for months after November, I couldn't look at that combination of yellow and blue without suppressing the desire to throw an egg at someone's door. So, it was a very nice surprise to see these two young men asking people if the support gay rights (those are their exact words).



While some said they were interested in volunteering, or already give money to ACLU or another organisation, many more feigned disinterest (some pretended to have forgotten how to speak English and reverted to Tagalog, while speaking English only a few feet before), and some just walked away. After a weekend of volunteering, I decided to forgo fencing and help these two out.



Without having found out their names, I spoke with them, and they signed me up to volunteer in the future (they didn't have another clipboard). I had suggested they use me for those people who forget English and revert to Tagalog when confronted with an issue they'd rather not talk about.



Yes, it was very encouraging to see these two in Mira Mesa today. Without knowing it, these two, more so than any of the large rallies I have attended, made me want to get out in my own community to help people understand that we're not perverts, deviants, or whatever else they may have been told in their churches.



Of course, this experience was also very sobering, and disappointing. For the half hour I stood with them, I heard the word NO spoken, and I saw it in the unspoken way of how one lady put her head down, pushed her cart faster, and walked away. One man looked at me as if I was going to molest his child--and this man isn't a middle-age father, but my age. He seemed to think I was going to molest his toddler.



Every time I am in Mira Mesa, I choose to walk, because the community isn't that big (surprisingly, from Target to the Edwards Theatre, it is the size of Hillcrest from 4th Avenue to Park Boulevard). I've always felt safe here, and people always say hi as I pass, or nod their head and smile. When these same people replied "No" to the question, "Do you support gay rights?" did they think that gays are people who do not live in their own community? That it's not the guy who gives their children Halloween candy, or buys their daughters' Girl Scout cookies, or their from their son's football fundraiser? Or, the person they thanked when I brought them food in the high school gym when we were all evacuated during the last two wildfires?



Guys, how do you keep your skin so thick that their NO does not make you want to scream?



I remember one of the faces, however. It was one of these men who broken down on the side of the road once with his wife and two children. I remember no one had stopped to help him--and that I pulled over, and volunteered to drive them where they needed to go. We drove his wife and children to their house on Capricorn Drive, and then returned to the old diesel Mercedes on Calle Cristobal. Then we put the thing in neutral and I pushed. I pushed his car until it was out of the way, and safely into a parking lot.



Such a small act of kindness. He must not remember.

bals081 bals081
26-30, M
3 Responses May 7, 2010

HELLO, I AM NOT GAY, AND I HAVE BEEN PUT DOWN ALMOST EVERYDAY OF MY LIFE,PEOPLE THAT ARE GAY ARE THE GREATEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD, THEY ARE THE ONLY PEOPLE THAT HAS ALWAYS TREATED ME GOOD, MY DEAREST FRIEND IS GAY, BUT HE MOVED FAR AWAY, I MISS HIM SO MUCH,IT JUST BREAKS MY HEART, I'm the last of the food shain) I WAS LEFT WITH MY GRANDCHILDREN AND I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR HELP FOR FOOD AND CLOTHE AND I ALWAYS GET THE BAD END OF THE STICK PEOPLE ALWAYS LOOK DOWN AT ME, I HAVE TO DO WHAT I CAN AND PEOPLE JUST DO NOT HAVE HEARTS ANYMORE, I HAVE TRIED EVERTHING AND ALWAYS HIT A DEAD END, BUT LOOK I LOVE YOU ALL, PEOPLE ARE NOT LIVING FOR YOU YOU ARE LIVING FOR YOURSELF, ONE DAY SOMEONE WILL HELP ME AND MY GRAND KIDS.

You are gay am narcissist

Sadly it is who and what you are that matters most these days. Being familiar with the region I know how some people just ""gloss over" items. That gentleman does remember... he is just unwilling to admit to himself that it was a "different" type of person who helped him. He is so wrapped up in his own little secure world that he just can't bring himself to believe in or just accept others for who they are. Sometimes its bigotry and other times its just stupidity. Wonder how he would feel if the only Doctor who could save his childs life is gay or of fifferent life style? HhhMMM.....might he opened his eyes or is it as he claims to be blind (and therefore refuses to see?)