I Am So Lost...

lets see today i've not had supper...... i need a girl to take care of me....i'm sure you've had something... oh and she may even be warming your bed tonight.... i don't remember the last time i had a woman in my bed..... my bedroom looks a mess and tomorrow is monday.... shouldn't i be in bed right now? tommorrow is monday.......its.....0129.... oh heaven today is going to be hell!!!!!

My opinion, I have spent most of my life doing what others wanted me to do because I didn't want to upset or hurt them. You only hurt yourself and become very misserable. You cannot please everyone, but you do need to figure things out for yourself. Who you are, what you really want, why do you want it and so forth. I am in the process of getting a divorce, becomes final January 4th. I have not felt love from this man in quite some time and we were married for 20 years. For the past 2 months I have been working on my issues and doing what I enjoy doing. Everyone wants happiness, but you also have to remember that life is not a fairytale. Any relationship takes work from both parties involved. At the begging of every relationship is bliss, sometimes when that wears off you are left with the work of the relationship. Some people only want to feel the bliss, infatuation part of the relationship, not the work of a real relationship.



If you are going to get a divorce from your wife then do it not for the other woman, but for your happiness and well being. Feeling lonely and depressed is not good for your health, you can literally make yourself sick. I would not however go searching to have a relationship with anyone until you have figured you out and worked through your issues. If you continue down the road of wanting to just jump into another relationship you might find other issues arise as the relationship continues. I recommend dealing with everything now, then after the divorce and issues are worked through, if the woman still wants a relationship with you persue it.



Just remember you cannot please everyone and only you can make you happy don't look to be completed by someone else.

dude be fair please.... really what are your reasons for wanting to leave her? oh she cares for me too much. give me your wife and i'll be happy. a good woman a greater and better job so that you can be witha married woman. has she even told her husband about you?

I think you need to make a decision and stick to it. Sounds like you go wherever the wind takes you. You are causing yourself and others pain by your lack of resolve. I agree with the above comment. Spend some time alone and discover who you are and what you want for your life. Do some personal growth work. I did that after my marriage ended and it made a huge difference. If you really are just trying to make others happy (which I doubt you are), I don't think your actions are aligned with that objective. You are causing others long term pain by your actions. Your wife will thank you later. No one ultimately wants to be with someone who doesn't love them.

I do not think you are a bad guy. In fact, it sounds like your wife is a horrible person for refusing to share intimacy with you and making you suffer loneliness.



Dump your dishonest unloving wife and go 100% for the other woman who loves you.

Maybe you need to just seperate from everyone and figure out who you are and what you want. Don't go from one woman to another, that just complicates things, be alone for a little while and figure things out. Your wife sounds like she'd be ok without you and you already left the other woman so don't stir that up again. Stay where you are and figure out what is best for you. It's ok to be selfish. Everyone deserves to be happy. And once your head is clear and you decide what you want, pursue it and don't look back.

i feel it is your nature to interpret everything as your fault and take responsibility and live according to others' wishes that is the root of all problems. You should first have a long look at yourself and analyse your true purpose of life. You need to shatter your sense of poor self worth, then others will treat you better. You will be able to demonstrate your needs better, and your wife will acknowledge them, if she has enough human ness in her.

Good luck to you