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Nothing Wrong With It

I'm homosexual.  I've been in a relationship with the same man for 11 years.  I don't see being gay as anything wrong...it's just the way I was born. 

Although I have some family members who can't deal with me being gay, that's their problem.  Me being gay is just way it is...like my blue eyes or being right handed. 

I do dislike how religion causes so many people to be prejudiced and hateful but there's nothing really that I can do about it.  I just live my life with honor and hope that people see that being gay is no big deal.  It's part of who I am but not all I am about.

life101 life101 41-45, M 35 Responses Nov 3, 2007

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I totally agree with you. I'm gay and don't see anything wrong with it. Like you said, it's just the way I turned out. Since I can't do anything about it, why feel guilty over the fact? And now, being gay is such a part of what makes me the guy that I am that I wouldn't change even if I could. Besides, there is something to say about not being part of the herd so to speak. I'm gay and proud!

Gays, not-gays, recently scientist have discovered the "warrior gene" that most of the very violent person have. Does that make violence less bad? If they would discover "animal gene" that makes humans fall in love with animals, even tho it is love, would that make a relationship between a human and an animal less of an abomination? The fact is that "your heart must not **** your brain". So, you must judge and make decisions based on what is right not on what you feel. I am sorry for you because you did not fought it -you did not have a reason to fight it. Being gay is wrong, but being a true friend with a human of the same sex and love him "as your own brother" (which many confuse to "as your lover") is a wonderful thing!
What is wrong with you gay people, the only thing that is wrong with you and that makes you look so ugly to society is the fact that you make sex with the same gender. That's the only thing. Why chose sex above fraternity/friendship? I know that you think that through sex you can express your love at it's peek. But that is wrong, you must learn how to express yourself by understanding the flame of friendship. Friendship is more than going to the bar with a friend. friendship is understanding, brotherly love, courage, support, sacrificing your self for others, respect, adventure, the possibility of being yourself without being judged. May God bless you my brothers and may He help you repent and may He give you much more happiness that you could ever imagine! Amen.

Your sexuality is not something one can simply turn off at will. Can you stop being attracted to women? It's the same for us. We can't stop being attracted to men. Nor did I choose to be gay, it's just the way I turned out, so why feel gulity about something I had no control over. It's like feeling gulity because your eyes happened to be blue. The love between two human beings can be a wonderful thing whether it's of the same sex or not.

Love is a wonderful thing indeed. But there must be conditioned love! If you fall in love with a bridge/doll/dog/human of the same sex, YOU MUST STOP!

What do you mean by "conditioned love"? And the fact that you group together falling in love with a human being with falling in love with a bridge/doll/dog, seems totally ludicrous.

It is all sexual immorality.

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Being gay is not a life choice...you are born that way. People who do not understand how two guys can shath mutual and physical love are biggots. I have been lucky and have found my soul mate..26 years together. A lot longer together than some of my straight mates

I agree the haters in this country often hide behind religion as the reason to dislike or despise something they do not understand

This is my belief (I sent this to another gay):

Why homosexuality is wrong:

Man, between two humans of the same sex should be only brother love. There should be no sex/making love. I heard a question on youtube: "If two gay brothers would be together would you agree with it?" Do you know which were the answers? "Yes! I would agree!". That's how much we have fallen. Let me give you another examples. In every movie/anime/cartoon/book, when two people of the same sex become best friends, people expect them to become gay. Why? Because they learned from the *********** over the internet that there is no other way of expressing your love at it's maximum potential, except for "making love". Being gay is wrong man, it is very wrong. Why couldn't you become a true friends with that guy? Why couldn't you simple, control yourself, be strong and look at him not as another human, but as a child-a brother of yours? Why, man, why? It was fully your decision to see him as a possible partner in the first place. You should have looked at him as to a friend. Why have you chosen this path? Where is your pure love? There was absolutely no need for you to find love at that age. Love comes only when you are prepared for it. It is obvious that love did not come when you were with girls, because at that time, you had personal issues, so you were not ready. You hasted in love, and failed. Then you found this man whom ... I don't know. Maybe he accepted you as you were because he was looking for love too. So he wanted to be loved so much that he chose you as a final escape from his sadness. Man, I am saying that you have done some bad decisions. It is not your fault. None tough you those things. And encouraging others to become gay... You did not understood the true reason why you have become gay. I am sorry for you. I am so very sorry.

I certainly hope you're being a troll right now because your points are comically extreme and stereotypical. I think you should probably open your mind before you let your stupid-*** fingers pound away at your keyboard. You fail to cite WHY members of the same gender should not be together other than that you buy into that brotherhood ****. I have bros. I also have gay friends who I also see as bros (and don't hook up with, fyi). I am waiting for a boyfriend and for pure love, whatever that may be. I'd say "encouraging" someone to forage their own way through life, regardless of your own beliefs, is the best, least selfish way to act. I hope that someday you will feel confident enough in the significance of your life to cease to condescend others and their lives. As for @life101 , congrats on coming to grips with who you are and I hope you live a long, satisfying life of complete and total fabulosity.

the gay haters are upset because we have more sex in a month then they do ALL LIFE!!<br />
just ignore them

I am so happy to see that the gay haters are ignorant and illiterate. I feared someone may take them serious. Now I feel much better. Grazie Mille "novenafriends", you are a prime example of the prejudice and ignorance much easier to describe when you demonstrate the extravagance of your stupidity so eloquently! <br />
I especialy love the part where you think you can see the world through the eyes of Jesus, an infinite God. My favorite of all. BTW, the same God we know says you are a sinner too, no? Is our sin greater than your sins? My bible has no spread sheet which assigns the levels and degrees of human sin. Perhaps we all learn at the gate that gluttony is a far greater sin than lies or adultery. Or maybe the judgement of others which is a task reserved for God only is punishable with far more seriousness than the crime of murder and we learn that homosexuality is not a sin at all but ignorance is. If this is true, you are in trouble because your eagerness to judge others or arrogantly express that you know Gods mind is a sin of all sins if my bible is at all accurate. <br />
You propose that this man's LOVE of another man is more a crime in God's eyes than your own self-destructive gluttony and diabetes which is destroying what God so lovingly gave you? This kind of idiocy is why God created Hell. Oh, God just told me to tell you to shut the **** up and read his book more.

hey there friends!! i'm a bi-male i.e. a person who likes to have fun with both men and women,,,<br />
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for fun find me on skype using arya.gupta.503

You have a split personality, meh?

Number one do not add fat, skinny, ugly, beautiful with moral choices such as homosexuality. You can not control how you look but you can control a dissorder such as homosexuality. Number two think of a person in a hospital with IV in their arms and all bandaged up. A homosexual has all kinds of wounds and sores. Some of them are inflicted by bad people manipulating them thinking shameful things are okay. Sometimes we have stolen which is a sore. Some of those stealers realize it is just wrong and stop and others just keep going and finally can't stop. Look at the world from Jesus's eyes. He has given us the power to follow the ten commandments with prayer. Ask Jesus for help or the light. Eternity of flame in one spot is unfforgivable. We all have to fight with Jesus to change to a better place. People are imperfect look at perfection which is the Blessed Virgin Mary and Jesus Christ. Then we will all see each other. Praise be Jesus Christ forever.

Ok people can please stooping fighting! God made us for who we are today. <br />
Black, whit, fat, skinny, straight, gay, or bio. God made us for who we all are today and some people are agasint gays because of God ( no offends) but people are for they are today God loves his childeren no matter so if people gay or bio God still loves you. :)

Then, Gay people should try more to save their soul by making lots of good deeds. If they will just be gay, and live selfish, nothing good can come out of this. Heaven is a hard place to reach for a straight man, and almost impossible for a gay man for that he mistakes so much in front of God. So, if you are Gay, you should try with all of your heart and soul to deserve heavens by making lots of good deeds, more than any good straight man!

Yea but have you read the Bible??? Cause it says God loves his kids, and it says that others should not have the same sex with the same gender. But I think to my opion its 50 percent of gays go to heaven and ones that do are kind and helpful, and the ones that are mean and rude go to hell. But God loves his childeren straight, bio, or gay. God will always love his children. :)

I like your point of view, Newguy3214.

Thanks person :)

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listen up all. We are all going to see our creator when we die. All off us. Hate in Hell or love in heaven where there is no pain. We all have to repent, Repent, Repent. We will see Jesus there is no doubt about it. For those reading all of these ex<x>pressions ignore those who have chosen not to be with God. God is here to assist and help us. He will, He knows our miseries. Just ask him if anything, just one thing. Lord if you are here guide me to what is really true. Do not decieve yourself from eternity. Religions cause wars because it is not about property. It is about your SOUL. Jesus have mercy on all of us here.

A man is a man. God loves us. We should listen to Him and fight with our weaknesses. Being homosexual is a choice. You must fight with this. i fought, I prayed to god to help me and now I am straight.<br />
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May God bless you and show you the way, but if you will disobey and keep going like this, then please go and help the poor, feed them, take care of the little beggars, buy them some food. And start helping humans because you must do lots of good deeds in order to reach with a finger heavens. Start helping the ones around you and take your lover with you. Help humans together and I pray that God will forgive you for your sin.

Natural is only what makes a sense in the cycle of life. It is not natural for animals to be homosexuals, it is unnatural!<br />
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Homosexualism is bad because it has no sense from the natural point of view.

Wow, such an interesting debate. So there is an issue that has not been discussed yet. Homosexualism is an innate thing. It is seen in the animal world as well. Yes, it goes against the norm where two opposing sexes copulate to reproduce, however it is not un natural since again, it is found in the animal world as well. It is correct that we are animals. Some of us refuse to think we could possibly be animals so any animal-like behavior is shunned. We cannot urinate or deficate in public, we cannot be nude. We are encouraged to shave certain areas that are exposed, cut our hair to specific cultural norms, and many other animal like tendencies have been regulated through laws. All of this to keep us far from the Animal world. Of course the other main idea that is completely human is religion. Every culture beleives in some higher power and, I feel that there is something out there that science cannot explain. We do need to understand that religion has been created by man. Not the higher power, but the way it is worshiped. We created many of the laws, interpretted the words, twisted original meanings and through in our biases, feel we can speak for god and everything he wants. If yo read the bible, you will see it is loaded with passeges that negate other passeges. The Old Testament and the New Testament often times tell opposite instructions on how to live your life. Are they wrong? Perhaps not but it is hard to say everything is right. Paul was very sexually repressed or damaged for him to dictated what he felt was morally right. The Romans and the Greeks, societies we as Americans hold high as true ideas of CIVILIZATION both practiced homosexuality as the norm. We are such a sexually charged society that is also still so victorianly oppressed. We need to open up and chill out. We need to understand that a sin should be something that is done that hurts someone. If two people of legal age want to have sex, WHO CARES WHAT GENDER THEY ARE?? If they want to love each other, commit to each other and raise a family, WHO CARES. The life style IS a choice. So some seem to believe others who live the lifestyle are sinning, yet if you were born to love another gender other than the one society thinks you should love, is it yet a sin to try to fit in and attempt to love someone you cannot??? We need to start thinking with reason, not using ancient conflicting babble written down hundreds of years after events happened and translated and retranslated and then we proclaim it the Word of God.<br />
Peace.

Best reply! Well said and so true! Even though gay i still believe in a higher power and he knows our past present and future. So he knows from the start which orientation you Would end up in life. Something to analyze.

I believe God created us, black, yellow white, straight, bi, gay

Then we would be robots. But we aren't robots, so we must decide by our-self what to become!

You chose your path in life mate, but you can change it. Why should you change it when all looks good for you? This is a good question. Well, we can live as we want and have little happiness in our lives, but if we live as God wants, then we will be happy for an eternity. So, if you love God, do what God says, my brother and become a new man. May God bless you and give you lots of happy moments in your life!

If there is nothing wrong with being gay then go in public.

Pervert: the Definition of a Pervert is to invert or to turn the truth around. Mostly a pervert turns a truth around to keep something hidden from others. While perverts keep their eyes and thoughts on driving or trying to drive a point to real people about sexuality. They dont realize that people know they hide in deep secrets that they would not even say to anyone. This is something that normal people don't have these seedy dark secrets in their minds. No normal person ever takes a homesexuals point seriously or will they ever because they know deep down they live lies. Now, for those of you with choosing a life of sin away from God. One day you will see Him face to face. Deal with your lies your sin now and repent and see a catholic priest and get anger management. I am telling all of us we all can not bear the torment to come. Pray repent. This is your soul. It is not a game. Every moment is a test. Do you want to be with the devils and tortured or with a God of love. Living and knowing people for what they think and not a sexual organ. If you are in this darknes ask god to spare your soul in His mercy.

Religion exists because there is a eternal war on for our souls. Why should there be no war since it is about eternity. Religion is the reason why we have saints and angels that "give peace to men of good will" To the wicked every day becomes more and more as a curse. For those who de-mean religion why does Jesus let them have a choice currently is because they are like dogs with no reason. They will be smashed with a single blow from God and all they have in eternity was a faint idea of what freedom was. For those in hell the wicked freedom means theIy went to the park on their choice. And in hell where you land you are tortured in one spot for all eternity. Do not judge all priests by the judases that are in hell. Unlike sodomites they help orpans, help the needy , give sacraments to humanity that is the doorway to salvation. They will be rewarded in the next life. Look at gays what charity do they give. Make a breakfast for another pervert for the latest abomidable act. Look at gays they **** on each other deficate on each other group sex with other diseased men. Where do you see gays triying to stop or prevent a woman from murdering a baby by abortion. They don't care they only want another perverted act.<br />
mboll35 There is a God. You will see him soon or lucifer will have his fork up your rear. You lie to yourself. Anyone around you that is normal will tell you that THER IS A GOD! Perverts need to believe there is no god so they can continue in shame, they have become an animal with no conscience.

Quite harsh, but you are right.

We are humans. We have morality and religion gives us more clues about how a human should act. Kill religion, cut the morality from your mind saying "Normal=what doesn't hurt me", and voila: you are a homosexual. <br />
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God may help you!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgendered!<br />
Just as there is nothing wrong in being a certain religion, or not religious at all. <br />
It's sad how so many people are still so close minded and ignorant . <br />
I hate to go down this road but the can has been opened.... There is no GOD !<br />
We are animals is very big way. We are not special because were "Human" and were not quite as "civilized" as most folks like to think. People need to believe in a "god" so they feel safe and secure.<br />
They go along with and eventually believe in laws that restrict human rights. They still discriminate and use stereotypes for a laugh because they can't even be honest enough with themselves and their own feelings to admit that they themselves have been aroused at the sight of someone of the same sex at some point. <br />
So... **** OFF all you close minded brainwashed fools. Worship your god and obey your government so you can feel as though someone is looking after you.

richcross people are gay because they pass a zone in their mind that tells them not to, Jesus has shed his blood for sinners. This is why I pray for wicked sinners. Wicked sinners do not even realize the eternal flame they are getting closer to. It is because of God I pray. It is because of God I hope you see the truth richcross. If it was my love rich I would send you before the first act. But as God said eyes have not seen so I know I do not see the big picture. Happiness if only found the the creator who made you and lent you a physical body. One day an accounting will be made. I think instead of richcross you sould have confused and confusing others cross. confusedcross. Or I don't really know yet cross. or maybe heading for damnationcross because I don't care about the Ten Commandments cross. Actually rich you should not even use the name cross because the holiness and richness of the true cross is nothing compared to any cross you could have.

First of all no one is "normal", second of all let God decide, not you.

First of all many are normal, second of all God decided already when he written the scriptures through saints!

Saints that were males.....they found books that were left out of the bible because they were females so don't tell me that all the words of God has been told

During history lots of Saints were females. Jesus disciples were males, and they had be chosen. It' simple as that.

Do we really want to listen to the followers of religion. The reality is that Priests abuse little boys and yet, they are forgiven by the Holy Pope. Really??? It does not matter whom an individual chooses to be with or how they live there life so long as individuals are happy and content.

every tree has it's bad fruits! That doesn't mean all of the fruits (priests) are bad! They are here to help humans know the path. If they will sin and make abominations they will go to hell for an ETERNITY! Do you know how long that is?

Well if you look into the animal world giraffes and dophlin and quite a few others have homosexual relations ......

we are humans, mate. H-u-m-a-n-s not animals!

No, we are animals. Unless you happen to be a plant, or maybe a rock.

If there is no God or nothing wrong with gay why do people who are gay keep trying to convince normal people it is normal. Ah is that because they know they are not normal.

Normal, how?

By the way for everyone Jesus casted out demons that enter people who do evil things. No real church will ever tolerate these acts unless of course these so called churches are evil in themselves.

Keep trying to convince yourself and others there is nothing wrong with it. At Judgement day you will hear depart from me into the everlasting hells and dissobedient angels. God created man for the heavens. The sc<x>ripture say's that eye has not seen, ear has not heard the good things awaiting those who hope in the Lord Jesus. Remember one soul and and all eternity. this life is a test if your wicked or Good. Only misery will follow you and all into these abominal acts. Shamefull acts. How do you look at yourself in the morning knowing that you do not hounour humanity. Repent

how do you honor humanity then....????

By making good , helping others and loving God!

And by listening to God's 10 commandments!

May you please list them here?

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When I'll see two young boys with normal parents falling in love one with another , only then I'll believe homosexuals born this way. Until then, they are my lonely, sinner brothers.<br />
God bless you!

When I was young I think I was in love with another boy, and we both had normal parents. But because we were not raised in a society that dealt with these things openly, we didn't know what any of those feelings meant, nor could we explore them without fear of being ostracized and treated as freaks. So as long as there are people like you, there will be people who are afraid to express their love.