I have been married for going on 17 years, we have three children boy(16), girl(11), girl(6). My wife had an affair that started around 18 Jun 2006, when I found out about it, she kept doing it right under my nose. Finally after giving up I filed for divorce on July 5, 2007. Her dad hired her an attorney and it sits in divorce limbo since July, so far I find the entire divorce process to be a joke at best all though it's on par with anything else the government is involved in. The court ordered us to mediation which we did, we agreed on everything and yet it still sits waiting on trial 6 Feb, 2008. I am not sure who is holding it up, her attorney or her. In some ways I think she is lying to me about doing joint custody and only says that so I will leave her alone. I think we are in some serious need of marriage reform in the US, I now think there should be a cooling off period of at least 2 years before you can get married. I love our kids very much, my girls mean the world to me I dont know why but my girls are special to me, I also love our son very much. I am so tired of this, tired of drinking to forget!